I'm not going to argue here. Honestly. Getting to FI takes hard work, yes, but working 50-60 hours a week in a high-stress environment is not a pre-requisite. I've already acknowledged areas where I can do better, and the goal as always is to improve.
That said, I'm looking for a new job now, one that I'm suited better for and that doesn't treat me like shit. "The real world" is big, and there are less-stressful jobs in better places than NYC. I don't give a shit if it may pay less, the better quality of life is worth it.
I completed or help complete 50-100 projects for clients in 3 months. Technically, I decided to quit after the trial period.
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Also, I think there's a large problem in a lot of the FIRE boards. It's all "let's stick it through for 5-10 years in hell" to be free later. Fuck that. I used to be in this camp until trying to live that day to day. I'm now more staunchly on Joshua Sheat's wagon of building a career/life you wouldn't want to retire from.
I'd turn the question around on you both and ask whether your careers are worth having around if they may or may not make you miserable daily?