(i know this question wasn't for me but...)
it means that someone is trying to shame you into doing/not doing something
cmon now, this is utter bollocks.
i don't like being boxed either.horsewoman wrote: ↑Wed Jan 20, 2021 9:22 amyou don't like to sort people into boxes, and that's quite alright.
i think this is so generalized and broad that it invites confusion and talk of "dichotomies". with more specificity there would be less of a semantic drift. similar in what way?
with this i strongly agree but the references would be good
i'm not saying it's wrong to have compassion for your friends, but you've expressed plenty of resentment towards them. and maybe it's just venting... or maybe there's a real problem, unsolved?
Absolutely. They have even demonstrated this to be true of “like” even with infants. However, this is not true of “desire”, and this can also be scientifically validated by the many genetic studies that indicate that, unlike rabbits who will mate with their own sisters, humans are a very strongly outbreeding species. When our hormones kick in at adolescence, we venture out in search of “strange.” So, within the context of a relationship which we hope to be amiable but also erotic, how can we best split this difference. How do we avoid both the possibility of highly contentious divorce and the possibility of sex-dead relationship? I very well may be wrong, but it has been my observation that since most people do not consider both these unhappy possibilities when making choice, those who are long-term successful usually just got lucky one way or the other.“Crusader” wrote: The science is pretty clear on this. We like people who are similar to us, not different.
I agree that “prescriptive” norms would likely have that effect. However, self-awareness about your own unique personality, temperament and practices, (however you might choose to categorize, label, or perform them in expressive dance) would likely have positive corrrelation with success. In my old support group, we used to say “self-aware is halfway there”, and however messed up I remain currently, I can assure you I was a whole lot more messed up previous to therapy.Also, adhering to any kind of masculine/feminine prescriptive norms based on your sex correlates with dissatisfaction in relationships. References available upon request.
My comment was not in favour of the model 7wb5 uses, I did state that. I know nothing about it and I'm not really interested in that particular model so I'm not learning more, apart from skimming what 7wb5 writes here.Alphaville wrote: ↑Wed Jan 20, 2021 10:06 amand so i must protest. is protest masculine or feminine?