What Are Your Pet Peeves?

[jennypenny]

After reading this thread, I'm thinking an ERE city wouldn't have worked out after all, unless we didn't allow smoking, cars, phones, talking, sneezing ...

[jennypenny]

@GandK - My apologies, being w/o I must have yawned at least once during our meetup and as a rule, I never cover my mouth while yawning. What's the point?

Because sometimes you gleek when you yawn.

[henrik]

People who start conversations with "Do you have any plans for Thursday night?" with the obvious intention of asking me for help with something or suggesting a social arrangement. I always want to (and sometimes do) reply "Depends on why you ask". I also try to always get straight to the point when I need to ask someone for something, even if it might sometimes feel too direct.

Because sometimes you gleek when you yawn.

Hmm, I had the same question as Jacob, but this is a good point. Also, I didn't know there was a word for that:)

[1taskaday]

Traffic.

Phone calls-making or receiving.

Drama Queens/Kings.

Over the top emotional people.

People who have to/need to? make simple tasks/events complex (and draw unwilling innocents into the fray with them)

People who have no respect or care for other people's time

Taxi-ing kids around to their "hobbies “during scarce free time

People who are totally self-centred - and clueless that they are that way.

People who gossip and bitch.Espically complainers that never put their own head above the parapet to try to improve anything

Having no free or alone time ....work.

As 8 out of 10 of my Pet Peeves relate to people .... maybe there's a lesson for ME here.

[Riggerjack]

Marketing, in any form. 'Nuff said.

Blatantly wrong Eco factoids. Plastic/pavement/radioactivity/chemicals/ are forever, man! This probably comes from living in Ecotopia. Having longer than normal planning horizon probably contributes, too.

Edutainment that is as reality based as survivor. A day in the life of a machine, or james Burke's changes are great edutainment, moonshiners, not so much.

Bitching as a form of communication, a means of establishing commonality, rather than as part of a search for a solution. Kinda like pet peeves lists, but as conversation. I can stop reading a list, anytime I want; shutting down recreational bitching takes effort.

[Ego]

Exploitation disguised as charity and narcissism disguised as altruism.

[stoneage]

People who have to/need to? make simple tasks/events complex (and draw unwilling innocents into the fray with them)

People who have no respect or care for other people's time

definitely two of mine, too.

Relating to number 1, the worst is when these people think they need to be in charge, too. Having someone always "taking care", and drowning easy and simple tasks in complexity is a real pain for everyone around.
Think trip planning : you go there, sleep, come back here, done.
Nope, it is never that simple...

[Devil's Advocate]

1. Hypocrisy.
2. Parochialism.
3. People who try to sell things and ideas, whether for money or for other currency.
4. The fact that it’s so difficult to take a single step (or click) without stepping on one of these three.
5. The fact that I sometimes allow myself to get peeved by my collection of peeves, including the four above.

After reading this thread, I'm thinking an ERE city wouldn't have worked out after all, unless we didn't allow smoking, cars, phones, talking, sneezing ...

We do seem to have lots of peeves, don't we? Does that say something about "people like us", probably something not very nice?

Would a thread on "things we like" draw as wide a response, I wonder?

[JohnnyH]

Adding the 'gate' suffix to a supposed scandal.

People who have to/need to? make simple tasks/events complex.

These people tend to fly through the ranks of government, because apparently some people buy this "Oh this is so complex!!!1" obfuscation... I've had to work with them and it sucks. However, it is really satisfying and fun to clearly summarize one of their long winded diatribes into a few succinct sentences with clear steps. For a few seconds they look like you hit them between the eyes with a hammer, then they recover and repeat some nonsense to attempt to put the world back the way they understand... I wonder if these people do this consciously or if they're just following behavior that was rewarded in school/early career.

Also, if you want a great laugh, read the notes these types take... They very neatly write down some of most copious and indecipherably stupid and mundane notes.

[brighteye]

- Vegans
- Littering, especially of cigarette butts
- listening to or generally having to deal with insurance agents, makes my blood boil within seconds
- a car that passes you, then gets in line just in front of you, and THEN decelerates

[JamesR]

DA, I used to get angry about hypocrisy until I realized everyone is a hypocrite - it's part of the human condition

[GandK]

- a car that passes you, then gets in line just in front of you, and THEN decelerates

Yes!

[Dragline]

People who let their pet peeves run their lives.

Yes, that's a joke (but there's a lesson in it). I always thought the whole Seinfeld series was essentially about letting pet peeves and personal habits/preferences dictate one's entire existence, which is what made it so funny.

I dislike lines (queues) in all of their forms, including traffic and crowds, and the people in them who don't pay attention so that everything moves even slower.

[JohnnyH]

People who diminish the importance of pet peeves... OMFG, drives me crazy! (Dragline )

Drivers who [almost always incorrectly] anticipate your pedestrian road crossing and then get irate when you don't cross... It can be bumper to bumper at high speeds in the other lane but, "Damnit! I took the time to stop so you get your body in that road right now!"

[jennypenny]

Ok ... I was trying to be good and stay out of this thread, but today just ... grrr

My pet peeve is when people tell me how "lucky" I am that I don't have to worry about money. Someone asked me about DD who's in college now and if I missed her. I said we were missing each other so she and I just planned a weekend away together when her semester ends next month. I got the hand flick back and she said how "lucky" I am that I have money. She rolled her eyes and said it "must be nice" to be able to fly somewhere for the weekend with my daughter because I felt like it.

