The fly in the ointment of ERE is women

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@James_0011:

Well, since I don't own a vehicle myself, it generally ends up that I date men who do own vehicles, or somebody who lives within walking/biking distance. That's kind of what I mean about serious frugality limiting access to serious frugality. Kind of like being introverted limits ability to attract another introvert. However, I must admit, I am kind of spoiled, so I even let my BF pay $17 for my train ticket when he doesn't want to drive to come get me for the weekend. Also, I really do not enjoy driving myself, didn't even get my license until I was 32, so I am always happier when somebody else is at the wheel.

That said, I have greatly enjoyed many dates that involved hiking or biking or boating adventure, and when I did own a car, I would usually have no problem with transporting myself to dating site. The reason why "adventure" is good theme for a date is that it seems more like something you would only do with a man. I have frequently gone on adventures with my sisters and/or female friends, but that usually has a completely different sort of vibe. More like an episode of "I Love Lucy."

+1 to what ffj said. I happenstance just wrote a post on similar theme on other thread.

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(1) What about your local soup kitchen? Go in as a volunteer and see if you like anything. Down on your luck chicks can be hot and you have to think their expectations with regard to financial matters are already kind of low. An extra packet of saltines probably get you a hand job.

(2) There is also prison women. There are plenty of pen pal sites. Just note why the chick is in there. Profiles usually include the crime committed. I would suggest staying away from the violent felons and look at those that are intelligent but just took a wrong turn i.e. check kiting, corporate embezzlement, wire fraud et al. Visitation restrictions are a built in excuse for not seeing them and you don't have to accept incoming calls.

(3) The sex doll industry has come a long way from the days of just inflating the chick like a pool floatation. You have to think robotic chicks are the future. They look life like and I think you can get one for around a grand. I'm not sure about maintenance and repairs but it has to be less than a non-robotic chick.

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@Jason, ha ha ha ba ha ha ha ha. I don't actually often LOL when reading internet comments, but shit, I LOL:ed (LedOL?) for that one.

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The proliferation of robotic chicks is going to be interesting because they are going to become more and more lifelike as all those smart nerdy guys in high school who couldn't get laid are going to go at the technology with a vengeance.

Like all things, it will have to become socially acceptable. Like homosexuality or transgender. At that point, you will see guys in their robotic cars driving their robotic girlfriends to and fro. Guys will leave their non-robotic girlfriends for robotic girlfriends. Eventually they will want legal status.

I don't know if it will be in my lifetime, but these things are going to raise moral and ethical issues. There are guys right now, mercilessly banging the shit out of these things. They are going to start clubs, societies, parties, dances, orgies, swingers clubs. You will see midget robotic chicks, siamese twin robotic chicks, fat robotic chicks, big ass robotic chicks, Marilyn Monroe robotic chicks, the younger version of their dead wife robotic chicks. Mormons will have multiple robotic chicks. Donald Trump will have the best robotic chicks. Celebrity endorsed robotic chicks. Divorces proceedings will be filed due to fucking robotic chicks. You will have robotic chick strip clubs. You will have robotic chick porn. You will have real chicks against robotic chick movements. Customized robotic chicks. That chick who I saw in the you tube video who could crush a watermelon between her thighs will have a robotic chick version of herself. Well, hopefully.

I'm serious. Its going to get real.

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Jason's monologue reminds me of the thread where we brainstormed possible solutions to global overpopulation. I believe the suggestions were pot and sex robots. 😂

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Yeah, I think the only reason why some of the engineer-types I date don't trade me in for a robot is that they tend towards frugal, and I am still cheaper than a robot. Like how migrant workers are still cheaper than berry-picking machines.

OTOH, the men who will be most interested in robot-mates will be the ones who think of themselves as being not unlike robots. The kind of guy who instantly intuits what I mean when I say or signal "Let's play the Wolf and the Bunny", would be less likely to either want OR need to purchase Robo-Mate.

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"Like how migrant workers are still cheaper than berry-picking machines. "

Blackberries and blueberries are mostly machine picked now. I don't think they have been successful with strawberries yet, which is having the effect of reducing strawberry acreage in Oregon for some time now due to difficulty finding labor. It sucks because our strawberries are good.

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@enigmaT120:

Unintended consequences abounding. Wonder if this is somewhat regional? I saw seasonal workers picking berries in Michigan last summer, and I read an article in alignment with my statement you quoted above not very long ago.

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Hi Fred,

I am still puzzeled by your statement (and generaly hate when one whole gender (I mean, you are talking about roughly 50% of the total population) is blamed of anything).
FrugalFred wrote:
Fri Sep 01, 2017 8:32 am
The fly in the ointment of ERE is women.
I guess you mean:

The fly in the ointment of your ERE is your unfulfilled sex cravings?

