I've been thinking about the Wheaton Scale, and how those more than +/- 1 level from you are difficult to understand. It seems valuable/important to record how I'm thinking and progressing in the moment, because I probably won't be able to understand my now-L3 self when I'm a L5/6/7. I won't remember what seemed revelatory to me.
In this past week I noticed some psychological changes in myself. Every time I don't act in a consumerist way, I feel powerful. The other day I went in to town to run some errands. The errands were a bust, and I was annoyed and frustrated. I had a thought: "A month ago, in this situation, I would have brainstormed something else to do/buy/spend money on town so as not to 'waste a trip'. But now that idea is repugnant." And that made me feel less dependent on the system, more self-sufficient, more in control of my own life... more powerful.
This relates to the dynamic of "high earners solve problems with money rather than time because they're stressed" in a way I wasn't expecting.
The more work-related stress I experience now, the more motivated I am to not spend money. Even though I like my job and have generally positive feelings towards my company, I feel like I'm sticking it to the man every time I don't spend money. I'm buying my freedom one unnecessary expense avoided at a time.
I'm happy to report that DW and I seem to be on completely the same page with ERE in terms of motivation, getting "the vision", etc. I anticipate any further issues will be minor issues of execution, rather than major issues of incompatible vision. This is a huge relief to feel like my partner is
my partner in this, that we're doing this alt thing together and are going to build an incredible, weird life together.
Some impactful recent reading:
Jacob pointed to this post:
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Jacob wrote:In general, standard of living = skill of living * cost of living.
For most people (consumers), the skill of living = 1, so
standard of living = cost of living
My thinking about life in general has been very influenced by the strategic theory of John Boyd ("Science, Strategy, and War" by Frans P Osinga is, to me, the Boyd Bible). In his terms (which he borrowed from German Blitzkrieg theory), Skill of Living is the schwerpunkt, a word that literally means center of gravity, but should be thought of as main focus. It is the single most important point of focus around which to organize an entity's efforts.
(Let's say you have 100 soldiers, and you're facing off against 100 other soldiers. You can all face up in a line and have a go at it, but your energies are diffused. Take your 100 guys, and get them all to focus on breaking through one single point of the enemy lines, and you're probably going to penetrate, get behind the other guys, wreak havoc, and win the day. Battles aren't as simple as that obviously, but that example is illustrative of the concept.)
The schwerpunkt for any organization will change over time and over scale of impact. "Skill of Living" is the schwerpunkt for my ERE journey, at the moment. A sub-schwerpunkt might be groceries. In a few months, it might be "find cheap salvaged materials for building micro-shelters".
I suspect that, in relation to the sigmoid effort/results curve, it is best to focus on one dimension at a time rather than all of them. So: get food budget to $400/mo.
Then, get gas to <$150/mo.
Then get housing to <$50/mo (vanpeople).
Then, get 'discretionary' to <$100mo. Okay. Round 2: get food budget <$300/mo. Then... etc. After 2 or three rounds, monthly expenses should be about 1 jafi.
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I've been making lists of skills/activities I'm interested in pursuing both now, as I can, but in particular what I'm excited to fill my time with post-FIRE:
Hunting, tanning hides, sewing, bushcraft, fishing, building micro-shelters and treehouses out of salvaged material, gardening, humanure composting, motorcycle repair/maintenance/restoration/customization, slow travel, firewood harvesting, auto repair, building overlanding equipment out of salvaged materials, how to use a slide rule, metal fabrication, keeping financial records in a physical ledger, binding my own notebooks (I've made two in the past, but did a pretty shit job I'm afraid - I want to get good at it), figure drawing, landscape sketching and watercolor, writing...
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I was poking around on JL Collins site and loved this bit in his manifesto:
JL Collins wrote:This whole civilization thing has been a huge mistake and we’d all be better off as hunter/gatherers. But since we do live in this complex, technical world you had best learn about money. Money is the single most important, effective tool in navigating it.