Yeah, I’m actually working on that. Or thinking about working on that. It’s just 1) that’s never been my way and 2) it’s a damn lot of trouble and 3) having dated in Memphis I can attest to the fact that the selection is poor (lotta Bible thumpers, college football nuts and rabid Republicans).Right, so keep him in your life, AND start dating so you can find another guy who can fulfill your needs/wants/druthers that he isn't You might be surprised at the results. Notice that he isn't holding you to a contract of monogamy, you are holding you to a contract of monogamy. Trust me, I get this, but it might be worth at least going to the trouble of trying to untangle why you are doing this.
No, at my advanced age I have come to understand that one person doesn’t necessarily give you everything you want/need, and I’m single and not interested in marriage. But probably still old fashioned enough to not want to sleep around, plus too lazy to look very hard for someone, AND too busy to be with someone that’s going to want a ton of my time.
It will all work out, of that I’m certain—it’s just a transition period for me, I think. But it’s good to know xDBF is there, too. It reassures me.
(He can have pretty much any, um, intimate act he’d like. Problem is, he probably won’t ask).