llorona wrote:@7WB5: Ah, this is interesting. What forms of capital are you thinking of? Economic self-sufficiency comes to mind, and you already mentioned housing.
Autonomy, self-respect, joie de vivre, and imagination come to mind. Also, I must admit that going to the salon for the first time in over 3 years and throwing down $75 to get your hair back to a uniform pale yellow absent frayed ends and tangles doesn't hurt. Also purchased a burgundy leather jacket with shiny silver zippers and a pair of kick-ass black suede boots with 3 inch heels (40% off with extra 20% off coupon and additional 15% off for joining mailing list) and a new power pink lipstick*. Then I looked in the mirror and felt up to the task of dumping BF and reconsidering the possibilities of polyamory.
*I know very non-ERE congruent behavior, but I was once a 13 year old suburban girl heavily influenced by the movie "Grease." If it works, it works.
ETA: Okay, Sandra Dee move worked so well, I didn't even have to dump the BF. Some may scoff at notion of "cake and eat it too", but I think it just might work at systems thinking level.