Well, herein lies the problem. Why do you support this ruthless system? ,,Just at next corner, you will find love of your life!; Just man up!". I think it's the ultimate proof of gynocentric society: you are being rated as the man or not... The joke is that women decide about it
Every system is ruthless. Anyone who says differently is selling you something. (RUS's? I don't think they exist.)
I'm 46 and married, looking forward to retiring soon. I am almost completely removed from the game. If you are looking for my support, you are doomed to frustration, I'm afraid.
If you want sympathy, I just don't have any. Life is tough. Waiting for the world to arrange itself to your convenience seems an awful waste, but do as you like.
Now that may seem harsh, and unhelpful, but that is not my intent. I am trying to help you understand that this is under your control. Men have it so much easier in the sexual arena than women.
Yes, you are expected to put forth more effort, more money, etc than an equally attractive woman. Sucks, huh? But more to the point, as a man, there are many options you have to improve your attractiveness, that women just don't have.
Say you a born a natural 3 on a scale from 1-10. As a woman, you can work out, and develop your body, improve your posture, spend way too much effort on makeup and shoes. But these are all passive. Your options to actively attract the man you want are limited. Best case scenario, you can work your way up to a 6.
But a man, what you are born with has far less to do with your attractiveness. Building confidence, best done by doing a bit of everything, especially anything that scares you, takes you from a 3 to a 6 by itself. Spend some time in a gym, learn to dance, make some money, the possibilities are only limited by you.
BTW, I knew a guy in the service, couldn't dance at all. Til one of the girls showed him that all he had to do was go on the floor, tap his toe, snap his fingers, and let her dance all over him. And he Looked Damned Good, doing it. She wasn't with him, she was making a point. Which was good, he did just fine that night.
I won't encourage you to try lowering your standards. Hell, for every beautiful woman out there, there's a guy tired of her BS. So go get your hottie. And when you get that out of your system, I would encourage you to shoot higher, not lower. And someday, you will realize that the beauty queens are not worth the BS, and start to find other features more important. If you are stuck on finding your perfect 10, you will fuck up every relationship until then, so start there. Save yourself and any potential girls a lot of pain.
But if you think you can whine your way into her panties, you better look like a young Brad Pitt. The rest of us had to do some work, you can too.