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@Campitor:

From “12 Rules”, which is currently #12 on Amazon’s charts and available for sale in rural Walmart’s:
If that fails, being turned over a parent’s knee might be required. For the child who is pushing the limits in a spectacularly inspired way, a swat across the backside can indicate requisite seriousness on the part of a responsible adult. There are some situations in which even that will not suffice, partly because some children are very determined, exploratory, and tough, or because the offending behavior is truly severe. And if you’re not thinking such things through, then you’re not acting responsibly as a parent. You’re leaving the dirty work to someone else who will be much dirtier doing it.
What will suffice? He leaves it pretty open ended, IMO.

He also allows for no room for simple development out of less than civilized behavior. For instance, when my children were quite small we lived in graduate student family housing where the playground was filled with kids from all over the world. One day my son picked up a stick and hit a tiny Asian girl over the head, chanting “Ugly eyes. Ugly eyes.” I was enraged, but I simply picked him up, walked him to his room, plopped him on his bed, and shut the door. Then I apologized to the other mother. When I had calmed down, I spoke with him seriously about his behavior, even though I knew that his level of development wasn’t yet at comprehending concepts such as racism. I fully expected that I might see further incidents of similar behavior until his cognitive abilities increased. For instance, his sister at a similar age in loud repeated appeal asking “Why are there so many fat people at this restaurant, Mommy?” You can’t beat a child into developing second order consciousness of feelings of other. You can’t beat a child into appreciating and respecting differences in appearance and culture.

Doesn’t simple common sense and your knowledge of me as a forum mate allow you to predict that my son did not grow into a blustering hateful racist? Wouldn’t it seem more likely that he is now a very well read, well mannered, young man whose best friend was born in India? Isn’t it obvious that beating it out of him wouldn’t have been the correct choice? Isn’t it obvious that Peterson’s paranoia colors his perception of the world?

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@7W5--One of my kids used to bolt for no reason all the time up until about kindergarten ... running into traffic, out into large crowds, into the ocean, etc. I resorted to swatting him because he was too young to understand and it was too dangerous to wait out. Point being, we can all point to anecdotes to confirm or refute that kind of open-ended parenting advice. Taking either extreme, whether too lax or too strict, is a bad idea and some wiggle room is needed to make the advice suit the child and stay within reasonable bounds.


@alphaville -- How can you comment so extensively on JBP when, as you said upthread, you refuse to read his books?

I'm not arguing JBP's strengths or weaknesses. I'm just turned off by this thread. It feels like his ideas are being attacked not because of their merits but because of his perceived conservative bent or the nature of some of his followers. I don't care if people like or dislike JBP but at least be honest about why he turns you off.

The other criticism was that JBP shouldn't be allowed to comment on society because his own house isn't in order. That's seems ridiculous on this forum where people comment all the time on ERE matters even if their own budgets are still bloated and/or they aren't anywhere near being financially independent.


Sorry for ranting, but as someone said in a different thread, the contempt on the forum is palatable at times lately.

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Oh, I resorted to a swat on the rear with my son on occasion also, but I never constructed it into a rigid edifice of best practice elst cruel world will punish him worse. I’m sure I would find your kids quite likable and vice-versa. Even though my style was admittedly too laissez faire at times. I remember attending a semi-formal event when my son was around 8 or so, and being amazed to see him going up to people, introducing himself, and shaking hands, because I hadn’t even thought to directly instruct him in such matters :lol: Oops!

And I truly don’t believe that it is Peterson’s conservatism that bothers me. As evidence I would offer that I loved Ivan Illich on the loss of gender in culture*. I’m sure I noted somewhere way up thread that I believe there is something to gender dichotomy theory if/when it isn’t bluntly applied.

Maybe it is just that Peterson’s dark paranoia scares me off. One of the themes of gender dichotomy theory is the man you would choose to follow down a dark alley. Peterson is definitely not that man for me.

*Also, I almost voted for John James. Couldn’t do it, because issues, but definitely going with the gut yummy.

