Feel free to post here. I thought by now it would be pretty obvious that I tend to use this forum as a salon, while only making token gestures towards achieving or journaling anything resembling "progress" on my financial "goals." Also, it is a topic in which I have some personal interest, because (A) I would like to get my own son married off, and (B) the older men that I date often grumble with complaints similar to those of the young Incels. More than once I have had some guy I am dating tell me that online dating sucks, to which I must obviously reply, "Hmmm...but, you met me through online dating." , and their reply is always something like "Well, you are different."
My Crohn's disease is much better now that I am on Inflectra. Nothing else, including another biologic, worked. I still have to use the bathroom around 8X/day, but pain,blood,mucus are pretty much gone, and exhaustion is better (my Iron levels were 7 last blood draw, so I'm eating a lot of liver.) I've been binge watching episodes of "Saving Grace" and that is making me wish I was in good enough shape to reboot my own sex life, but not there yet.
And, most unfortunately, vibing "resentment" and "giving up" are not tactics likely to break you into the " more success to the successful" positive feedback loops experienced by the Chads of this world. OTOH, since there are levels upon levels, the Chad tactics, absent further substance, can eventually get kind of boring to those of us who have been around the block a time or three. My youngest sister once made the wise observation that after men get skilled enough to date a lot of very physically attractive females, they start preferring reasonably attractive smart women. The same holds true for women in terms of preference for the superficially attractive presentation skills of the successful player, IF and ONLY IF they are allowed the social freedom to learn this on their own. There's a good deal of what might best be described as "bullying" that goes on across the gender divide in terms of trying to tell the "other" what they should find attractive."C40" wrote:the incels are wishing and resentful while the dropouts are have either given up
@Ego:
Yup, and that's why some courtesan tricks are based on "letting the man take the lead" or "letting the man get a win." Number one fairly common female behavior most men do not enjoy on first date is "being interrogated." However, testosterone (at lower levels) also effects sex drive in females, so it would be better practice to get your wins in against other men in social setting as you suggested, rather than counting on female to let you take the lead, unless you like having sex with a female who is completely drained of her own drive and initiative.