Sounds pretty similar to my experience.AxelHeyst wrote: ↑Tue May 02, 2023 12:11 pmThen I spent some time studying maps, and I have a basic intuitive sense of 'where I am' now, and so I can operate socially without much pain. Every once in a while I consult the map again for clues because I've wandered into a region I've not been before and want to ensure that I'm not incorrectly interpreting what I'm seeing with my own eyes.
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If pressed, I can sit and think and break the decisions down using language of the different models and maps, but that's post-event analysis, not what goes on IN my head as the event is transpiring.
I agree with your "best practice for maps" statement. Learn the map, then put it away, and consult it when needed. "Never attempting to force your mental model of the map on the actual landscape itself" to me kinda sounds like "never assume on the basis of your map that you know the landscape better than it knows itself."
Models can be useful - perhaps even necessary for some. The types of thinking patterns that go into making/using models can become problematic both personally and socially if done excessively. Both those statements can be true, right?AxelHeyst wrote: ↑Tue May 02, 2023 12:01 pmI feel like there's an implicit narrative in this thread that some people who are otherwise normal might get too deep into MBTI or other model-building and then become less adroit at social navigation. The arc is, in my experience, the opposite: people who are NOT adroit in social circumstances and find themselves floundering sometimes find MBTI or other models, use these models to build better maps for themselves, and become MORE adroit at social navigation, to the benefit of all.
jacob wrote: There's definitely philosophical tension between the softer "everybody is a unique and beautiful person" approaches and the harder "types of people" approaches. However, for their respective users, they don't require any mental overhead. It's just how their brains are wired. What does require mental overhead or overload would be to be forced to use the other approach.
Agree, a person can believe both "everybody is a unique and beautiful person" and there are "types of people". What is the evidence that people's brains are wired for one of these two approaches?
Agree, it sounds mechanistic and anti-human and creepy. That's definitely some of the vibe I get from the acronym conversations.AxelHeyst wrote: ↑Tue May 02, 2023 12:01 pmAnother idea that I think is probably uncommon and not worth worrying about is the idea that the model-builders and map-readers have a constant internal explicit monologue along the lines of "aha I now have a 47% confidence that this person is TeFi which if my math is correct -- lets see square root of pi, carry the two -- aha yes, just as I suspected, vMeme is green with 4.6% orange tint". Which sounds mechanistic and anti-human and creepy.
I understand the map/territory metaphor. It's pretty good!
That being said, while labeling (i.e. overgeneralizing the characteristics of other people) isn't the point, it kinda is how a lot of the acronym posts read. Types or subtypes are confidently talked about as being a certain, specific way despite wide underlying variability and less utility the more narrow the subtype*. Perhaps not the internal intention, but commonly the actual, in-writing external expression.
*Which was the point I wanted to make earlier - simply to warn about reading too much into things.
I might reformulate and tweak the IQ example slightly. Nassim Taleb makes a relatively persuasive argument that IQ per se isn't informative - rather, only particularly low IQ scores are informative. That is, 90 or 115 or 140 doesn't really mean much, but 60 certainly does. Not trying to argue validity of IQ one way or the other, just the idea of asymmetry.
Just as an exercise, let's flip the script and add in the asymmetry!
We might consider someone who has particular trouble relating/communicating with others, say two standard deviations from the mean, as "mildy socially retarded". They aren't common, only about 2% of the population, so most people only run into them rarely. They require extra help socially (through education of complex social models) to exist in "normie world". Someone of average sociability will live in the "normie world" where almost every everyone relates/communicates in a copecetic, functional way.
Now consider if someone is particularly socially skilled, say two standard deviation above the mean. We might even call them gifted. [Here's an interesting twist...] The odds of this gifted person running into a "mildly socially retarded" person is actually less than 2%, because their ability to socially connect is even greater than a "normie". They are able to connect and communicate effectively even further down the curve. Rather than the gifted person being cursed by being surrounded by socially stunted individuals, the experience of the gifted is nearly identical to the typical "normie". It is the "mildly socially retarded" who suffers the bulk of the discomfort, but only because every social situation they participate in involves them.
New rules are required. It becomes important for the "mildly socially retarded" to learn the basic elements of communication so that they can be functionally understood by the average person, walking people through particulars of their thoughts, desires, and feelings that they can't just assume people have been exposed to before with a ready, esoteric vocabulary. Some of the "mildly socially retarded" resent the "normies" as being "privileged" because of the additional education and effort required to function within society.
Is this better or worse than the IQ example?
FWIW, as someone with third-party test scores that could easily get me into 2SD+ high-IQ societies (bleh!), I simply don't find this depiction:
to be accurate for me, nor for friends of mine who are clearly very bright. The vast majority of social interactions are not "mind-blowing" to anyone. Nor should they be? When, if ever, are you maxing out the processing power on your computer, vs. how often are you just browsing the internet, streaming a video, playing a game, answering an email? The only time the processing power matters is when it's inadequate, and that is quite rare for most computer activities. Even then, it usually just takes a little longer or has less-crisp details. Not a big deal. Similarly, I'm more inclined to believe that if IQ is useful at all, it is most useful not in the context of relative differences, but whether an absolute deficit is present. Similarly, my most socially skilled acquaintances get along well with just about everyone, which is more than average (which would still be "gets along with most people") but not spectacularly so, whereas my most deficient acquaintances get along well with... almost no one. Asymmetry.
@AxelHeyst Shh... don't tell anyone. I'm an INTJ too.
