This post resonated with me for some reasons.
Sclass wrote: ↑Thu Jul 21, 2022 9:57 am
I can just see my 15 yo self saying, “no way man! Seriously? Is this for real? You did that?”
I was at least 18 (maybe I was 20 - I don't know) and I went on a surfing and camping trip by myself up the coast. There was this older guy camping at the same spot and we had a fire and chatted. He was telling me about all his sexual experiences. I couldn't get laid if I was loaded in a brothel. I wouldn't have know where one was and they are legal in my country. I just wasn't like that and I was shy and introverted.
I was completely astounded and thinking he is full of it and then he told me he paid for it every time.
When I started working and having to talk to people I stated dating and it wasn't easy but it was natural.
Sclass wrote: ↑Thu Jul 21, 2022 9:57 am
Buddy ended up in an arranged marriage back in Thailand. He still gets massages in town.
I have one mate who is in a de-facto relationship but he has been whoring for years. He always tells me how he doesn't get laid of his girlfriend but he also talks about going out whoring. He remembers being young and his dad leaving him in the car while his dad went to the whorehouse.
Sclass wrote: ↑Thu Jul 21, 2022 9:57 am
My BIL does this kind of thing in Tijuana. Perpetually single. Kind of pathetic. He’s 50 and never had a girlfriend. 100% dysfunctional with women. He never had to learn. My wife recently asked him, “why do you have to leave the country to have sex?”
Just saying besides being wrong on many levels, you’re not improving yourself if you do this.
I have another mate who got plenty of women when he was younger but then struggled. He is a biggish part Maori guy. He tried everything for years. He got married and she cheated on him. He eventually went to Thailand and he is marrying the woman he picked up (she was a bar girl so he must have paid for it) there. I can't see it ending well but I also don't feel comfortable saying anything because who knows how things will end up.