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MARCH
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I had a very eventful month:
- * A big net worth increase
* Finished the van
* Sold my car
* My girlfriend broke up with me
* Got my house almost ready to list for sale
* Oh, and I’ll update you on how many of my solar panels have blown off and how many were stolen.
NET SPENDING: $750
- * Actual spending (money out) - $3,450
* Sales (“un-spending”) - $2,700
NORMAL SPENDING: $1,526
Had some extra spending in here for 6 months of insurance and car repairs before selling it. I only spent $30 on entertainment/hobbies! That might be an all-time low for me.
VAN SPENDING: $465
This included $300 for the battery for my electric system. I bought a battery with slight physical damage for more than 50% off.
HOUSE SALE PREP: $1,485
This was mostly paint and driveway repair materials.
SALES: $2,730
- * Car - $2,000
* A pen - $330
* Weight lifting equipment - $300
* 5 other things - $100
For my charts, I counted the car sale money as negative spending in the van spending category. I also spread the money out over the last three months so it didn’t create any negative values.
Here’s how the spending has looked:
And there’s a big difference between my TOTAL spending and my “NORMAL” spending.
BIG NET WORTH INCREASE
My net worth increased by nearly $30,000, (a 7% increase). I got my yearly bonus from work, and saved $12k from income. The other $18k was from investment price increases.
FINISHED THE VAN
I finished the electrical system. That was the last big thing to do.
I have a list of more things to do. I’ll work on some of these while I’m waiting for my house to sell. I’ll do others while I’m on the road or when I’m making stops to visit family
- * Add overhead storage (along where the sides meet the ceiling)
* Better headlights
* Put a front cover on the electrical system
* Maybe off-road lights
* Off-road gear (tow straps, come-a-long, traction pads, air compressor)
* Reverse/swivel for passenger seat
* Hidden/secure storage
* Add insulation to outside of fridge
* Redo the snap positions on one of the window curtains so it blocks 100% of light
* Make more room for the tires (so they don’t rub when turning all the way or on very uneven terrain
* Secure the battery (I’ll do this sooner rather than later)
* Add an awning
I’ve also moved into the van and I’ve been living in it for around 10 days. I keep it parked on the street in front of my house. I do still use the toilet in my house, but that’s it, everything is in the van. I do pee in a bottle at night and I tell you what: it’s nice being able to do that without getting up entirely and walking to the bathroom.
It’s working out well so far. One of the nice surprises is that while preparing food, eating, and cleaning, everything is within arm’s reach while I sit at my desk/table. I can do everything from start to finish and not get up from the seat. The electric system is also working well. For those wondering, the panels haven’t blown off or been stolen yet. The array frames are aluminum, so there’s a chance it will suffer a fatigue failure. Stay tuned for a few years. As for theft, I’m much more concerned about someone breaking into the van and taking things that are more portable, more valuable, and way more important to me.
BROKEN HEART
(Ok, I’m exaggerating with the title)
My girlfriend broke up with me. It’s hard for me to explain much without also going into a lot of detail that I don’t want to. So I have a short list of notes below. I had a really difficult couple of weeks after, some/much of which is because it’s not a relationship ending where one of us has decided that we don’t like the other anymore.
- * My plans had basically been that once I finish the van and sell the house (or at least get it listed) I would take off in the van. Neither of us feel like we could maintain a long-distance relationship, and we expected that this would be the end of our current relationship. She was still planning to come with me for the 3-4 weeks I’ll take off work this summer. She was worried about the ending of that summer trip (and us seeing each other) being abrupt and difficult.
* As I got closer to and finished the van, she was feeling sad/uneasy. She was also, as a coping mechanism, feeling resentment/jealousy towards me. It was becoming awkward to tell her about my progress on the van. She wasn’t hostile or negative, but it was hard for her to respond positively and she would usually get quiet. She was acting cold or less affectionate in communications when we were apart. It was often hard for me to tell why, as that’s the same way she’s acted when she was irritated by something I did. I just finished the van and I her resentment was increasing. She was stressing out about it, and she didn’t want to get to the point of hating me or having big fights. I was also noticing that when we hadn’t been together for a few days, I could feel a drop in intensity of my feelings for her – sort of a fading of love - also a coping mechanism.
* We spent a few hours together talking last weekend (a couple weeks after she broke up with me). I discovered a couple big things I misunderstood. I’d known I should talk to her about at least one of them but didn’t ever get around to doing so. I was also hating all the “what if I’d…..” thoughts I was having since the break-up. I spoke with her about these things and asked about the things I was wondering. I’m not more certain that I understand her stance on these things and that has helped me a lot. For those thinking things like “it sounds like you are really into eachother, what about if you have her come with you this summer and then stay together after if you want by doing ….. “ or “what if you decide to stay in St Louis?” or similar things – we spoke about those things, and while we will spend more time together and she might even still come with me during the summer, those things probably aren’t going to work out. Most of those “what if’s” would take a pretty big leap on one or both of our parts, and she doesn’t think she has the courage or certainty for them.
* We both want to continue spending time together. The chemistry is still there and we both want to act on it. It could be tricky trying to navigate this transition to whatever we’re trying to change our relationship to, without feeling like we’re back “together” again.
* I would’ve thought that I could feel both sad about her and excited about finishing the van at the same time. But I’ve felt only the former so far. I’ve been feeling a lot better after we talked things out. I’ll get over it with time. Once the house sale moves along I’m sure I’ll start feeling excited. I’ve been keeping myself very busy with the van and house. Once I get the house listed for sale I’ll have a ton of free time while I wait around for it to sell. I’ll start researching locations, travel paths, places to stay, things to do, etc. that should get my mind ready and excited.
I had been working hard on the van and house, but in comparison to what was possible, I was going pretty slowly. I already had one week off work, so after the dumped me I spent that entire week working on the house. I figure I might as well get on with it and finish up the house as quick as I can. After that first week, I still had another week’s worth of things to do so I sent my boss a surprise email saying I wouldn’t be working the next week either.
GETTING HOUSE READY FOR SALE
After my girlfriend broke up with me, I spent two straight weeks getting my house ready to sell - making repairs, painting, and cleaning. I also moved into my van. I hired a listing agent. I have only two things left to finish up and then I’ll be ready to list the house. The housing market is looking pretty good here (well,.. good for St. Louis). It looks like I may be able to sell the house quickly. I won’t make significant profit from it though. I’m hoping I can sell the house before the vacation time I have scheduled for this summer. I’m looking at moving the vacation time back from June to July or August to help this work out.
I don’t see myself working much longer after that. I may even pull the plug right after my house sells. I’m feeling mostly ready right now. I do have a few other things I want to sort out first and that may take a month or two.
As far as work, the stuff we have planned for Q4 kind of sucks. We have unrealistic goals and I don’t want to spend the effort it will take trying to realign expectations and timelines, pushing our teams to go faster, etc. We have a bunch of what I’ll call audits in Q4. I don’t like doing those. There’s much more pressure this year on the results and my boss might feel cornered and try hard to get me to work through the end of the year. If today was in September and I was quitting, it would take a lot of extra money to convince me to work the rest of the year.
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Also, I need to buy some more dividend stocks. If anyone has recommendations, please share – particularly REITS or MLPs to buy in my IRA.