Copy/cut/paste of original discussion from thread on completely unrelated topic below. My own perspective is likely far too much that of an Old-GenX heterosexual cis-female, so creating the table must be a collaborative effort.
jacob wrote: (Maybe 7wb5 can make a table for sex? Not kidding. I think that the recurring sex/poly-debates could benefit from a table of their own!)
She kinda did already!
From: ERE as a couple: getting things or services?7Wannabe5 wrote: Another example:
Level 1= Pre-Sexual
Level 2= Pre-Orgasmic
Level 3= Masturbation
Level 4= Dependent Sex
Optimization= Fucking
Yields and Flows = Strong Sex with Mutuality
Systems/Networks= Self-Aware Sexuality
Level 8 = Transcendent Sex
NOTE: I'm not entirely satisfied with my description of these levels, especially the first 2. One thing I was trying to make obvious was that going up one level also requires referring back one level and integrating. In this hierarchy, the focus shifts from inward/self to outward/partner with each step.
I was kind of joking with the Nicholai Hel suggestion, because he overtly describes himself as a Sexual Master, but considering this character kind of highlights the importance of not skipping over the integration of the Open Verbal Communication towards Honoring of Preferences piece at Level 6. Bringing yet another realm into the model (Reading/Erudition), I think of Sexual Level 6 as being roughly akin to the 5% of people who read 95% of the books published, although it definitely isn't the case that a human must be at Level 6 Erudition in order to be at Level 6 Sexuality and vice-versa across the entire catalogue of WL tables, although a certain level of verbal and emotional IQ is likely necessary.I think the fact that I actually just did a spot of research to determine whether standard deviations beyond the norm represented by 28 lifetime partners by age 59 would likely qualify me with the expertise to construct such a table clearly demonstrates that I actually do not possess the expertise necessary to construct such a table. Also, my current state of decrepitude is causing me to lapse into Si, so the likelihood that I would lean too hard on personal anecdote is real.
Reading research on the topic of sexuality is simultaneously fairly useless and amusing, because humans are all flavors of opposite of honest about their behaviors in this realm, and researchers come up with some pretty odd conclusions. For instance, I just skimmed a paper that correlated a high number of sexual partners for females who reside in England with being white and regularly engaging in vigorous physical exercise, and the researcher suggested that the second correlation might be due to the possibility of meeting men at the gym*. The other thing that makes this research fairly useless is that, for instance, generating a statistic for total lifetime partners over a population of humans age 25 to 65 tells you nothing about their rate of promiscuity per unit time which is the statistic most relevant to public health concerns.
I recently started reading Deida's book entitled "Transcendent Sex" (with foreward by general transcendence guru Ken Wilber!), but had to put it down because his intended audience is clearly those stuck at Level 4. There are actually two or three quite different experiences which are referred to as Transcendent Sex, but the one which I was indicating at Level 8 in my skeletal chart above might be more properly referred to as Transcendent Sexual Union. This is the variety of Transcendent Sex which requires a great deal of emotional depth in the relationship between the partners engaged. A first step of approach at Level 6 would be attempting to maintain open eye contact while achieving simultaneous orgasm. At Level 7, you are back in a more indivualistic perspective; more focused on developing your own skills and personae. If read with a hat tip to the humor implied by Trevanian with his extreme stereotyping, the sexual practice of Nicholai Hel in "Shibumi" would approximate high Level 7 for an INTJ. I will not describe here, because we do not want any ESTP kids reading along to try this at home.
*clear sub-text of this research paper thus being that the researcher is not him/herself in the most sexually promiscuous quintile.