Hristo Botev wrote: ↑
Tue Dec 01, 2020 5:09 pm
My point is that any place along the way would have been just as good to plant roots, and perhaps better, than where we ended up; but we just had a different mindset back then. [...] those deeper connections are important.
ooooh, right, right, i get what you’re saying now.
yeah, for me dc was the place to be, and i would have stayed there gladly. real estate going nuts was an incentive to leave, but the real issue was that my wife felt homesick and didn’t have deep roots in dc (but she was starting to grow a network.)
anyway, so that whole “return to the land” failed, and we’re in a city now, but we’ve remained in her home state. we’re not “gone” really, and except for the pandemic we could still visit.
before moving here we did look at going back to the dc area, but we realized that we had missed the train we were on so many years ago. we still have friends there, we keep in touch, but it’s not the same. and we have family in this state, and new friends, plus we have developed connections in our years together here.
so we’re in a different housing situation, but we’re in the same networks... we’re just in a better node in those networks, if that makes sense?
of course, “woulda coulda shoulda” dc. would it have been better? maybe... but it’s pointless to wonder now.
tldr; i second doing the best with what you’ve got at hand before you try to go elsewhere.