cmonkey wrote: ↑
Tue Oct 09, 2018 9:01 am
Our daughter is due in late January.
It's funny jacob would link to that climate article because this is something I'm struggling with now that I know she's on the way. Not really that I'm burdening the planet anymore (we're only plannng on one child), but more for her own well being later in life. I've found myself wondering what I can do to make her life easier in a world that's going to be falling apart.
First off, congrats to you and mrs. cmonkey. It's great news, even in troubled times, a baby born into a happy home is to be treasured by you and your kin. I've never been the gushy type around other's kids, but there's nothing quite like holding your own baby girl! I know from experience you'll love the challenge, it's a gift that truly keeps on giving. Just get your sleep in now whilst you still can, at some stages you'll forget what a full nights sleep feels like, but with a smiling baby in your arms you'll not mind too much
As you know, I too spend a lot of time thinking and worrying about this same stuff, even whilst DW doesn't! We cannot guarantee any outcomes in their lives, and for people who are so used to being in control of our own destiny, that is hard to accept. You will soon find out your baby has her own agenda, but we can at least try our best to equip them with a stable home and the skills and all forms of capital that they need to navigate the challenges of the future insofar we are able. There's not much more we can do than that.
I have, probably as you have, come to the conclusion that our generation may live shorter lives than our parents, and our children shorter still, but that's not to suggest that that life will be any less worth living or meaningful. Without detracting from the tragedy of the situation, if anything, the challenges of the future may make lives in some senses more real and meaningful than they are currently for many poor souls, in that sense there will be constraint where there was plenty, but plenty where there were once constraints. I don't know if you have read Tribe by Sebastian Junger, but that gave me a lot of comfort about where we are heading. In some senses, I'm glad that DD and future generations are not destined to live in a truly techno-dystopian and increasingly pathologically alienating society. The crisis to some extent pushes the reset button on the whole crazy world we currently inhabit. Not that it will be all sunshine and rainbows. But there's room leftover for a bit of warped optimism.
Honestly though, even though it's an intangible irrational thing to do knowing what we know, IMO becoming a parent might be the most human achievement I ever made, and there's something to be said for that.