One example of the adult/juvenile dichotomy would be mastery and curiosity. When you stop questioning authority or wondering about the world, you become rigid and calcified and unable to achieve further growth, but if you are constantly questioning rather than attempting to share mastery, you will seem very youthful, or maybe even like you just arrived on the planet in an egg-shaped space-ship landed in a cabbage patch with no prior knowledge of how to proceed with your lifeTHF wrote:Yeah, I definitely would kick them out. Kindly and tactfully of course. I don't really understand the differences between the adult and juvenile dichotomy.
High functioning in the juvenile masculine quadrant would be linked with words like "curiosity" and "initiative." High functioning in the juvenile feminine quadrant would be linked with words like "vulnerable" and "aesthetic." One exercise for increasing strength/functioning in the juvenile feminine quadrant is to get in touch with your emotions and sensual state in the moment and then reveal your state freely. IOW, emotional honesty or innocence in the sense of "lack of guile" would be a strength of the juvenile feminine quadrant. If you mix innocence with curiosity, you get something like "wonder", so that would be a feeling a person might experience when they were simultaneously strong in their juvenile masculine and juvenile feminine quadrants. So, in order to have a wonderful life as an adult, you have to maintain the ability to be childlike.
It's common for the "feminine" qualities to get mixed up with the "juvenile" qualities because more often if one partner in a relationship is older, it will be the male, and females are also usually smaller, less hairy, less hard-muscled,and more finely featured, so more like a child of either gender in appearance as an adult. So, for example, it's just sort of common sense that the role of Protector would be assigned to the person in the room most likely to have the most muscle mass. However, it is also true that human males have higher levels of the hormone vasopressin which promotes the behaviors "protect familiar females" and "fight other men at the boundary." It is likely that older men (silver-backs) have relatively higher levels of vasopressin to testosterone, because there seems to be a general trend from "fuck and flee" behavior in juveniles to protective polygamous dominant tendencies in older men. Thus, older men often have a difficult time understanding why they shouldn't have more than one wife if they can provide/protect more than one wife, so affluent working females often end up unconsciously funding their husband's affairs. This is a cross-cultural tendency observed in African village social structure as well as modern American internet dating sites.
One of the most controversial books on this topic I ever skimmed was a diet book aimed at a conservative Christian female audience which sought to motivate weight loss through argument that if the wife puts on enough fat that she is bigger than her husband, this will make her seem not only unattractive, but aggressive and disrespectful, throw off the natural dichotomy, and lead to destruction of happy marriage, family life, home and poor future for children.