Making new friends
Posted: Mon Apr 08, 2019 3:23 pm
So this may seem like a strange topic but it's one that I've been pondering on for a bit, and I've been wondering if ERE people have had similar experiences.
So I've been in the labor force for about 2 years now, and I must admit, my 'friend' group hasn't really grown at all. Lucky me, I now have a GF and we get along very well (she's not about ERE, but she likes a minimalist lifestyle which is good enough for me). However, I'd like to also gain some non-female friends that I can do stuff with (have cook-outs, go have a beer with, backpacking trips, etc.) Of course, the goal of wanting to be FI at an earlier than normal age is pretty rare to come across, but that's not too much of an issue..just as long as they aren't super spender types.
I have a very tight friend group of about 5, but we all live in different parts of the country yet text and play video games together on a very frequent basis. However it sucks when we'd like to see each other in person due to distance and the cost of travel.
I'd like to start building some new relationships among people that live close to me, but I'm unsure of where to look. I realize that it's unlikely to find friends that have all the same interests as you, but it would be ideal to find some that have similar temperaments or whatever. I like to believe in the common saying 'you are the average of your 5 closest friends', but now that my friends are all away I'm not sure how that applies.
I was thinking of joining a local (within walking distance) Crossfit gym, but I'm sure it'll cost at least $130/month or more. The benefit is a spoon fed workout routine, and getting to know more people within the area. My workplace has a gym which is free, but hardly anyone of my co-workers use it, and I'm pretty bad at staying committed to a consistent workout routine.
I wonder if there is a type of hierarchy of topics which can be used to categorize the likelihood of building life-long relationships.
I was thinking:
-Life Philosophy, life goals, interests/hobbies?
So I've been in the labor force for about 2 years now, and I must admit, my 'friend' group hasn't really grown at all. Lucky me, I now have a GF and we get along very well (she's not about ERE, but she likes a minimalist lifestyle which is good enough for me). However, I'd like to also gain some non-female friends that I can do stuff with (have cook-outs, go have a beer with, backpacking trips, etc.) Of course, the goal of wanting to be FI at an earlier than normal age is pretty rare to come across, but that's not too much of an issue..just as long as they aren't super spender types.
I have a very tight friend group of about 5, but we all live in different parts of the country yet text and play video games together on a very frequent basis. However it sucks when we'd like to see each other in person due to distance and the cost of travel.
I'd like to start building some new relationships among people that live close to me, but I'm unsure of where to look. I realize that it's unlikely to find friends that have all the same interests as you, but it would be ideal to find some that have similar temperaments or whatever. I like to believe in the common saying 'you are the average of your 5 closest friends', but now that my friends are all away I'm not sure how that applies.
I was thinking of joining a local (within walking distance) Crossfit gym, but I'm sure it'll cost at least $130/month or more. The benefit is a spoon fed workout routine, and getting to know more people within the area. My workplace has a gym which is free, but hardly anyone of my co-workers use it, and I'm pretty bad at staying committed to a consistent workout routine.
I wonder if there is a type of hierarchy of topics which can be used to categorize the likelihood of building life-long relationships.
I was thinking:
-Life Philosophy, life goals, interests/hobbies?