I’ve just walked out of my job today this lunchtime. The manager was an arsehole, who had no respect for anyone and was consistently suggesting I was slacking off when I was working extremely hard. Then final straw came when he criticised me for making a coffee this morning (really). In 11 years of working, I’ve never worked for someone nearly as bad as this. Whilst I’m still really angry the way I’ve been treated, I’m getting some satisfaction that his department is right now descending into utter chaos, as there is no one else to cover for me.
What this has highlighted for me more than anything is how I never want to depend on anyone for my income. Although I am not yet financially independent, I have significant savings, a mortgage free house and no debt. What if I had had no savings, a mortgage or rent to pay and was saddled in debt? I could never have walked. I would have had to continue putting up with this nonsense for months if not years. Nothing else could have shown me the benefits of FI more than this morning.
Just walked out of a job...
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DividendGuy
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secretwealth
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mikeBOS knows what he's talking about. I tried very hard not to burn bridges that I still have never used and quite clearly never will, but I also burned bridges with one former employer that actually turned out to save my ass later (not because they wanted to help me, but because they profited from saving me themselves).
I've learned that people in businesses will often help you if it's good for them, not because you were nice to them.
I've learned that people in businesses will often help you if it's good for them, not because you were nice to them.
While I have never gotten mad enough to quit a job, I have certainly entertained the idea deeply a few times. I am sure we all have done that, and I always seemed to rise above whatever it was bugging me. Usually it is a frustrated, and very possible also "put upon" supervisor. Maybe this supervisor has had his own tail threatened just prior to threatening yours. Here, misery loves company, and also personal misery needs an escape, in many cases it is the supervised who are the last in the line of it's speeding path.
I recall one thing that always seemed to piss me off more than any other:
When sales or production were down, the wording was like this: "It seems YOUR department is not meeting it's goal"
When sales or production were up. the wording was like this:
"Congratulations! OUR department is doing very well!
The above scenario was one of my biggest pisser offers. Another was people, like evidently your prior boss, who have no people skills at all. Hang on and you will find a better job.
I recall one thing that always seemed to piss me off more than any other:
When sales or production were down, the wording was like this: "It seems YOUR department is not meeting it's goal"
When sales or production were up. the wording was like this:
"Congratulations! OUR department is doing very well!
The above scenario was one of my biggest pisser offers. Another was people, like evidently your prior boss, who have no people skills at all. Hang on and you will find a better job.
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jeremymday
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Doesn't it feel good?
I walked out on a company when I was the opening manager for the store. The other employees were locked out! haha!
The original district manager was great, but then a new one came in that was just a walking terror.
Choosing to not be around horrible people is one of the great satisfactions in life. No job is worth putting up with idiots!
Congrats Chenda on making probably one of the best decisions of your life!
I walked out on a company when I was the opening manager for the store. The other employees were locked out! haha!
The original district manager was great, but then a new one came in that was just a walking terror.
Choosing to not be around horrible people is one of the great satisfactions in life. No job is worth putting up with idiots!
Congrats Chenda on making probably one of the best decisions of your life!
I just wish ERE type thinking had been on my radar last time I quit a job. I did enjoy leaving though, mainly as my colleagues were dumbstruck that any one would want to leave despite how much they hated it (well known US investment bank). I think I was showing initial inset of the ERE mentality albeit in a misdirected way.
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LiquidSapphire
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@LiquidSapphire
Take a deep breath. Try to go for a walk and move from emotional thinking to an objective view of your situation.
In the past year, I've had several occasions where I felt that odd mixture of rage and sorrow that left me feeling as if I couldn't spend another hour in my current job. But I am still here. If they want to treat me like a potted plant, I still cash the paycheck but find my validation as a human being elsewhere. Objectively, I want to leave on my terms -- prinicipally as a financially independent individual with another source for health insurance.
If you do decide to quit, then focus on developing your knowledge, skills and abilities. As others have noted, a future employer will overlook a resume gap if they seriously want your KSAs. The present difficulty is the vast hords of skilled people seeking the far fewer opportunities. If what you do can be done by anyone, then it will be. Make yourself unique and valuable and spend the three years finding the one place where only you will be the ideal employee.
And I don't mean to seem glib. This actually takes considerable self-confidence and persistence. Six months into a two-year job search is not a good time to prefer comfortable sweat pants and ice cream for breakfast at noon. I learned this the hard way; and it's a lesson I'll never forget.
Take a deep breath. Try to go for a walk and move from emotional thinking to an objective view of your situation.
In the past year, I've had several occasions where I felt that odd mixture of rage and sorrow that left me feeling as if I couldn't spend another hour in my current job. But I am still here. If they want to treat me like a potted plant, I still cash the paycheck but find my validation as a human being elsewhere. Objectively, I want to leave on my terms -- prinicipally as a financially independent individual with another source for health insurance.
If you do decide to quit, then focus on developing your knowledge, skills and abilities. As others have noted, a future employer will overlook a resume gap if they seriously want your KSAs. The present difficulty is the vast hords of skilled people seeking the far fewer opportunities. If what you do can be done by anyone, then it will be. Make yourself unique and valuable and spend the three years finding the one place where only you will be the ideal employee.
And I don't mean to seem glib. This actually takes considerable self-confidence and persistence. Six months into a two-year job search is not a good time to prefer comfortable sweat pants and ice cream for breakfast at noon. I learned this the hard way; and it's a lesson I'll never forget.
@ LiquidSapphire I would'nt worry about explaining things to future employers. If you need to, just call it a 'career break' or something.
It was easy for me to leave as I was just doing a basic administrative job which is easy to find a replacement for. If your job is something better paid, I would probably be more inclined to check out the job market before quitting. Really depends on my assetts though. Would you have to spend all your capital to live for three years ?
It was easy for me to leave as I was just doing a basic administrative job which is easy to find a replacement for. If your job is something better paid, I would probably be more inclined to check out the job market before quitting. Really depends on my assetts though. Would you have to spend all your capital to live for three years ?