Yes, of course, it's nice to have the money to do those things, but I'm not "lucky." I have the money because I do things like clean my own house, drive a 12yo vehicle, entertain myself, forego status symbols, eat at home most of the time, and wear the same clothes year after year. I also have the money because I don't make a regular habit of indulging in things like the trip with my DD.

I had an identical conversation with someone else in August. I invited her to come with me on vacation so our kids could hang out together. She said she couldn't because she had to work, she wasn't as lucky as I am, too many bills, etc. When I suggested that we just get together for a day before I left, she said she couldn't do it that day because that was the day her cleaning lady was coming.

I don't care if people want to spend all of their money paying people to do everything from cut the grass to wipe their ass. I just want them to OWN IT and accept that they spent their money and I didn't. That doesn't make me "lucky" that I still have the money to spend on the things that really matter to me.

[deep breath]

Sorry. This is the only place where I can vent.

[7Wannabe5]

JennyPenny said: My pet peeve is when people tell me how "lucky" I am that I don't have to worry about money. Someone asked me about DD who's in college now and if I missed her. I said we were missing each other so she and I just planned a weekend away together when her semester ends next month. I got the hand flick back and she said how "lucky" I am that I have money. She rolled her eyes and said it "must be nice" to be able to fly somewhere for the weekend with my daughter because I felt like it.

Frienemy. In my recent previous lifestyle as a "kept" woman, I had a very similar (yet distinctly different) experience. The mother-of-friend-of-teenage-daughter-of-Ex was over for coffee and chit-chat and my EX and I were discussing an upcoming trip we had planned and she flung a rolled-eyes/bitter "must be nice" at me, the clear implication in the context being that she was a hard-working-at-2-jobs divorced mother-of-4 who was clearly currently putting zero energy into-maintaining her personal appearance or appeal not even to the extent of occasionally cracking a smile and I was a lazy slut who was skating by on some combination of looks and sexuality. The first fact of the situation being that during the years I was "kept", I assisted my "keeper" with the complete renovation of 3 rental units, the successful resolution of 3 lawsuits, did most of the housework and cooking, sometimes being called upon to prepare dinner for up to 16 guests with little notice, etc. etc. etc. and actually ended up neglecting many of my own valued projects (my bad totally, poor boundaries, own it.) The second fact being that I was somebody who had previously spent 19 years married and faithful, for the good of the children, to a man who tied his very low sex drive to my physical appearance and when I finally wouldn't buy that anymore, my argument being "My waist-to-hip ratio is .69 therefore according to this article in Discovery magazine a normal man would find me attractive." informed me that I was "too nerdy to f*ck." Anyways, science is my friend and eventually proved that I was right and he was wrong. If you work hard enough to achieve/maintain your waist-to-hip-ratio under .75 (and occasionally smile) you are virtually guaranteed sexual security on the open market (well, at least as guaranteed as a 4% SWR on the stock-market) and maybe a "free" dinner or two too. So, Yay on me. Boo-hoo to you was my unspoken response (but not really that b*tchy, I did empathize somewhat.) My first point being that it is always stupid to come out of the box catty towards another woman if you don't know her back-story. My second point being that I absolutely agree with you that one needn't suffer from envy or lack if you are able to apply self-aware rational (not emotionally defended or biased) analysis to a situation/problem and then focus your energy towards that end.

[GandK]

Girls, I'm right there with you.

It never ceases to amaze me when people won't own their mess. It ought to be empowering to know that you can cause things to happen, even messes. If you can make one thing happen, why not another?

I continue to worry about this mindset in larger society as regards benefits, etc. in the future. People who spend constantly look at savers and see a pile of money, not the sacrifices it took to build it.

Related: I read this morning that the Obama administration wants to reclassify the internet as a utility and regulate it thus. How long until it's deemed a human right? One more thing that should be paid for by "the government" (read: someone else).

[henrik]

Related: I read this morning that the Obama administration wants to reclassify the internet as a utility and regulate it thus. How long until it's deemed a human right?

http://www.osnews.com/story/24821/UN_De ... uman_Right

[jennypenny]

Related: I read this morning that the Obama administration wants to reclassify the internet as a utility and regulate it thus. How long until it's deemed a human right?

http://www.osnews.com/story/24821/UN_De ... uman_Right

(I should clarify that I'm laughing at the pointlessness of such statements. Shouldn't we be focused on issues like feeding everyone?)


[dons tinfoil hat] They need to make it a "right" because people need to be plugged in to be monitored. [tucks hat back under the mattress]

[Chad]

So, suggesting that Comcast, or whoever, has to be upfront with their fees and not bury them in Netflix or some other service is wrong? Or, that only huge deep pocketed companies should have a chance at making it on the net? So, a startup would have to be more than just better than it's competition? They would have to be better and magically get deep pockets in their garage? I don't see anything more anti-capitalist than allowing Comcast (etc.) to hide their fees and ensure that small companies are placed at a severe disadvantage to the current establishment.

Yes, I consider this more important than feeding everyone.