Sclass wrote: ↑Mon Sep 11, 2023 8:50 am
I think if you’re worried about this stuff you should just give up. Go and live like your friends and neighbors and don’t look back.
jacob wrote: ↑Wed Sep 13, 2023 3:23 pm
When you're in "ERE mode", you likely wouldn't want to. You're currently listing the trappings of modernism.
Traditionalism: family, faith, duty to a familiar place and a role in society. A paycheck, being comfortable.
Modernism (you): growth and success in money, power, fame, and/or sex. A career, awards, climbing to the top, taking risks.
Postmodernism: seeking experiences, happiness, doing things together, belonging to a community, being safe.
ERE (post-postmodernism): competence and independence to chart one's own course, doing what you want within reason, only owning what you need, evolving towards self-actualizing at a natural pace with an ever increasing understanding and care for the systems we live in.
Thanks all for joining the discussion!
Broadly speaking:
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normal" people have a complete life. Family, Friends, Partner and Children, a Job or a Business, Fitness, Leisure, Hobbies, Travel, Material goods, etc.
And these are those who have done everything they were told since they were children, since school, without ever asking themselves anything or studying the system. They followed a straight path and never took back.
I have examples of very happy friends who had children with their partners at 26, and who got married at this age. I really love them!
To summarize, let's say that these types of people are children who still believe in the "Santa Claus tale".
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advanced" people have another POV. Family, Friends, perhaps they are unable to find an ideal partner or have children because their focus it's on something else, a Job or a Business, Fitness, Hobbies, Travel and a lot of pondering on material goods.
The problem here was knowing the system, unmasking "the Santa Claus tale", and no longer being able to choose a path because of that. The system is a flaw. But how do we create a path?
In life it is more important to be confident in the things you do rather than evaluating and lose lifetime to chose them.
Normaloids have the right path, and feel safe, have a greater sense of satisfaction with society and their status. The clear example is precisely the lives of my friends and acquaintances.
"Advanced" people who have discovered the truth no longer feel satisfied doing things they know are wrong. Creating the path is difficult. It brings suffering. Doubt yourself. It requires a tremendous amount of time.
I can say that I have unmasked Santa Claus, and also that I have tried to pursue an alternative path, but at the moment I feel at the lowest point of the abyss, which ofc, want me to go back on the traditional route.
I certainly define myself as a person who has managed to understand that some things are not needed, who has lowered his needs, consumption, who has a different vision of the world but I feel like saying that true love, true sensations of warmth and affection, the best moments, can only be found in people who live a cohesive society, even if they unconsciously live incorrectly, at 'dark to the horrors of the system, even tho we are talking about going for an aperitif, or a restaurant with your partner, instead of going to do just a walk.
Reward system it's sculpted in our brain and trying to not reward yourself with what society show you since childhood, it's like telling someone to not take their drugs. You can imagine, because you also felt, the discomfort of "unwind" all you learnt, and try to be accomplished in different ways. But tricking the reward system is so hard.
I'm making an attempt to go back for a second and reflect, take back what I had left behind because I believed I was going down the "wrong path of the system".
So I am trying a period of time back to the traditional route.
I immediately felt relieved of a huge burden, to make you understand how much effort I invested in trying to change my lifestyle. I'm certainly still applying the ERE rules, but to my old traditional lifestyle, and I feel more "Integrated" in society, more supported by "normaloids", even if I continue to analyze my choices and theirs.
There are positive things: I can see impurities in a glass of water, where they can't see them.
Anyway, the law of nature "of the strongest" tells man to dominate over other species, and to dominate over those similar to him, or to form domination groups. Be careful, I don't mean to subjugate other people, but to be dominant, like a reference person, to be a great sage in a village.
All this is possible in a society in which this type of person must have the resources and marry with the society of his time. In this case, for better or for worse, we must not hide, but become entrepreneurs who solve problems, who have a family, friends, passions and hobbies, travel, meet new people. At this point, I believe that applying the "philosophy" (and not the lifestyle), ERE, is much easier. Once you know the truth, and go back to live a traditional lifestyle, applying the ERE philosophy is child's play: less consumption, less needs, a fair measure of savings rate, true and genuine relationships, and much more.
But what should we leave?: living by eating cheaply, having few experiences, preferring to save too much, live the risk of being labeled as a "strange person", to not accept a marriage and start a family for FI reasons, to not go out at that dinner because of savings money, etc.
Unfortunately we are animals and society imposes comparison. For those who have understood it, comparison, the real one, is used to give your status a level.
It's not a weakness, but a demonstration of strength! A man without resources, those that do not take a position in today's society, tell me how does he not suffer? How could He demostrate strenght and a full vigorous life?
It's like seeing a gorilla from a long time ago who didn't have the coconuts, or such other desired possession, that all the other gorillas had.
It's not about the possession itself.
It's not about the comparision with others.
It's not about a material desire.
It's about nature that want you to be compared to other of your species, to be able to validate the "specie evolution" law.