Re: A family father's path through life
Posted: Sun Apr 01, 2018 4:08 pm
@GDP, @SWB,
Thanks!!
Right now I am in hyper-space: life doesn't have hours enough to let me do a tenth of what I'd like..
I heard "Rich dad poor dad" and had a few interesting ideas... but writing them is one of the things I didn't have time to do..
It's ok, I'll re-listen to it in the future.
Right now I'm reading a book called "The mulligan" by Wally Armstrong and Ken Blanchard, which seems a bit forced (very Blanchard style?), but again with interesting ideas (I decided that reading what I have at home before looking anywhere else is very zen-wise both in waste control and mind flexibility))
I decided to write them here (even if it's by parts) so I don't forget them
The book says golf reflects life, and thus states a few things about golf you're supposed to translate into your life:
- There's also a moment in which one character tells the other: "you're not good enough to get that mad" after he gets mad for missing a putt.. he then realizes he doesn't practice enough and yet he expected outstanding performance every shot.
- If your scoring system is about wining and the opinion of others, you'll miss out on what the game is about: having fun, building relationships, and enjoying the environment.
- If your self-worth is a function of performance and the opinion of others, and neither of these are predictable, then your self worth is up for grabs everyday.
- There are only three rules in golf: don't hurt anyone, don't hold anyone up and don't hurt the environment. Once you know those rules, you have rented the hole.
- You never own golf, you just borrow it. Just when you think you have it, you don't. Just when you think you don't, you do. (life's a bit like this, ain't it?)
It also has a sentence that I liked: the problem with being in a rat race is that even if you win, you are still a rat
Finally, it also suggests a way to "journal": at the end of everyday, praise yourself for the things you've done well, things that made you feel good about yourself because they were consistent with what you wanted to accomplish or whom you wanted to be in the world.
After that, create a section entitled "redirection", with the things you wish you could do over. And then accept your mistakes and forgive yourself (as you are by those who love you).
And that's it by now...
Thanks!!
Right now I am in hyper-space: life doesn't have hours enough to let me do a tenth of what I'd like..
I heard "Rich dad poor dad" and had a few interesting ideas... but writing them is one of the things I didn't have time to do..
It's ok, I'll re-listen to it in the future.
Right now I'm reading a book called "The mulligan" by Wally Armstrong and Ken Blanchard, which seems a bit forced (very Blanchard style?), but again with interesting ideas (I decided that reading what I have at home before looking anywhere else is very zen-wise both in waste control and mind flexibility))
I decided to write them here (even if it's by parts) so I don't forget them
The book says golf reflects life, and thus states a few things about golf you're supposed to translate into your life:
- There's also a moment in which one character tells the other: "you're not good enough to get that mad" after he gets mad for missing a putt.. he then realizes he doesn't practice enough and yet he expected outstanding performance every shot.
- If your scoring system is about wining and the opinion of others, you'll miss out on what the game is about: having fun, building relationships, and enjoying the environment.
- If your self-worth is a function of performance and the opinion of others, and neither of these are predictable, then your self worth is up for grabs everyday.
- There are only three rules in golf: don't hurt anyone, don't hold anyone up and don't hurt the environment. Once you know those rules, you have rented the hole.
- You never own golf, you just borrow it. Just when you think you have it, you don't. Just when you think you don't, you do. (life's a bit like this, ain't it?)
It also has a sentence that I liked: the problem with being in a rat race is that even if you win, you are still a rat
Finally, it also suggests a way to "journal": at the end of everyday, praise yourself for the things you've done well, things that made you feel good about yourself because they were consistent with what you wanted to accomplish or whom you wanted to be in the world.
After that, create a section entitled "redirection", with the things you wish you could do over. And then accept your mistakes and forgive yourself (as you are by those who love you).
And that's it by now...