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EdithKeeler wrote:
Sat Mar 09, 2019 10:02 am
. It’s hard to see our heroes/peers/family die (Ja Michael Vincent died recently, too—age 73, but apparently had a really rough life after his success).
So what category/categories does Jan Micheal Vincent fall into in the heroes/peers/family triad?

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So what category/categories does Jan Micheal Vincent fall into in the heroes/peers/family triad?
Well, if you include in “heroes” the group “dudes who you thought were totally hot hardbodies when you were a hormonal 16 year old watching ‘Airwolf’ on TV in the 80’s,” then the heroes category. :D

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I can only imagine your grief when Patrick Swayze died.

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I can only imagine your grief when Patrick Swayze died.
Nah. Not my type. Now Tom Selleck from the old Magnum days..... mmm.

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It was like Knight Rider in the air. Except I don't think it was a talking helicopter.

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Well one of the benefits of getting a little older is the nostalgia. I still remember the theme song to Airwolf very clearly, not only from watching the show but also from playing the NES game.

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Tyler9000 wrote:
Sat Mar 09, 2019 3:49 pm
I still remember the theme song to Airwolf very clearly,
Be careful. The last man to say this to Edith ended up looking worse than Jan Michael Vincent when she got through with him.

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@Bankai

If you know yourself, the actions taken in the last 200 days should bring you satisfaction at death. If you know thyself, regret shouldn't be part of the equation.

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My brief unscientific observation is that every INTJ I know struggles with concepts of death and more importantly decrepitude.

Not to say that other types don't.

Seems to me that those who have a high degree of need to control their situation (which also makes them successful, goal oriented etc.) take it the hardest when the body starts to do what it must in the cycle of life.

Someone said - Nobody wants to die, even those who want to go to heaven.

Getting old does not have to suck. With time, reflection and experience, aging can be a wonderful thing. No longer we have to waste time on stuff that does not matter and can discern true friends from acquaintances. Hopefully one has more resources when older to focus on and do things that as a child we could only dream of but had neither the agency nor ability to execute on.

We could hate our bodies for not being as resilient when younger or we could love it and tend to it even as we thank it for having gotten us this far for many don't even get the chance to start their journey at the gates of life and so many others have since fallen by the wayside.

Death in the modern world is easy - there are so many medical innovations and drugs etc that were not available to thousands of generations of our ancestors, many of whom perhaps suffered horribly for what we now can so easily assuage. On top of it euthanasia is an ever increasing and acceptable option. So I submit that in today's world, it is not death and decrepitude that are so much an issue but having lived a life that one can honestly say has been well lived (we all can make clever arguments and bullshit others but not ourselves, especially in the long run).

So fear not dotage or the grim reaper but the gentle solace of complacence and inattention to living.

M

I met a traveler from an antique land,
Who said—“Two vast and trunkless legs of stone
Stand in the desert. . . . Near them, on the sand,
Half sunk a shattered visage lies, whose frown,
And wrinkled lip, and sneer of cold command,
Tell that its sculptor well those passions read
Which yet survive, stamped on these lifeless things,
The hand that mocked them, and the heart that fed;
And on the pedestal, these words appear:
My name is Ozymandias, King of Kings;
Look on my Works, ye Mighty, and despair!
Nothing beside remains. Round the decay
Of that colossal Wreck, boundless and bare
The lone and level sands stretch far away.”

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Geeze... I just found out a woman I went to college with just died. Age 54. Breast cancer. Getting old sucks... but not being able to get old is worse.

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EdithKeeler wrote:And finally: Jim Carroll:
I love Jim Carroll, except he reminds me so much of my ex-husband, who also introduced me to the music of Carroll. He would dance around the living room like Chris Robinson when he was drunk. Ah youth...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BYyRLTveFJQ


OTOH, I don't think I ever watched a single episode of Air Wolf. My teen crush during that era was Mel Gibson in "The Year of Living Dangerously" shortly followed by Jimmy Smits in LA Law. I am trying to remember the name of a more recent series that featured an ever changing cast of supporting men who looked good when they took their shirts off, but because my brain is aging I can't summon it up :( I think it had a single word title that meant something in between "Girlfriends" and "Sluts."

