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by ertyu
Sun Jun 27, 2021 10:08 am
Forum: Housing Questions
Topic: Learn to be easy to live with?
Replies: 28
Views: 2731

Re: Learn to be easy to live with?

I don’t know how to figure out what experiences I need to affirm. The answer is literally, the ones they tell you about. In its most basic form, this looks like so: Dude A: rant about some dumb shit his boss did. Dude B: wow what an asswipe Dude A: there was a shitton of traffic on X road this morn...
by ertyu
Fri Jun 25, 2021 3:07 am
Forum: Politics, and other eternal disagreements
Topic: Is ERE more a thing for men?
Replies: 11
Views: 1212

Re: Is ERE more a thing for men?

I have a radical suggestion for you, stop thinking about men and women and start thinking about people
by ertyu
Wed Jun 23, 2021 3:56 pm
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: "War of Art"
Replies: 4
Views: 422

Re: "War of Art"

I'm just finishing reading "War of Art", by Steven Pressfield. I'd be glad to hear what others who have read it think about it. To me, the message contained is so negative that the book is basically an argument AGAINST pursuing art, or anything ambitious for that matter. The author's stru...
by ertyu
Wed Jun 23, 2021 9:23 am
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: Life without a washing machine...
Replies: 61
Views: 16154

Re: Life without a washing machine...

sheets are fine without a washing machine. a duvet might be too much, though. but i'm thinking, i'd much rather go to the laundromat for my duvet and my winter jacket once a year than get a washing machine.
by ertyu
Mon Jun 21, 2021 6:10 am
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: What I Spend
Replies: 448
Views: 99582

Re: What I Spend

have a good one!
by ertyu
Mon Jun 21, 2021 6:07 am
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: Life without a cellphone
Replies: 23
Views: 1441

Re: Life without a cellphone

IlliniDave wrote:
Mon Jun 21, 2021 5:59 am
So I miss a lot of the look-at-screen camaraderie. ;)
you can ask your friends who are poking on their phones to show you any interesting memes they find. this way, they can poke for something they think is fun, get to share it with you, and you get to feel included.
by ertyu
Mon Jun 21, 2021 6:05 am
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: The Education of Axel Heyst
Replies: 892
Views: 115364

Re: The Education of Axel Heyst

The other person not planning and always getting to see how they feel is just a shit end of the stick, imo. It's not their fault, it's your fault, you're just not giving yourself the space to be an emotional being and usually you're not giving the other person credit for what they can do. By allowi...
by ertyu
Sat Jun 19, 2021 3:30 am
Forum: Work & Education
Topic: How will you evaluate this job offer
Replies: 29
Views: 2283

Re: How will you evaluate this job offer

I strongly suspect these people would end up losing their jobs anyways. It's not you who causes people to be fired. It's the corporation. If they don't replace them with you, they'll replace them with someone else. There's no room for humanity when it comes to corporate structures.
by ertyu
Fri Jun 18, 2021 12:49 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Error's never ending errings
Replies: 13
Views: 958

Re: Error's never ending errings

Developing the skill to deal with the "I don't wanna" is one of the crucial tasks in life. The other crucial task is, "I want to do this bullshit thing/substance very much, and I need to let go of this urge/craving." Being able to deal, inside yourself, with the suck of craving a...
by ertyu
Fri Jun 18, 2021 6:32 am
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: The Education of Axel Heyst
Replies: 892
Views: 115364

Re: The Education of Axel Heyst

AxelHeyst wrote:
Thu Jun 17, 2021 12:45 pm
let’s solve this RIGHT MEOW.
i need this on a t-shirt
by ertyu
Fri Jun 18, 2021 6:12 am
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Just Gravy
Replies: 162
Views: 20463

Re: Just Gravy

All day and night, I am submerged in a deep pool of guilt, and any small incident concerning the children (e.g., DS2 gets a fever or DD3 seems anxious) provokes a tidal wave of guilt that completely engulfs and drowns me. I endure fantasies of crawling back to my ex, begging forgiveness, swearing e...
by ertyu
Wed Jun 16, 2021 10:33 am
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: The Education of Axel Heyst
Replies: 892
Views: 115364

Re: The Education of Axel Heyst

We never have emotion-free reasoning. In one of Oliver Sachs' books (neurologist who works with weird cases and writes about how people get when certain areas of their brain are damaged), there is a guy whose whatever-region was toast for one reason or another and so his emotions went offline. He wa...
by ertyu
Sat Jun 12, 2021 10:23 am
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: M2aS’ Journal
Replies: 43
Views: 3948

Re: M2aS’ Journal

"significant issues" is putting it mildly. transgender kids are one of the teen demographics with highest risk of death by suicide. stay strong and keep doing what you're doing :muscle:
by ertyu
Fri Jun 11, 2021 12:36 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: AE's Journal Round 5 - Finding Freedom To
Replies: 40
Views: 3517

Re: AE's Journal Round 5 - Finding Freedom To

Not an intj, so i don't know: would it help to think about how your chosen clothing and presentation style can be instrumental, or do you think that would compound the issue in that you'd rather be moving away from solely instrumental thinking as such? Also, I know what you mean by slug style is sti...
by ertyu
Fri Jun 11, 2021 8:02 am
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: M2aS’ Journal
Replies: 43
Views: 3948

Re: M2aS’ Journal

What's most important is that you are in her corner. Being able to come home to a place where she can be safe and affirmed will make a big difference. It's heartwarming to see that for every transphobic £%$£&^%7 who thinks "decisions" like that better be avoided there are also kind and...
by ertyu
Fri Jun 11, 2021 12:44 am
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Suomalaisen Päiväkirja
Replies: 586
Views: 122139

Re: Suomalaisen Päiväkirja

Strength and peace to your daughter. May she come out of this process whole and happy. You being a flexible, supportive, and understanding parent helps more than you think; just ask those who aren't supported and accepted. All the best for you all.
by ertyu
Fri Jun 11, 2021 12:38 am
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: A Jacob Mention
Replies: 136
Views: 9259

Re: A Jacob Mention

Das Kapital is also a critique of capitalism. Despite being such a boogeyman for most Americans, "communism" and "socialism" have never actually been properly defined (which is what makes them such good boogeyman/propaganda terms, but I digress). The Soviets themselves didn't kno...
by ertyu
Thu Jun 10, 2021 1:52 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: AE's Journal Round 5 - Finding Freedom To
Replies: 40
Views: 3517

Re: AE's Journal Round 5 - Finding Freedom To

@ertyu - That's good advice. I'll give some of those things a try. This issue always trips me up because worrying about individual aesthetic/identity always feels very neoliberal/postmodern/trapped in this particular milieu. Because these things "don't really exist" and weren't luxuries m...
by ertyu
Thu Jun 10, 2021 1:38 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: The Making of a Renaissance Hobo
Replies: 73
Views: 7072

Re: The Making of a Renaissance Hobo

Imo one of the biggest misconceptions americans have is that self-employment and starting your own business is capitalism. It can be, but only if you exploit people -- where for "exploit" we take the actual definition of the term, to pay them less than the value of what they produced for y...
by ertyu
Thu Jun 10, 2021 1:04 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: AE's Journal Round 5 - Finding Freedom To
Replies: 40
Views: 3517

Re: AE's Journal Round 5 - Finding Freedom To

The clothing one is an excellent one to work on because it's a concrete thing. As in, you can make very concrete tasks around it: 1. Choose a set of shoes 2. Wear just shoes somewhere low stakes, then increase the stakes. 3. Plan a coordinated outfit in new style and similarly plan outings or grocer...