cmonkey's journal

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Post by cmonkey » Tue Oct 09, 2018 3:23 pm

jennypenny wrote:
Tue Oct 09, 2018 3:01 pm
You definitely seem like a DIY-type cmonkey, so I think you'll love it.
Thanks jp, we'll have to stick together! :D

We've both wanted a little girl for as long as I can remember now and when we found out it's a girl we were both ecstatic (still are!).

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Post by SavingWithBabies » Tue Oct 09, 2018 5:00 pm

Congratulations! With our first, I had to learn that sometimes I had to be selfish for the greater good (I had sleep deprivation for the first 6 months and didn't realize it until after the fact). That probably sounds like whining but I mean it more in the sense that it's worth paying extra attention to your self to make sure you're in good shape to help everyone else.
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Post by vexed87 » Wed Oct 10, 2018 9:41 am

cmonkey wrote:
Tue Oct 09, 2018 9:01 am
Our daughter is due in late January. :)
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It's funny jacob would link to that climate article because this is something I'm struggling with now that I know she's on the way. Not really that I'm burdening the planet anymore (we're only plannng on one child), but more for her own well being later in life. I've found myself wondering what I can do to make her life easier in a world that's going to be falling apart.
@cmonkey

First off, congrats to you and mrs. cmonkey. It's great news, even in troubled times, a baby born into a happy home is to be treasured by you and your kin. I've never been the gushy type around other's kids, but there's nothing quite like holding your own baby girl! I know from experience you'll love the challenge, it's a gift that truly keeps on giving. Just get your sleep in now whilst you still can, at some stages you'll forget what a full nights sleep feels like, but with a smiling baby in your arms you'll not mind too much ;)

As you know, I too spend a lot of time thinking and worrying about this same stuff, even whilst DW doesn't! We cannot guarantee any outcomes in their lives, and for people who are so used to being in control of our own destiny, that is hard to accept. You will soon find out your baby has her own agenda, but we can at least try our best to equip them with a stable home and the skills and all forms of capital that they need to navigate the challenges of the future insofar we are able. There's not much more we can do than that.

I have, probably as you have, come to the conclusion that our generation may live shorter lives than our parents, and our children shorter still, but that's not to suggest that that life will be any less worth living or meaningful. Without detracting from the tragedy of the situation, if anything, the challenges of the future may make lives in some senses more real and meaningful than they are currently for many poor souls, in that sense there will be constraint where there was plenty, but plenty where there were once constraints. I don't know if you have read Tribe by Sebastian Junger, but that gave me a lot of comfort about where we are heading. In some senses, I'm glad that DD and future generations are not destined to live in a truly techno-dystopian and increasingly pathologically alienating society. The crisis to some extent pushes the reset button on the whole crazy world we currently inhabit. Not that it will be all sunshine and rainbows. But there's room leftover for a bit of warped optimism.

Honestly though, even though it's an intangible irrational thing to do knowing what we know, IMO becoming a parent might be the most human achievement I ever made, and there's something to be said for that.

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Post by C40 » Wed Oct 10, 2018 12:32 pm

I bet you two will be good parents

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Post by cmonkey » Wed Oct 10, 2018 2:22 pm

@Saving and @C40 - Thanks :) Working from home full time will hopefully help with the routine changes coming my way.
vexed87 wrote:
Wed Oct 10, 2018 9:41 am
First off, congrats to you and mrs. cmonkey.
Thanks vexed! I appreciate your words of wisdom. I bet you've done more thinking about it than even I have and certainly more reading. I'll have to pick that book up at the library. I hope your little one is doing well.


In case anyone didn't notice (I'm sure no one did) I have been parsing out on my spreadsheet the expenses for baby so far. Mostly some clearance clothes and pre-natal vitamins in there at this point. I'll label it as Baby/Kid going forward but it's currently labeled "misc" under household. So far so good, we are not high at all. We've also bought a number of more expensive items on Craigslist for super cheap including the car seat and a stroller and a huge stash of clothe diapers valued at over 1K bucks for 250 bucks.

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Post by 7Wannabe5 » Thu Oct 11, 2018 11:22 am

Congratulations!

Ditto what jennypenny said about DIY and no worries :D This year you will be hanging cloth diapers out to dry, and 30 years from now you will be giving her advice on how to best clean out the gutters on her own new home (sigh-cue Joni Mitchell.)

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Post by cmonkey » Thu Oct 11, 2018 12:34 pm

7Wannabe5 wrote:
Thu Oct 11, 2018 11:22 am
Congratulations!

Ditto what jennypenny said about DIY and no worries :D This year you will be hanging cloth diapers out to dry, and 30 years from now you will be giving her advice on how to best clean out the gutters on her own new home (sigh-cue Joni Mitchell.)
Fun stuff! :lol: :lol:

People think we are crazy for doing clothe, but they are much improved these days. And people have figured out there is a used market for these. They disappear quick and we got lucky with our find. We'll resell when we are finished for close to what we paid.

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Post by theanimal » Thu Oct 11, 2018 12:46 pm

Congrats cmonkey. Looking forward to reading updates. FWIW, my friends who have kids love being parents and have structured their lives to spend more time with their kids.

And I've noticed more than half of them use cloth diapers. It seems to be a net positive vs buying tons and tons of disposables.

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Post by Kriegsspiel » Thu Oct 11, 2018 7:23 pm

7Wannabe5 wrote:
Thu Oct 11, 2018 11:22 am
30 years from now you will be giving her advice on how to best clean out the gutters on her own new home (sigh-cue Joni Mitchell.)
I've been thinking of how to use a drone to clean my gutters. I'll bet in 30 years it will be commonplace.

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Post by LiberateMind » Fri Oct 12, 2018 11:26 pm

Congrats!! Its a huge moment in life for sure. Waiting to hear more from you how the life changes once the kid arrives.

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