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Generation X’s existential panic after Luke Perry death

I'm Perry's age so I've thought about this a lot the last few days. Val Kilmer is another one from our generation who's not going to last much longer. My father was only about 5 years older than I am now when he died of a sudden, unexpected heart attack. It seemed young at the time but now I realize just how young it feels.

It's weird. It's not that I hate getting older, it's that I hate being older even though I still feel young. Does that make any sense? I have a brain that's better than ever -- more nuanced thinking, more mature tastes, a more developed sense of humor, a better appreciation of the important things in life -- yet it's trapped in a body that loses a little bit of ground every day. I guess I assumed that my body and mind would feel the same age, or at least close, but that's not the case ... at all. I'm going to be really pissed if I die now that I've finally got my shit together.

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I'm going to be really pissed if I die now that I've finally got my shit together.
Exactly!!!

I’m trying to get my head around losing my college friend. She was exactly one day younger than I am. I’ve had some school friends die—2 suicides, couple of ODs, accidents, cystic fibrosis, even a murder! I’ve had a couple of friends treat successfully for breast cancer, even. But this death... like the piece you linked to re Luke Perry—it’s a reminder that we’re getting old—but we’re still young, too. For me, it’s a real reminder to get going on that bucket list.

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EdithKeeler wrote:
Sun Mar 10, 2019 4:36 pm
For me, it’s a real reminder to get going on that bucket list.
My shrink told me to make a bucket list and get started on it. He said 'if you get to the end of the list and you're still alive, make another one.' :lol:

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jennypenny wrote:
Sun Mar 10, 2019 5:00 pm
He said 'if you get to the end of the list and you're still alive, make another one.
As I do for a quarter of a century now. Number 1 of that list is to take care of what I eat and how long I sleep and to go out and sport every day.. And then follows the rest of my bucket which changes with time. It gives a lot of satisfaction if you reach one of the goals you have set. A friend of mine, also in his seventies, is now president of his golf-club. He said I have become good in speeches at funerals as so many of (the old) members die. It gives him satisfaction to do so with much empathy...

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jennypenny wrote:
Sun Mar 10, 2019 4:15 pm
It's weird. It's not that I hate getting older, it's that I hate being older even though I still feel young. Does that make any sense?
Of course it makes sense! It's why my early retirement is focused around childhood-like activities; gotta get them in before all I can do is reminisce about them, even if I'm looking forward to 20-25 more years of activities before reminiscing is all that remains.

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Relatives I've not met before, from an "eastern" branch of the family, happened to be in Portland this weekend, so I attended the gathering. These are children and grandchildren of a cousin who I never met. For them it was very emotional as apparently I highly resembled my cousin (he passed away about 2 years ago and was 31 years older). At the other end of aging, the grandchildren are in their 20s and to me they all looked like teenagers, so I have some mental recalibrating to do...

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I was listening to a TED talk today by Anne Lamott and she said she had a friend who was 70 or so. He told her “I feel like I’m 30 years old but like I have something really really wrong with me.” Funny because it’s true!

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42 was great. Being 42 was just like being 21, but with fewer frets about the future. OTOH, for me, 54 is just like 14, highly erratic hormones, ass growing like a melon in August, hair frizzing out like cotton candy, making out with two boys at the same time in some abandoned barn in the woods.

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Lol ... I'm growing out my blonde hair and letting the grey come in, and I'm starting to wish I'd done it in my 40s when I was not at war with my body.

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I went through a period of time last year where I was thinking about getting older/health issues/death a lot and have finally started getting past it a bit. I realized it wasn't death itself that I was afraid of, but rather some sort of sickness before death, similar to how sliding off of a slippery road into the ditch isn't nearly as bad as driving miles and miles on icy roads fearing an accident. I had become a bit paranoid about getting sick at a really young age and missing out on so much of life.

Now that I have a baby with a heart problem, the same old thoughts have sort of crept back, but I'm keeping them at bay and just enjoying each day with her. DW and I are in good health and so is she. I try to remember Mr Scamander's advice on worrying about things you can't completely control - if suffering may be in your future, why choose to experience it twice?

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