Dealing with things which are not fully in control by myself
I have a couple of things going on at the rentals, our own house, work etc. Each on its own is no major issue, but together they are causing a bit stress to me. So I decided to write them down in a table with the columns: what (why it does "not feel good") - Actions I take/have taken to solve/mitigate this - the worst case outcome - and basically all of these could be translated to money and a maximum estimated loss which I filled out in the last column.
Looking at it this way, helped me to put things in perspective - yes the worst outcome would still costs us maybe half a year of expenses more than I hope/planned - but overal it would not change anything we do and in the end all these things can be solved. So I try to be a bit more patient, see how things go and not stress too much as it is mostly merely "just" money. And with that I continue to the next topic.
The good life and gratitude
Last Saturday I got back after doing some more work on one of the rentals. There might be still an issue in the bathroom, it's not clear yet. As per above I told myself, worst case outcome is too bad but no reason to stress about it.
So after I returned home, I sat end afternoon in the garden, in our hammock (which we bought 20 years ago in Mexico), enjoyed the sun and realized I really like our new house, it's location and garden much better than our previous house. Yes, it is a luxury. In the evening we enjoyed a barbecue with own baked bread and other good food. The family is healthy, our children are happy, bright (and for us easy) kids, money or work is not an issue. The coming three months I am working 4 days a week and I expect in a couple of months to work even less or even no longer work for the paycheck at all. All in all, LIFE IS GOOD for us and I am enjoying it. And this brings me to the next topic.
The ERE forum and its members
I started my own journal in 2012, after reading lots of other journals vigorously during my commute. Those journals were very inspiring to me and certain aspects were eye opening.
Some journals stopped suddenly, we don't know what happened (Spoonman, My_Brain_Gets_Itchy, Brute, Hankaroundtheworld, Ripirian where are you!!). Others continued to post updates, some more frequent than others, and I have followed every post of them over the years like those of Dutchgirl, C40, Bigato, Bluenote, Seppia, J_, Stevio73, Akratic, Elegant, the animal, ffj (and several others I now forget). And from several others I read very frequently updates (JennyPenny, 7Wb5, Tophatfox, Ego, EdithKeeler and many more others).
I also had the opportunity to meet several ERE forum members on three continents over the years, some of you I have been able to meet even several times (slsdly, Reepicheep, J_, Bluenote, DutchGirl, Figmenter, McTrex and several others) and those meetings were always very interesting.
I haven not posted or engaged very often in many of the interesting discussions as some of the other frequent posters do. Nevertheless, this community feels a bit like family. All these journals, updates and the meetings (also from many persons I have not mentioned) have been important to me and have helped me to be where and who I am now. So thank you all, and of course Jacob who started this and enabled this platform.
A good way to start the Monday
