Yeah, I mean, point taken that narratives matter. Obviously they do.
Counterpoint also taken that maintaining a narrative that doesn't quite ring authentic can be counter-productive.
Perhaps it's not an either/or, but rather it's a both/and. Reframe narratives when they're unhealthy or negative, but don't go so far around that you end up re-becoming unhealthy or negative by trying to square-peg round-hole a real turd into a hero's tale. So maybe "negative to neutral" is a healthy delusion/restorying while "neutral to unicorns defecating rainbows" is an unhealthy delusion/restorying?
In other news, @gravy and I have this "secret garden" behind this garage/carport thing in our rental's backyard. We let it go kinda wild back there and there's this old rotting fence that has kinda bifurcated the space back there. It had two ~7 ft sections and a gate which spanned from the outer fence to the backside of the garage. The gate had broken off, so we cut one fence section down and moved it over to form two walls with the outer fence as the third wall. We bought some lumber for a fourth wall and bought a couple of roof panels to supplement the one lying on the ground in the backyard, so now the kids have a little playhouse back there and seem to like it.
It was interesting to have the thought that if we were retired, we could have probably found these materials over time for free somewhere, but as it is, carpe diem and all that with money as the lubricant.
Speaking of money, my (new) company announced some layoffs this week and so that generated some measure of angst and calculation on my part. A lot of companies in my industry are laying off people, so it's not really a surprise. Even my old company announced layoffs recently. In all cases, it seems like my particular area hasn't been / isn't going to be impacted, but it generated some interesting thoughts. One of which is: yeah, I don't want to get another job / work much more. The other is: I don't think I could cover the 4 years of child-support / alimony I have left without working. So, work I shall. But if I can just make it these four years, then getting laid off with 6 months severance has some appeal to it. But these thoughts always, always circle back to the very same sticking point: I have kids and my kids need health insurance. I can always just choose to die if I get sick and can't pay for care (altho @gravy prolly wouldn't let me, she's so controlling), but I couldn't let my kids die because I didn't want to pay for something. I dunno if there's an answer to that. Perhaps I'll always be a parent and it's a limitation I'll eventually have to come to accept. I wonder if parents have always been this way, or if it's a (first world) modern problem, where kids have become more "precious" and death has become less prevalent / accepted as a natural thing that happens. Something something medical industrial complex.
edit: added pics. It's no @ffj work of treehouse art, but it'll put splinters in the kids' hands just the same. Also, the japanese pull saws are awesome. This was my first time using them and so glad I tried them as I'm trying to avoid collecting power tools again other than some small very useful ones (screwdriver, etc).