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7Wannabe5 wrote:
Fri Nov 20, 2020 6:24 am
Doesn’t simple common sense and your knowledge of me as a forum mate allow you to predict that my son did not grow into a blustering hateful racist? Wouldn’t it seem more likely that he is now a very well read, well mannered, young man whose best friend was born in India? Isn’t it obvious that beating it out of him wouldn’t have been the correct choice? Isn’t it obvious that Peterson’s paranoia colors his perception of the world?
Yes, yes, yes, no because you assume he's being paranoid and as I highlighted previously, JBP doesn't believe in starting with spankings first. Verbal correction and timeout sessions are the beginning steps and to be administered as little as possible. Picking up your son, walking him to his room, and plopping him on his bed, would be considered physical discipline by JBP and coincidentally it would be one of his beginning steps regarding discipline if positive reinforcement fails.

And the JBP book quote your provided left out some context so I'm including the previous paragraph below - your JBP quoted section is underlined. What you left out is in bold text.
So where does all that leave us? With the decision to discipline effectively, or to discipline ineffectively ( but never to forego discipline altogether, because nature and society will punish in a draconian manner whatever errors of childhood behavior remain uncorrected). So here are a few practical hints: time out can be an extremely effective form of punishment, particularly if the misbehaving child is welcome as soon as he controls his temper. An angry child should sit by himself until he calms down. Then he should be allowed to return to normal life. That means the child wins - instead of his anger. The rule is "Come be with us as soon as you can behave properly." This is a very good deal for child, parent, and society. You'll be able to tell if your child has really regained control. You'll like him again, despite his earlier misbehavior. if you're still mad, maybe he hasn't completely repented - or maybe you should do something about your tendency to hold a grudge.
If your child is the kind of determined varmint who simply runs away, laughing , when placed on the steps or his room, physical restraint might have to be added to the time out routine. A child can be held carefully but firmly in the upper arms, until he or she stops squirming and pays attention.
If that fails, being turned over a parent’s knee might be required. For the child who is pushing the limits in a spectacularly inspired way, a swat across the backside can indicate requisite seriousness on the part of a responsible adult. There are some situations in which even that will not suffice, partly because some children are very determined, exploratory, and tough, or because the offending behavior is truly severe. And if you’re not thinking such things through, then you’re not acting responsibly as a parent. You’re leaving the dirty work to someone else who will be much dirtier doing it.
And JBP later states the following:
A parent who is seriously aware of his or her limited tolerance and capacity for misbehavior when provoked can therefore seriously plan a proper discipline strategy - particularly if monitored by an equally awake partner - and never let things degenerate to the point where geniune hatred emerges. Beware. There are toxic families everywhere. They make no rules and limit no misbehavior. The parents lash out randomly and unpredictably. The children live in chaos and are crushed, if they're timid, or rebel, counterproductively, if they're tough. It's not good. It can get murderous.
Here's a fifth and final and most general principle. Parents have a duty to act as proxies for the real world - merciful proxies, caring proxies -but proxies, nonetheless. This obligation supersedes any responsibility to ensure happiness, foster creativity, or boost self-esteem. It is the primary duty of parents to make their children socially desirable. That will provide the child opportunity, self-regard, and security. It's more important even that fostering individual identity. That Holy Grail can only be pursued, in any case, after a high degree of social sophistication has been established.
A lot of nuance is being left out. To me it's clear that JBP isn't advocating wonted beatings of children. Spanking is only applied when all other methods have failed. And the spanking used must be carefully considered and applied as lightly as possible. And I'm fairly confident that he wouldn't advocate closed-fist remediation either - something that his detractors seem to imply by quoting his disciplinary escalation process.

