Ha! And -- well put, thanks for the backup.ertyu wrote: ↑Sat Aug 22, 2020 1:41 pmoof, this entire post has been a call-out. did you have to?? did you really lmao
...When it comes to ERE, it's useful to remind ourselves what the goal is: self-mastery, not being tightly coupled. that pesky maximum life enjoyment you wrote about. Sorting out the psychological shit is essential to the ere project.
RoamingFrancis wrote: ↑Sat Aug 22, 2020 10:02 pmMetta...
In my opinion, the whole point of ERE is to gain the time and space to figure out the whole happiness question. FI, by itself, does not guarantee freedom from suffering. Remember the Buddha started his life as a prince, but that didn't answer his deeper question: why the fuck is there so much suffering? I see ERE as an excellent way to gain "freedom from" hindrances that impede happiness (e.g. soul-crushing jobs, environmentally destructive lifestyles, the illusion that consumption will lead to lasting happiness), but does not guarantee "freedom to" live a good life. ERE gives you autonomy with the brush and the canvas, but you still have to paint the damn thing yourself.
JMG says magic in the forms of blessings and curses only work if the recipient is informed of the curse/blessing. Thanks brother.
Hmm yes that's a good point. The Buddha's life of a prince was the beginning of the story. Makes me think of how Jacob has said (somewhere) he considers L7/Internalized ERE to be the starting point, aka achieving your first black belt, which just means you're now baseline useful and your real education can commence. And yes - I definitely feel like the past decade of my life has been, to some extent, "Man, I wish I had more time to root through some of this stuff, but I'm going too fast and I don't know how to catch a break." And then I found ERE and -- oh, it's not that hard actually.
Whoa... that's a big idea there. It's one thing to repeat "i am enough" over and over again... it's another level to say "i am enough even if I fail at literally everything I ever try". Thank you for that, I'm going to carry it around for a while.
Wow thanks for the comment, and welcome! *cough*pleasestartajournali'llreadthehelloutofit*cough*disk_poet wrote: ↑Sun Aug 23, 2020 4:35 amI also feel like introspection is super important because the one constant that shows up in all the equations of my life is "me". Funnily enough I used to not see it that way for most of my life. I only looked at the other factors but didn't really appreciate the impact of "me". I feel a bit stupid not being able to formulate it earlier and I am sure it's been beaten to death on the internet but it took a loong time to really click for me and I am probably still not there most of the time. I spend a lot of time cultivating habits and skills improving the outside but not enough dealing with myself even though it is the one constant that scales everything up. Describing it that way is the mental trick that I use to get over the you're not worth it, don't waste time on yourself inner voice that sometimes comes up. It also forced me to take therapy serious. I don't know if that makes any sense.
Re setting boundaries: I am a but burned out by work because I never set boundaries too. Funnily enough this finally led to a kind of "don't care' attitude which in turn led to me setting firmer boundaries by accident which then in turn actually commended more respect and a healthier work/life balance from my colleagues and clients. +1 on setting boundaries not only being good for yourself but also for others. The climate at work really changed. Maybe being more independent through ERE can make it easier to set boundaries because you feel less pressured. Again.. I feel it's this complex interconnected web and deciding which node to start working on is probably hugely dependent on personality, situation, etc. but I find working on it hugely satisfying. Which I never thought I would.
First paragraph - I think I'm with you there, but I also might be getting something else. In which case, congrats, I think you just made art. I have a feeling Jacob's comments around the focus of "doing" or "being" is related? I can do this, I can do that vs. I can be me, I can be this version of myself.
And - thank you, excellent point about setting boundaries being good for others as well. Because it takes >1 to tango in these relationships, and then you're feeding a drama triangle. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Karpman_drama_triangle
I'm definitely feeling that effect, of being able to set better boundaries due to my semiERE status (>5years of FU stash).