Just reporting back about the previous advice you gave. Putting on big boy pants works. Being less resentful is a big step in making things happen. Turns out that putting the resentment aside for couple of weeks helped the general mood in the household a lot.
I didn't really become more attractive in reality, but it seems that the "perceived attractiveness" increased. I didn't really confront her with the issues I had. Instead I increased other communication a lot and approached the issues in more casual tones. When the general mood was better, the intimacy stuff kind of just followed. Now I need to relearn some stuff in the bedroom department Luckily it's the fun kind of learning...
We all know that when it comes to attracting a woman, at first glance, you would need looks, money, and status. This means that any woman would be more prone to be attracted to you if you have a high value in those three aspects. This also means that you could also be attractive to those kinds of narcissistic, gold-digger women who want you as a provider for their life. Not all women are like that.
Being an ERE man, is doing something to make your life or you feel "capped" or not reacing your full potential?
How do you deal with this?
Which is your POV On this theme?
I've definitely felt more lonely and more anxious at times when I have been married or living with a longish-term SO.
One of my female acquaintances actually gone trought this and the proximity wanted that to happen with me.
Curious about how your the relationship is going with this guy
I'm not sure what you are asking? I'm still friends or friendly or friendly/benefity with my exes. Generally, I felt lonely in relationship when a partner was withdrawn and I felt anxious in relationship when a partner exhibited anger in a manner with which I was not comfortable. I think it's better to have the option to leave and also the option to find more pleasant company. So, solo polyamory inclusive of "room of my own" is my current practice, because it tends to allow me to boundary men on their best second or third date and/or old friends meeting for coffee level behavior. IOW, at my age/stage, the amount of sh*t I am willing to put up with is extremely minimal.
Luckily it's the fun kind of learning...