Thoughts or Experience With a Life Coach?

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Gilberto de Piento
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Thoughts or Experience With a Life Coach?

Post by Gilberto de Piento » Mon Jun 24, 2019 3:07 pm

Anyone here tried a life coach? What was it like? Was it useful? How much did it cost?

I'm looking for someone or a group to help me plan, prioritize, and stay on track with the things I want to do in my life. There is one locally but their website makes it seem like their typical client is a tech entrepreneur founder. I want help and accountability for more general issues/goals, though career/business is a significant part of it.

A therapist might be useful but they are more oriented towards thinking about the past and treating diagnosed illness. A pastor is not going to work for me. A mentor would be cool but it seems like one would be very hard to find and the issues I want help with are not just business issues.

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Re: Thoughts or Experience With a Life Coach?

Post by EdithKeeler » Mon Jun 24, 2019 5:01 pm

I did a life coach once. I thought it was a waste of money. Too cheerleader-y and pseudo-psycho-babble for me. Rah rah shit doesn’t do much for me.

I did an “accountability group” for a while with 2 other people—a close friend and an acquaintance. That worked fine for me and it was free except for our weekly Starbucks. We got together, talked about stuff we wanted to work on, and reported back. We’d gently remind each other—“ did you walk your two miles a day? Only once? But you said you were going to do it three times a week. What’s up?” It’s easy to make excuses and lie to yourself—much harder when it’s a real person across the table.

We had notebooks where we kept up with our and each others’s goals. It was nice.

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Re: Thoughts or Experience With a Life Coach?

Post by TopHatFox » Mon Jun 24, 2019 5:26 pm

I’m working with one right now that specializes in non 9-5 pathways. Thus far it’s actually been really useful in helping me clarify wtf to do from here. I actually like the positive reinforcement. I just bought a one-time call and journaling course for $350. Is it maybe bullshit? I’m sure it can be. Are there worse ways to burn a few hundred bucks? Yup. Is it helping me feel more confident in taking a non 9-5 route or getting to the bottom of what kind of lifestyle I need to feel content? Hell yeah.

Honestly, my experience with talk therapy and even psychiatry is negative. I’ve been doing that shit consistently for two years and not much has changed. If anything it’s caused me to externalize my problems instead of helping myself more. The psych meds they offer also definitely don’t come without serious drawbacks. It’s kinda been like putting a bandaid over structural issues.

I think what helps the most for (most) people is finding a lifestyle and social arrangement that optimizes for contentment. I’d wager most humans aren’t content when they’re over worked, lacking sleep, lonely, doing work they don’t care about, not in control of their work. and so on. I guess the life coach can be a like a good supportive friend to talk you into making change.

I’ve done the accountability group too, and that was very helpful as well.

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Re: Thoughts or Experience With a Life Coach?

Post by Ego » Mon Jun 24, 2019 8:01 pm

I do not have any experience, but I always try free first...

https://www.wysa.io/

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Re: Thoughts or Experience With a Life Coach?

Post by FBeyer » Tue Jun 25, 2019 7:44 am

Want to get on a Skype Call? I won't sell you anything, but I will tell you how I work, and what I've been trained to do as a coach during the last couple of months. You can ask me ANYTHING about it, and I'll answer as honestly as I possibly can.

Skype, not text, because it takes 'forever' (relative to how much time I'm willing to devote to the internet these days) to type out how/why I work the way I do.

The business is stuffed full of BS coaches who don't actually get their clients real results (see EdithKeelers comment above). I've been 100% trained to get my clients places, and I do. I'm not only willing, I'd LOVE to tell what I do, how I do it, and why it works as often as it does.

I'm 100% confident in my abilities, but I can whole heartedly understand the reservations some might have. I'm available for complete disclosure in case you need it.

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Re: Thoughts or Experience With a Life Coach?

Post by TopHatFox » Tue Jun 25, 2019 8:00 am

Hi FBeyer - can I hop on that offer too? I've actually been enjoying talking to forum members over more personal mediums like call or video! It'd also be interesting to learn more about the life coach business. I know what the one I chose is about because she went to a college and area I'm really familiar with, but oh boy - did I go through some BS websites to find her.

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Re: Thoughts or Experience With a Life Coach?

Post by FBeyer » Tue Jun 25, 2019 8:28 am

Of course we can talk! Send me a PM and we'll work out when.

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Re: Thoughts or Experience With a Life Coach?

Post by fiby41 » Tue Jun 25, 2019 8:53 am

"I'm not a life coach. I think they are scam artists who pretend to be therapists without an actual qualification.

I'm not a therapist"... From the description of a video channel.

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Re: Thoughts or Experience With a Life Coach?

Post by Jason » Tue Jun 25, 2019 3:32 pm

I had one. But he died.

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Re: Thoughts or Experience With a Life Coach?

Post by chenda » Tue Jun 25, 2019 4:43 pm

@jason 😂

@tophatfox My experience of therapy and medication was the same as yours, I completely agree.

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Re: Thoughts or Experience With a Life Coach?

Post by Gilberto de Piento » Thu Jun 27, 2019 10:45 am

Thanks everyone for all of your thoughts!
FBeyer wrote:
Tue Jun 25, 2019 7:44 am
Want to get on a Skype Call? I won't sell you anything, but I will tell you how I work, and what I've been trained to do as a coach during the last couple of months. You can ask me ANYTHING about it, and I'll answer as honestly as I possibly can.
Thank you for the generous offer. I will PM you if I get to the point where I can take you up on it.

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Re: Thoughts or Experience With a Life Coach?

Post by FBeyer » Thu Jun 27, 2019 11:31 am

Gilberto de Piento wrote:
Thu Jun 27, 2019 10:45 am
Thank you for the generous offer...
Always. Just let me know what you need.

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Re: Thoughts or Experience With a Life Coach?

Post by frihet » Fri Jun 28, 2019 2:26 pm

https://www.mrfreeat33.com/coaching/

Maybe try out Jason? He used to post here before and he surely has created a free/FI life for himself. Telling from his blogs and comment section he really likes, seems good at motivating people.

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Re: Thoughts or Experience With a Life Coach?

Post by chenda » Fri Jun 28, 2019 5:41 pm

frihet wrote:
Fri Jun 28, 2019 2:26 pm
https://www.mrfreeat33.com/coaching/
WTF is this you @jason ?! Are you the guy from Detroit who is jumping for joy in Ko Samui ? 😁

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Re: Thoughts or Experience With a Life Coach?

Post by jacob » Sat Jun 29, 2019 6:59 am

@chenda - Nah, that's @DividendGuy

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Re: Thoughts or Experience With a Life Coach?

Post by Jason » Sat Jun 29, 2019 9:45 am

chenda wrote:
Fri Jun 28, 2019 5:41 pm
WTF is this you @jason ?! Are you the guy from Detroit who is jumping for joy in Ko Samui ? 😁
No, that's a different Jason. I'm the Jason in New Jersey giving the finger to old ladies in supermarket parking lots. If you are interested in my life coaching techniques, you can find me at the following:

I'llpretendtocareaboutyourstupidfuckinglifeifyoupaymenoughmoney.org

And please, no PM's. I got better things to do than maintain an inbox outside of messages that come in red and bold. If shit is serious, call the Suicide Hotline. Or let FBeyer know. He seems empathetic. Or at least he comes off that way.

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Re: Thoughts or Experience With a Life Coach?

Post by chenda » Sat Jun 29, 2019 10:08 am

@Thats a relief, I was concerned you had suddenly gone all soft 😁

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