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jennypenny wrote:
Fri Nov 20, 2020 7:20 am
@alphaville -- How can you comment so extensively on JBP when, as you said upthread, you refuse to read his books?
the man provides endless bloviating on youtubes, lectures, speeches, articles, public debates, lectures, etc. ad nauseam. hours really, i’ve watched plenty, how much more of this does one need?

if his lectures are part of the publicity tour, i’m not interested in what he’s selling: nature wants to kill us, hierarchy optimizes survival, therefore submit and climb it individually.

sure, fix your posture and climb on the hierarchy, but then what? in such ponzi schemes, the ones at the bottom of the pyramid end up dead. individual climbing is not a cure for this. and hierarchies don’t always work out favorably for the group, so *we replace them*.

john waters clearly saw this coming decades ago :lol:
http://images2.fanpop.com/image/photos/ ... 64-710.jpg
jennypenny wrote:
Fri Nov 20, 2020 7:20 am
I'm not arguing JBP's strengths or weaknesses. I'm just turned off by this thread. It feels like his ideas are being attacked not because of their merits but because of his perceived conservative bent or the nature of some of his followers. I don't care if people like or dislike JBP but at least be honest about why he turns you off.
i am honestly turned off by the man’s paranoia and masochism as underpinnings on how he thinks we should structure society. i find them toxic and dangerous.

and i’ve said also i’d work with him in an individual basis and have used some of his advice to help friends in trouble. so i don’t know if you saw that.

where i reject him is as a social theorist. his individual advice to climb the hierarchy so you can feel better does not scale, just like a ponzi scheme does not scale.

i also reject the idea that the shape of hierarchies is a given. yes, hierarchies are real, network effects are real, but no we don’t have to submit to them. also in human societies we have hierarchies within hierarchies. we’re a lot more complicated than lobster s (and i’e read the chapter on lobsters), sure, some basic things are the same, but the devil is in the details.

while i agree with him and other hobbesians like paglia that nature is not benevolent, i think it’s also human nature not to submit to nature. (sometimetimes we go overboard with this and try to conquer it, and of course fail). so i refuse to be a lobster (but i wasn’t one in the first place anyway)
jennypenny wrote:
Fri Nov 20, 2020 7:20 am
The other criticism was that JBP shouldn't be allowed to comment on society because his own house isn't in order. That's seems ridiculous on this forum where people comment all the time on ERE matters even if their own budgets are still bloated and/or they aren't anywhere near being financially independent.
that’s not me, that’s his own rule #6, and something he talks about often in public.
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Fri Nov 20, 2020 7:20 am
Sorry for ranting, but as someone said in a different thread, the contempt on the forum is palatable at times lately.
i think it was mister imperceptible who said upthread he finds some people contemptible? that wasn’t me.

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jennypenny wrote:
Fri Nov 20, 2020 7:20 am
@alphaville -- How can you comment so extensively on JBP when, as you said upthread, you refuse to read his books?
the man provides endless bloviating on youtubes, lectures, speeches, articles, public debates, lectures, etc. ad nauseam. hours really, i’ve watched plenty, how much more of this does one need?

if his lectures are part of the publicity tour, i’m not interested in what he’s selling: nature wants to kill us, hierarchy optimizes survival, therefore submit and climb it individually.

sure, fix your posture and climb on the hierarchy, but then what? in such ponzi schemes, the ones at the bottom of the pyramid end up dead. individual climbing is not a cure for this. and hierarchies don’t always work out favorably for the group, so, as humans, *we replace them*.

john waters clearly saw this coming decades ago :lol: [warning: rape imagery and adult humor]
http://images2.fanpop.com/image/photos/ ... 64-710.jpg
jennypenny wrote:
Fri Nov 20, 2020 7:20 am
I'm not arguing JBP's strengths or weaknesses. I'm just turned off by this thread. It feels like his ideas are being attacked not because of their merits but because of his perceived conservative bent or the nature of some of his followers. I don't care if people like or dislike JBP but at least be honest about why he turns you off.
i am honestly turned off by the man’s paranoia and masochism as underpinnings on how he thinks we should structure society. i find them toxic and dangerous.

and i’ve said also i’d work with him in an individual basis and have used some of his advice to help friends in trouble. so i don’t know if you saw that.

where i reject him is as a social theorist. his individual advice to climb the hierarchy so you can feel better does not scale, just like a ponzi scheme does not scale.

