AxelHeyst wrote:(I particularly liked when Nate asked ~"how are you able to pull all this off? you seem busy" and Christian responded ~"I spent 3-4 years really focused on myself, on healing and therapy, on getting my own house in order" and I thought yes!! Affix thine own o2 mask first, exactly!).
I really liked this episode, and I think this is a valid observation, but generally those who have the genes or character-training for "conscientiousness" tend to over-prep before engaging in activities such as "forming community" or "dating" or "retiring", while those who are more lacking in the genes or character-training for "conscientiousness" tend to under-prep. For example, the story of Martha and Mary in the bible is reflective of the problem inherent in over-prepping vs. simply being present to the needs of others in the moment. Under-prepping is more of an Old Testament lesson, Noah and the Flood, comes to mind. There is no significant gender difference in the Big 5 trait of Conscientiousness (recently re-worded as Industriousness and Orderliness), but when combined with the higher levels of Neuroticism and lower levels of Extraversion associated with female gender, this trait contributes to the #1 reason single women choose to not date or engage in relationship formation, which is being stuck in "over-prep" mode or phase.
Anyways, my impression, perhaps ill or hastily formed, is that Christian was more towards an innate under-prepper who experienced personal growth by training/extending himself towards more prepping (house cleaning) rather than vice-versa. I would also note that he described starting the community by growing out from existing social circle, and that his SO was quite engaged in this process. My point here being that "community formation" is definitely an activity in which one learns a great deal from feedback while engaged in the process, so over-prepping can be especially killer in this realm.
The problems that building code present to the particular sort of community formation endeavor attempted by Christian's group are very real, and I have experienced them myself. At the other end of the spectrum might be problems presented by crime or similar. These might be generalized as "territorialism" and "chaos-creation", or even more generally as "power play and competition." The fact that "building codes" are meant to be protective on some level is irrelevant, because it's analogous to how a Rooster doesn't want any other cock to look out for his hens. However, this in no way implies that every individual human Building Code Inspector/Authority is most likely to behave in such a manner. For example, my second sister and her husband just purchased a 5000 sq. ft church building centrally located in a small town and the building code guy is cutting them a lot of slack in terms of usage, because he wants the town core to remain vital.
jacob wrote: As far as I see it, the number one prerequisite for community is REGULAR and SPONTANEOUS meetings. (This is also why the goal is to keep ERE City within a fairly small diameter and preferably w/o people building 6'+ fences around their properties.
Yes, but this is not sufficient. There has to be a level of mutuality of skin in the game or shared dependencies or inter-dependencies. The lack of these interdependencies or shared dependencies is why neighbors in the city do not have to come to know each other. IME, the easiest and likely most "natural" (in terms of human pattern language) means by which to form community is to engage in mutual care for the young. This is why joining a church used to be sufficient, but is not so much anymore due to very few children and lots of old folks in most congregations. The neighborhood elementary school is now more the center of community in many U.S. realms. Another example would be that barn-raising parties weren't primarily about a shared interest in construction skills and technique; they were about mutual recognition of the great importance of sheltering the dependent livestock on which the human families were also dependent.
The problem with some less than highly functional post-modern community groups isn't that they focus on community-first because "extroverts", it is that the "dependent babies" are too internalized, so they function like babies-helping-babies rather than adults-helping-other-adults-with-babies. I mean, there's nothing wrong and it can be helpful to engage in this manner at times, but a therapeutic support group is not the core basis for a functionally sustainable community anymore than a hospital ward or a rubber-matted playground or a heated greenhouse. However, this is not to imply that complete denial of personal vulnerability and/or denial of the very real babies in the community (example, the species of bird dependent on the water-shed on which the adult humans are also dependent, except not really because Modern affluent humans who can drive a car or fly in a plane to some other neighborhood) is likely to contribute to positive functional community formation either. IOW, the perception of shared inter-dependencies almost certainly requires some level/form of commitment to the community, but maybe just akin to the length and "skin" of an early U.S. Homesteading Grant.
Any "purpose" that is not "just pimping" has some kind of "baby" embedded in it. Generally or stereotypically, the "purposes" of men are more likely to involve "justice for baby" and the "purposes" of women are more likely to involve "care for baby." For example, dealing in used books was one of my "purpose"s because when I was a child I felt sorry for all the very good books that nobody checked out of the library very often. It's not necessary or likely for a community to share the exact same purpose or "embedded baby", just a desire for engaging in "mutual-help", especially in ways such as "barn-raising" or "getting a break from toddler-care and extending same service to other" that promote efficiency, resilience, or sustainability. For example, you can be otherwise the most under-baked, under-prepped human imaginable, but if you commit to teaching 20 kids how to perform the standard American algorithm for multiplication, you are well on your way to becoming part of a community. OTOH, you can be extremely well-prepped, but if you
only commit to increasing your net worth on the anonymous stock market (towards being more prepped for what???), you are likely moving orthogonal to community formation. This is pretty much what happened to my uber-multi-millionaire friend and it was pretty sad that he was down to just me to hold his hand when he died.