You are welcome. I should admit that part of me is thinking "Yes, do as I said above, not as I sometimes still do myself."-lol. Whatever wisdom I am conveying is the result of a several years long dialogue/debate I participated in on an internet forum that was just as intellectual as this one but concerned primarily with relationship issues rather than economic issues. I was stuck in a long-term miserable because sex-dead?incompatible marriage at the time and my primary debate opponent was a man about 10 years younger than me who became a very successful player after his brief early marriage failed meteorically because his wife committed adultery and left him for an older more successful man. I would say my dysfunctional irrational subconscious philosophy/practice at the time was something along the lines of "My husband should want to have sex with me because I am a good wife who prepares delicious dinners every night for less than $1 a serving." The rational fact is that although there are many men, my current SO and my father being prime examples, who would very much appreciate the kind of functioning that provides thrifty, delicious meals as part of the whole relationship package, there are pretty much zero men who are directly sexually turned on by this behavior. The fact is that although sex, hopefully, does becomes more layered, deep, fulfilling within the context of a long-term loving relationship, what will turn somebody on sexually in-the-moment never changes. What turns most women on in-the-moment is some kind of confident/dominant signaling (inclusive of but definitely not limited to appearance/display of physical fitness/strength.) What makes most women willing to give in to the urge is some kind of behavior that engages trust or sympathy(backhanded way of engaging trust-do not recommend-will likely result in eventual severe angry reaction when she realizes you were playing her that way.) However, it is also the case, that some women, sometimes, will respond to confident-obnoxious-submissive behavior. For instance, the Spike Lee character who begs "Please, baby, baby, baby...please." over and over again. Actually. that isn't even true because that character was exhibiting dominant physical signaling while exhibiting submissive verbal signaling. Highly unlikely that many women are going to respond if, for instance, you roll over and expose your belly while saying "Please, baby, baby, baby...please." but a fairly high proportion of the male population pretty much can't not respond if a reasonably physically attractive female exhibits that kind of behavior (kind of like that scene in classic sci-fi movies where the computer is fed programming that causes it to explode or something like that.)iceet said: 7Wannabe5 thank you again for the advice. I feel like that post itself is worth a few years in the dating game in terms of the knowledge it contains.
Anyways, the point I would make here being that money is just sort of like an accessory or costume when it comes to sexual and/or romantic signalling. Gold credit cards have not been in existence long enough to have informed the human genetic code. It's the manner in which a man uses OR chooses not to use a gold credit card that will inform a response of "respect" (desire/want)or "trust" (heart-felt willingness) in a woman beyond the level on which she maybe is prostituting herself in order to buy bread for her children or baubles of status etc. and what will seem "respect-able" or "trust-worthy" to one woman vs. another will somewhat vary due to her own temperament/culture/experience. For instance, one woman might respect a man who is willing to risk it all on a bold entrepreneurial venture and be excited while another woman might find that kind of behavior absolutely not trust-worthy and be filled with anxiety and vice-versa when it comes to err-on-the-side-of-conservative financial functioning. Since ERE behavior is sort of an unconventional mix of risky and conservative financial functioning, I think it will come down to personal confidence in course of action and doing 500 push-ups a day won't hurt. The funny thing in my current relationship is that my SO thinks I should be admiring of the fact that he has such a huge pile of $$$ in reserve but I am actually more admiring of the fact that he can actually fix things made out of plastic while talking about the science behind the process and he can pick me (5'9" shapely but not skinny) up off the ground so it's almost like I feel compelled to fake financial-consumer orgasm on occasion to make him happy...or something like that-lol.
