Why do debutantes avoid group sex?Yeah. I was assuming you weren't a group sex kind of gal, Edith.
SO MANY “thank you” notes to write.
Why do debutantes avoid group sex?Yeah. I was assuming you weren't a group sex kind of gal, Edith.
Very self-aware and mature perspective for someone your age. However, I would note ( based on experience having once been part of a long-term therapy group for couples with this problem), that you may find that your level of desire may vary over time and with different partners. Also, although the sexual aspect of polyamory may not tend towards pushing your buttons, the fact that your partner(s) may share other intimate interactions which you do value with other partner(s) may prove problematic. For instance, if your partner made his other partner special salads and called her "snookums" or bought a puppy with her or took her on a trip to Italy.BookLoverL wrote:I naturally have a pretty low desire for partnered sex (we're talking once a month maximum, and only that much if I feel completely comfortable and non-pressured), and I don't think I'm given to jealousy, so it seems like it'd be a great way to experience the benefits of a relationship without worrying that I'm boxing a higher-sex-drive partner into a life of dissatisfaction.
I am not too fat to get a date. I feel like I am too fat to enjoy dating. Also, it is possible that I am somewhat BTDT on dating, and I am currently living with The Cowboy. Our relationship contract does not preclude dating others, but since it does provide me with many relationship benefits, it raises the bar on the motivational energy to get out there. Actually, now that I think about it, since I am not The Cowboy's type even on a very good day, one of my primary motivations to date somebody else would be simple physical chemistry, so feeling very good about meeting my own standards for my particular flavor of appeal is relatively more important than it would be in a total relationship vacuum.llorona wrote: Are you really too fat to date, or do you just feel that way?
Yup, that's pretty much what I did after my divorce. My first online dating profile started out with something like "What I seek in a man are the three "I"s; Intelligence, Initiative, and b-I-ceps (oops, doesn't start with an I. )" I wasn't giving full consideration to how literal men can be when I wrote this profile, so I was surprised and amused by how often my dates would roll up their sleeves and give their guns a flex during the course of a first coffee meet and greet. So, that was a fun time of my life, but now I am another 12 years older, and one more failed "marriage" down the road, and lately my soul seems more inclined to bounce between 9 and 89, only rarely landing on 19 which IMO is the ideal soul state for being open to dating and all of its possibilities.I'm sorry your ex-husband did not fulfill his promises after you reached your goal. My reaction likely would have been to find a larger, stronger man to toss me around in bed.
Yeah, on the bright side I imagine some great-great-granddaughter who is feeling stuck in some bad sunk-cost situation due to feelings such as shame, guilt, or social obligation and she happens upon this picture of me, and it's kind of like I am granting her permission from my grave to be free and do as she pleases.If so, perhaps you will come back as a fly on the wall at the precise moment in time when your future descendants find documentary evidence of your interest in rope.
That is, does the theory or a similar one apply to people's relation[ship] with their job/work? It can feel like that:llorona wrote: ↑Thu Jul 18, 2019 3:18 pmIf we took a poll of folks on the ERE forum, I wonder where everyone would land relative to the general population? In other words, does interest in ERE (which is extreme by definition) attract people with a certain attachment style, or is there no correlation?