My 2 cents, perhaps not worth even that amount:
Cent 1: We think prioritization is important --> priority 1 is God; priority 2 is spouse/marriage; priority 3 is kids (depending on the day I might put one kid above another
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; as in, I'm not too thrilled with DS right now as he just kicked the soccer ball over the neighbor's fence for like the 100th time). Lots of folks seem to put the kids above the spouse, and that seems like a recipe for disaster to us as it is counterproductive.
Cent 2: Don't keep score. This is largely resolved by keeping priorities straight as noted in Cent 1 (note that "me" wasn't listed on the priority list at all); but we see problems with couples that say things like: "The husbands had poker night last weekend, so I get a girls night this weekend"; or keeping score around the house as to chores, or kid duties, or money spending. Recipe for disaster.
Also, mazel tov!
I'll now throw in a couple regrets DW and I both share as we are now in our mid-40s:
Regret 1: We wish we'd have started having children much earlier and had more of them.
Regret 2: Although we don't regret moving away from home (we went to middle school/high school together), we wish we'd have moved back home much earlier than we did.
We'll be married 18 years this April; it's the best.
OK, ETA Regret 3: We should have figured out a way to avoid daycare like the plague. We feel super guilty that we had strangers raising our kids at such important phases of their lives. Major parent fail.