Luckily I have the solution for you: If you don't like women, why don't you just stick to men??

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Hey, we don't need to pick on FrugalFred.

Yeah the subject line is clickbaity and he didn't explain much, but his point is valid: that as an ERE person, it is difficult to find ERE-compatable partners (more difficult than a 'normal' person finding 'normal' partners). And one of the alternatives that could be tempting for some is to acquiesce to expectations of spending significant money on courting/seducing/whatever.

A couple points to add or agree with:

1 - As a person with some uniqueness, the thing to do is fly your flag unashamedly and in a positive (and not annoying) way. This helps you find ERE-compatable partners, and them find you. When you do find them, they'll be more into you than most men, and you'll both benefit from eachother's good financial habits.

2 - If you're talking mainly about having sex (rather than a serious romantic relationship), money matters less and less. You still may need to fly your flag in a way that shows you aren't a poor loser. A woman looking for a fuck-buddy is unlikely to be put off by a man who is going to retire early and is having success in that pursuit. She's not going to be more impressed by common non-ERE traits - an overweight sweaty guy who loves the NFL and drinks 22 beers a week.

An example: while I was in Seattle, I slept with a woman in her $2,000,000 house. She didn't give a damn about how much my house cost ($13k) or how many drinks I bought her (1). I was flying my flag, and she was impressed - not put off.

3 - Keep in mind that there is a trade-off occuring in dating. It's not just a one-way thing with only the men spending the money. Many women spend a TON of money on efforts to look more attractive. Shoes, clothes, make-up (that shit gets expensive), hair, nails, eyebrows, Brazilian waxings. If you aren't already doing so, consider eliminating over-primped women from your efforts. It's kind of like the Seinfeld skit: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H9WJbbGYtyI. The men don't know what to do to attract women. We're building bridges, designing rockets, etc. Women are trying to make themselves look more attractive in ways that we men aren't even aware of.

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*launches orbital space station*

maybe she'll notice brute now

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It worked for Elon Musk. He showed a girl (a virgin!) videos of his rockets at a party when they first met, and she married him. Married him twice.

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I remember the days when simply blasting "Rocket Ride" from KISS Alive II could get you into a girl's pants.

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C40 wrote:The men don't know what to do to attract women. We're building bridges, designing rockets, etc. Women are trying to make themselves look more attractive in ways that we men aren't even aware of.
It may seem like women concern themselves with such matters in order to make themselves more attractive to men, but I actually think that most women are trying to make themselves more attractive to themselves, and sometimes even other women. Fashion is within the realm of applied arts, just like interior decoration, garden design, or pottery-making. It's often much more about how a dress makes you feel when you wear it, or how a room makes you feel when you enter it. Not some direct attempt to boost market value.

For instance, I happened upon this video the other day, and I immediately thought "I want that dress.", but what I really want is the feeling I think that she is feeling walking around in her flirty little pretty blue dress, barefoot, and singing.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TBH8o8XXnVM

Sadly,I must report many women in my acquaintance, will either err on the side of never affording themselves anything like "that dress", or never thinking that they deserve it or it would be right for them, or buying the concrete version over and over and over again, but never fully inhabiting the feeling. And this is can hold true over any number of a wide variety of possible feelings or situations or costumes combined with behavior.

I think the only men who fully empathize are the few more artistic exceptions to the rule of constant drab utilitarian uniform which constitutes modern majority male dress code. Whenever I look around at the other couples in some upscale setting, in almost every coupling in which the female half is noticeably more likely to be attractive when naked, the man either looks like he has money/success OR some degree of artistic aesthetic. That show "Queer Eye for the Straight Guy" absolutely got it right. And exhibiting 99% more style than the average Joe does not have to cost very much money at all. One easy exercise is to flip through a fashion magazine or celebrity pics until you find some guy who vaguely resembles you, then challenge yourself to duplicate the outfit he is wearing for some minute fraction of what he spent by rummaging through thrift stores, clearance racks, etc. If your core wardrobe is already classic/quality this is pretty easy to accomplish. You can also just pay a bit more attention to presentation. For instance, try ironing a crease down the front of your jeans, not wearing socks, trimming your beard, or styling your hair so that it flops over your eyes a bit. Taste varies, but I would guesstimate that something like 80% fit masculine dominant mixed with 20% artsy-boyish-charm-style will appeal to majority, but I have seen stylish men, who might otherwise resemble the Pillsbury Dough Boy or an individual just released from a POW camp where they removed his jawbone, with very attractive females on arm quite frequently.

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7Wannabe5 wrote:
Wed Sep 06, 2017 7:29 am
It may seem like women concern themselves with such matters in order to make themselves more attractive to men, but I actually think that most women are trying to make themselves more attractive to themselves, and sometimes even other women.
either this, or they misunderstand what human males want as much as those misunderstand what human females want.