i also reject the idea that the shape of hierarchies is a given. yes, hierarchies are real, network effects are real, but no we don’t have to submit to them. also in human societies we have hierarchies within hierarchies. we’re a lot more complicated than lobster s (and i’e read the chapter on lobsters), sure, some basic things are the same, but the devil is in the details.

while i agree with him and other hobbesians like paglia that nature is not benevolent, i think it’s also human nature not to submit to nature. (sometimetimes we go overboard with this and try to conquer it, and of course fail). so i refuse to be a hierarchical lobster (but i wasn’t one in the first place anyway)
jennypenny wrote:
Fri Nov 20, 2020 7:20 am
The other criticism was that JBP shouldn't be allowed to comment on society because his own house isn't in order. That's seems ridiculous on this forum where people comment all the time on ERE matters even if their own budgets are still bloated and/or they aren't anywhere near being financially independent.
that’s not me, that’s his own rule #6, and something he talks about often in public. i was just pointing it out.
jennypenny wrote:
Fri Nov 20, 2020 7:20 am
Sorry for ranting, but as someone said in a different thread, the contempt on the forum is palatable at times lately.
i think it was mister imperceptible who said upthread he finds some people contemptible? that wasn’t me, sorry.
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I tend to be one always looking for "gurus" to follow (or to at least learn something from), whether in the form of Catholic saints, or FIRE folks like Jacob or even (to a much lesser extent) MMM, to environmental activist types like Kingsnorth, Kalmus (or, recently, Rob Greenfield), to all sorts of fiction writers and their writings, and musicians and their music, to inspiring folks I'm lucky enough to be friends with IRL; and yes, even the occasional YouTube prophet--Bishop Barron comes to mind, and so does Peterson. I don't "follow" these folks because I want to emulate every single aspect of their lives or their teachings (I'm not taking Holy Orders, for one); rather, I follow these folks because at least some of the things they are saying (in words or in how they live their lives) are new to me (or at least framed in a way that is new to me) and push me to be a better man/husband/father/friend/Catholic/global citizen. I've had lots and lots of laundry-folding weekend JBP YouTube binge watches, and a lot of what he said spoke to me and prompted me to look at my life and the various roles I play in my community in a different and ultimately more positive and constructive way. A big part of why that is the case for me for Peterson is because he strikes me as coming from an authentic place in a world where authenticity is often lacking in the messages we hear from school, from big business, from politicians, from our parents, from our priests/pastors, etc. etc.

I guess my point is, JBP has some good stuff to say and he's saying it in a way that speaks to a lot of folks (likely, mostly young men in the West) who are really struggling to figure out what being a "man" is in the modern world, where nothing is sacred and where we are encouraged to tear everything down. I really, really don't understand the constant need in our culture to tear down every idea (and every person) which/who says something somewhat different than what is the currently accepted cultural dogma.

Edit to make this point clearer: There's a whole lot of paternalism wrapped up in saying someone or something or some idea is "dangerous." Let people take the good of what JBP has to say and trust people to be able to ignore the bad.
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Hristo Botev wrote:
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I really, really don't understand the constant need in our culture to tear down every idea (and every person) which/who says something somewhat different than what is the currently accepted cultural dogma.
i can’t speak for others, but for me it’s the dogma that’s the problem. offering one dogmatic school vs an existing one just perpetuates this.

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also i’ve offered as counterpoints to peterson not stalin and mao or some psychopathic nihilist, but marsha lineham and john bradshaw.

check them out

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marsha_M._Linehan

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_Bradshaw_(author)

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@Campitor:
A parent who is seriously aware of his or her limited tolerance and capacity for misbehavior when provoked
Can’t you see that Peterson is describing himself here, but projecting his own “limited tolerance” on to the general population? All I am really saying is that it seems to me, as a person who has both raised her own children and worked in a variety of settings with very young children over the course of more than 40 years, it seems to me that Peterson is not temperamentally well suited to working with young children. Not everybody is. He seems like he is too much the colicky type himself to be able to be calm and patient with the very young. The funny thing is that he actually reminds me of my first black turtleneck Nietzche reading husband who was an extreme liberal more so than the random Republican I might date.

