Re: Trying lifestyle inflation. Need to spend more.
Posted: Fri Jun 14, 2019 11:50 pm
I think your perspective is well aligned with the wisdom offered by many spiritual traditions.
I have learned from going the other direction. My instinct is to do everything myself, with exacting standards. When I count on others, I am forced to release control. Shifting my instinctive response of "this isn't perfect!" to appreciating another's labor, is really hard.
Internally, I still slip. Externally, I try to do better. I meet the instacart driver, make eye contact and small talk, help carry the bags, thank them, provide a 5 star rating, double the promised tip if it's even close to correct, etc. It has required growth on my part.
My wife would say - "you don't deserve praise for being a decent person".
I've found it hard to balance this perspective with cherishing the finite days I will live. Yoga and meditation work for me. I spent several years at peak happiness, hiding on a yoga mat. My days consisted of work, exercise and frugal living. It didn't matter what life threw at me, I could go internally and flip the switch.tjh wrote: ↑Fri Jun 14, 2019 4:44 amWhat you are talking about is desire for more. Everyone has the desire for more, but not everyone has the means to buy. If you are not content with what you have, buying what you want, as long as you have a standard of financial strength that you are not violating, is ok. But realize, you'll never satisfy your desire for more.
I eventually decided it was a mistake, an avoidance of the human experience. I do more things now. It's expensive. I have more lows. My highs are no greater. My average daily satisfaction is reduced. But, I am drinking more fully from the world. For me, that resonates.