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@BRUTE:

Exactly. At most superficial level this is because many women don't comprehend that men freely spend their money/time on porn NOT fashion magazines, and men don't comprehend why women read bodice-rippers featuring male characters with names like Dirk Broderick who ride large stallions into battle or scream, faint, and throw panties at musical performers.

I really want to offer some insightful advice, but it is like trying to translate into another language that I will never fully master. An interesting study I once read revealed that high IQ is well correlated with high sex drive in females, and another study indicated that high sex drive in females is also well correlated with the practice of reading romance/erotica/bodice-rippers. I was trying to come up with a factor that remained consistent in sexual encounters I enjoyed and didn't subsequently regret, in any or all of my phases of life, and the best I can describe this factor is that the man's attributes and behavior within the context of the situation offered me or allowed me to create or maintain consistent high quality narrative. I know this inherently reeks of chicken/egg, but what I am trying to convey is something about the fact that females are less visual, and more tied into aural/language center in their sexual arousal. I think members of both genders are also subconsciously influenced by smell, but few humans have good ability to attach odor inputs to rational planning center, as one book I am reading* makes clear, this is why the voices on our smartphones don't say things like "turn left when you can no longer smell the forsythia.", but the map your brain is constantly creating to describe the condition of yourself to yourself is inclusive of "smell of forsythia."

One thing that annoys me in some of the writings of male sexuality experts who are younger than me (lol), is their over-reliance on the stated experience of many women that they have difficulty enjoying sex or achieving orgasm in a casual encounter in proving that what females most want is commitment or security. It annoys me because it is pretty clear to me that the inability to achieve orgasm in a casual encounter is usually due to a combination of lack of time towards intimacy combined with lack of communication skills and/or dysfunctional, counter-productive attempt to protect male partner's ego by faking it or just letting it go. Level 0 is thinking that a male partner should take responsibility for your pleasure and orgasm (pre-feminist.) Level 2 is taking responsibility for your own pleasure and orgasm (feminist.) Level 3 is allowing a male partner the great pleasure (lol)of taking responsibility for your pleasure and orgasm (post-feminist.) You can't get to 3 without passing through 2. And, I don't think the fact that I was a somewhat hyper-sexual early bloomer with relatively very few socially-applied inhibitions renders my functioning inherently different than that of my fellow females. It just makes me more likely to feel annoyance when some guy in his 30s writes a book telling me something I already knew 37 years ago when I was 15, and then tries to use that fact to reinforce double standard. By the time I was 15, I had already read 100s of novels written for mature adults and many books on the topic of sexuality, so the 2nd time I actually had sex, I just told my lover what to do to bring me to orgasm. Duh! Like a female needs an ironclad contract for lifelong financial support in order to point to her clit and say "My turn, Baby." How can anybody have the nerve to even begin to proclaim eternal truths of female sexuality in a culture where 50% of men polled can not correctly place the vaginal opening, urethral opening, and clitoris on the map of the female body. Aaaaaargh....!

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I have to be honest. I have no clue about all those openings. And actually, it makes penetrating a chick seem like the opening of "Get Smart."

And I'm not here to cause issues. Well, at least on this thread. But let's face it, more things come out of a vagina than a truck stop vending machine.

A vagina to me is like a house. I don't really care about how how the house is built, or how I actually get in the house. But I know once I'm inside, I'm fucking home.

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@Jason:

For educational purposes only:

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Come on, guys. It's not exactly rocket science. Just remember CUVA, and you'll at least get a C-plus on the next exam.

Extra Credit: Location of G-Spot on this diagram? No cheating!

Jason

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Look at that thing. You'd think there would be an allen wrench and directions in multiple languages every time a chick opens her legs.

And nothing personal, but this is why robotic chicks will be the future. If they start quizzing you on their body parts, you just turn the volume off or tell them if they don't STFU, you'll pull out their battery pack.

http://www.nydailynews.com/news/nationa ... -1.3478052

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@Jason: lol- I do it cuter in person.

Also, I am definitely not promoting a thoroughly mechanistic approach to such matters. I just get grouchy when I read theories based on surveys that are thrown out into such a social vat of misinformation. I agree that it is often the case that females will seek security and commitment in their sexual/romantic relationships, and likely even much more frequently than males, particularly young males. I do not agree that this is primarily due to the fact that it is "natural" for a woman to not be able to achieve orgasm when having sex with a man she has dated less than 5-7X. Like "the Goddess" punishes women for being slutty by not allowing them to orgasm in such a situation. It is true that anxiety blocks the orgasm center of the brain in females, but it is also true that any sort of excitement increases arousal.

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