Re: A family father's path through life
Posted: Tue Feb 06, 2018 9:04 am
You surely were!
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Me tooSavingWithBabies wrote: ↑Tue Feb 06, 2018 9:36 pmI read a lot of the forum but I don't always comment.
Lots of individual work there for everyone, and I agree: the reading here helps a lot! (I also follow your journal )SavingWithBabies wrote: ↑Tue Feb 06, 2018 9:36 pmBy reading here, I'm fairly certain I know where my stumblings are in terms of if I wanted to go more to the extreme approach to ERE/FI. But interestingly, some of the threads pushed me more in the other direction too. To consider more carefully the cost of what I would be doing. So lately I've been thinking a lot about the path that balances the quest for ERE/FI and life. I do not want to add multiple decades but a year or two I would be okay with if that meant a dramatically better quality of life while on the path.
I must think how to make them visible in my family's day to day.Astra wrote: ↑Fri Feb 09, 2018 10:24 amLessons to be learned from my grandpa
- Live significantly below your means, save and invest in what you understand
- Learn to DIY as much as possible, never outsource services you could possibly learn yourself
- Continue to learn new skills and challenge yourself
- Think critically about advertised products
- Don't spend a fortune on your wedding and honeymoon - all you need is love!
- Reach out to likeminded people for help and expertise (instead of “buying” a solution)
- Travel light while working and see the world when you’re young, then settle down where you feel most comfortable and build a self-reliant life
- Don’t give a F about appearances (clothes, car, house), but do what serves you and is practical
- Only spend time with people that appreciate you (for being a penny-pinching polymath)
- Be humble
Lessons to be learned from my grandma
- What you have in abundance, give freely (veggies + fruit, flowers, time, sage advice…)
- Don’t forget to enjoy life, and spend money on the things that are important to you
- Establish and uphold good relationships with your neighbors and friends, and you will never lack a helpful hand or ear
- Show your love by home cooked meals and personal talks
- Embrace new things (technology, innovations, cuisine)
Last friday my wife bougth me a pair of trousers in the sales: the sale was huge and she said that in her opinion some of mine were not "in good shape" and should be disposed (in our case given to charity).Antoine de Saint-Exupery wrote:If you want to build a ship, don't drum up people to collect wood and don't assign them tasks and work, but rather teach them to long for the endless immensity of the sea.
Okay, I may be on the slow track to FI, but I still feel quite comfortable in this forum, so unless Jacob forbids, I'll keep posting about the slow trackEarly Retirement Extreme Forums
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You know pain is part of the long-distance triathlon, right? So why is that particular pain or discomfort just part of the experience, something that is expected and 'the way it should be' and the discomfort or pain of raising children is a rock in your shoe, something that 'shouldn't be there'?
Shit, that's the name of the wall we ourselves build around happyness!For so long, for SO long, life was about achieving, about growing, becoming, perfecting.
I have so much re-wiring to do...Epictetus wrote:Some things are in our control and others not. Things in our control are opinion, pursuit, desire, aversion, and, in a word, whatever are our own actions. Things not in our control are body, property, reputation, command, and, in one word, whatever are not our own actions.
The things in our control are by nature free, unrestrained, unhindered; but those not in our control are weak, slavish, restrained, belonging to others. Remember, then, that if you suppose that things which are slavish by nature are also free, and that what belongs to others is your own, then you will be hindered. You will lament, you will be disturbed, and you will find fault both with gods and men. But if you suppose that only to be your own which is your own, and what belongs to others such as it really is, then no one will ever compel you or restrain you. Further, you will find fault with no one or accuse no one. You will do nothing against your will. No one will hurt you, you will have no enemies, and you not be harmed.
Aiming therefore at such great things, remember that you must not allow yourself to be carried, even with a slight tendency, towards the attainment of lesser things. Instead, you must entirely quit some things and for the present postpone the rest. But if you would both have these great things, along with power and riches, then you will not gain even the latter, because you aim at the former too: but you will absolutely fail of the former, by which alone happiness and freedom are achieved.
I listen to the "Radical Personal Finance Podcasts" while commuting. I can recommend you those. He has also a Interview-Podcast with Jacob.Family father wrote: ↑Wed Feb 28, 2018 9:27 amAny suggestions for other free and available audio material interesting to listen? (it is very useful when commuting by car )
My wife looked up from her IPAD yesterday and said "did you read about this?" and I said "what?" and she said "Judy Garland was molested by the Munchkins." I mentioned that I knew they were always drunk because I actually knew someone who's father had a bit role in the movie but I didn't know they were getting away with sticking their little hands up her skirt. But yes, we actually had a conversation on a retroactive #metoo story dating back to the 1930's involving a teenage movie star and midgets.Gilberto de Piento wrote: ↑Tue Mar 13, 2018 9:31 amI like your term "junk news." I need to stop reading junk news and listening to junk news podcasts. It is a distraction that feels productive but isn't.