Maybe paranoid isn’t the right word, but the man filled his house with dark art of the Holocaust. Does that strike you as a great theme for a nursery school?

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here’s a legal movie (i think free with commercials?) of what i imagine as a comedy of @7w5 getting driving lessons from peterson

https://pluto.tv/on-demand/movies/happy ... y-2008-1-1

en ra ha! :lol:

great stuff really, brilliant cast, incredible improv/unscripted performances, highly memorable. sally hawkins is delightful and eddie marsan is great. i don’t like to spoil with plot advances but check it out some day.

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@7WB

I understand what you're saying. I would agree that perhaps Peterson isn't the best person to run a nursery unless he presents evidence to the contrary.
But that alone is no reason to disregard his viewpoints, as a psychologist, in regards to disciplining children. He has some valid points and adds some value even if not all of it is applicable or true. I'd like to see any psychologist, or any other professional, that gets anything 100% correct all the time or is in agreement with everything their peers believe within the soft sciences.

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@Alphaville:

Lol- I’m actually more subdued than that IRL. Absent-minded professor wandering about in a daze xNTP not bouncing off the ceiling Entp. I’m not infrequently mistaken for a dumb sloppy blonde until I start talking. Terrible old men who oogle Britney Spears videos and use phrases such as “Big Polish Girl” like me. The affluent Republican BF I just dumped just texted that he would consider marrying me if I lose maybe 40 lbs. I am so happy that my kids are well grown and I have earned the luxury of resort to the ridiculous.

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@Campitor:

Agreed. Who am I to censor?

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@Alphaville:

Lol- I’m actually more subdued than that IRL. Absent-minded professor wandering about in a daze xNTP not bouncing off the ceiling Entp. I’m not infrequently mistaken for a dumb sloppy blonde until I start talking. Terrible old men who oogle Britney Spears videos and use phrases such as “Big Polish Girl” like me. The affluent Republican BF I just dumped just texted that he would consider marrying me if I lose maybe 40 lbs. I am so happy that my kids are well grown and I have earned the luxury of resort to the ridiculous.
oh yah i didn’t mean that these characters are carbon copies of real persons, much less you.

but they do illustrate a dichotomy in their approaches to life, in a way that’s both comical and very serious. and they have very different results in their lives, too, as the film progresses. not that a film is real life either, but one of the things it does is point to how you can be relaxed and competent and wound tight and incompetent. we all see examples of this in real life all day.

and lolololol what kind of marriage proposal is that? :lol: i can’t even....

anyway i hope you enjoy the movie. i gotta get some admin work done this morning...

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“Alphaville” wrote: how you can be relaxed and competent and wound tight and incompetent.
Gotcha. Yup. N and P can make you seem vague and sloppy, but if you also have a lot of A for Assertive instead of T for Turbulent, well, let’s just say you can earn something like a living quieting down some big old colicky barking dogs.

ETA: Unfair to imply correlation between Republicanism and such a variety of marital proposal. Has much more correlation with profession of Engineer. He also noted that he would prefer that I was less lazy :lol: I blame the influence of this forum for such disparagement.

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Alphaville wrote:
Fri Nov 20, 2020 8:52 am
i think it was mister imperceptible who said upthread he finds some people contemptible? that wasn’t me.
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Everything will likely get worse as even in these posts I read contempt, and I would consider the people here smarter than most. The modus operandi is Divide and Conquer. It is working like a charm. Contempt for the other kills reconciliation in the bud.

Jedi mind tricks do not work. If the other person is not sincere, there is no hope of repair.
My contempt is reserved for individuals. Not entire classes of people.

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Mister Imperceptible wrote:
Fri Nov 20, 2020 11:30 am
My contempt is reserved for individuals. Not entire classes of people.
oh, that thread. i don’t know what that was about.

i’ve only been criticizing peterson here. but i don’t have contempt for the guy—i do feel compassion for his pain, and i think he has honorable intentions, but i believe he’s acting out his issues in the public sphere to some extent (but aren’t we all, anyway, in the end?).

that about sums it up.

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