The Reluctant Journal

Where are you and where are you going?
1taskaday
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Re: The Reluctant Journal

Post by 1taskaday » Fri Mar 15, 2019 11:05 am

7Wannabe,

I hope the "holiday hams of flesh" are non-human and not your collection of male trophy heads...
Otherwise it's no wonder your pure joints strain under that weight!

1taskaday
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Re: The Reluctant Journal

Post by 1taskaday » Thu Apr 04, 2019 6:44 am

Where do I start...

Things have changed drastically for me.

First the last trip away on my own did not go well for me.I backed the uninsured rental car into a pillar at our foreign property the night I arrived.

WTF! how could I do that!

Unbelievable,definitely the law of attraction at work...the thing I always worry the most about while away.

Took a whole week to get a local to respray it to perfection.I did not know whether he'd get it done on time until last morning.It only cost me 90 Euro as opposed to God only knows what the car rental company would have charged me.

So I was the week stuck without the car and the weather sucked as well.

All in all I was glad to get home...felt bored and lonely there.

I think I have changed or the decompression from full-time work has occurred and now there is no novelty in relaxing all day on my own.I just don't need it any more as I can do that at home when only working 2 days a week.

So we have finally come to the mutual decision to sell our property abroad.My DH detests it there and I don't want to be there anymore on my own.

Do we need to own a property in the sun or could we just spend a lot of our winter taking trips there?
The last thing I want is to become stuck in a rut indoors in the dark long miserable winters.

The jury is still out on this decision But the money I get from the sale of this property will cement my ability to keep working 2 days a week...which is my top priority.

We are also thinking of selling the house we live in now and moving to our coastal property.This is much smaller but in a remote area.

But this throws up it's own conundrum...I have definitely changed and want to live with a bit of "life" around me...now that I'm not working/socializing every day.

Do we need more "Buzz" as we age...should we live in a small town that has life and activities that are easily accessible?

Only time will tell...and anyway as kids are still living at home there is no urgency in deciding this for another year or two.

I can't get over the changes that are happening to me since finishing with full-time work.

Just having time to enjoy every day (that I'm not working) is incredible.

I don't feel the need to "escape" my life anymore...I actually love it just being off...it doesn't really matter what location I'm in.

Who would have known...

Earlybath
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Re: The Reluctant Journal

Post by Earlybath » Sun Apr 07, 2019 6:06 am

1taskaday wrote:
Fri Feb 01, 2019 12:25 pm
My DS crashed out of college only after 1 semester...never went to any lecture, partied all the time and failed all first term exams.
Missed this bit of the update, but...
DS probably isn't feeling the love but it's good that this happened so quickly. Nephew did this all 1st year at one place before getting kicked out, then did the same thing somewhere else. Arriving home with just the (stinky) clothes on his back with a blizzard of CCJs, Payday Debt collection notices etc. and no chance of any more student loans. From straight A's to financial train wreck, hasn't really got on his feet since. Your DS can take his time getting his shizzle together and try again, having realised there are more effective ways to party without penalty. I've discouraged DD from applying to university this year for that reason.
1taskaday wrote:
Thu Apr 04, 2019 6:44 am
So we have finally come to the mutual decision to sell our property abroad.
Final Final? Sounds like a sound decision, but such a quick Damascene moment, based on a small accident ?

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Re: The Reluctant Journal

Post by 1taskaday » Mon Apr 08, 2019 3:33 pm

Hi Earlybath,

Yes I think it's been a severe learning curve for our DS,the best of his life so far.
He is going back in September to a more "controlled" college that grades attendance.
We will be driving him every morning and collecting every evening...so looking forward to it ...NOT...the joys of parenthood.

We will know by his results at Christmas if he really wants to do it or not.

What is wrong with young people to day...if I ever failed an exam I would have died of shame...but now a days ...not a bother.

As for the decision to sell our property abroad...I am just so tired of all the maintenance issues...there is always something that needs fixing when I go there.
I get weary of it all especially when nobody else wants to go there...the language barrier is another pain in the ass.

I just want an easy life right now with minimum hassles.

Earlybath
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Re: The Reluctant Journal

Post by Earlybath » Wed Apr 10, 2019 4:57 am

1taskaday wrote:
Mon Apr 08, 2019 3:33 pm
We will be driving him every morning and collecting every evening...so looking forward to it ...NOT...the joys of parenthood.
Yep, had to do the taxi drive of shame for 6 months with DD last year, as she kept getting 'distracted' on the way to college. However, the biggest change in her outlook came from pulling some weekend shifts at McD's... I owe the clown one.

I really don't recognise the current college experience compared to mine in the 80's. I think I'd rather run away to the circus.

Completely understand the property abroad issues, I hadn't really got a feel for their impact on you from your recent journal entries.

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