Posted: Thu Jan 06, 2011 10:06 am
@everyone: ahem...ahem...which 'off-topic-track' are we taking next?
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Super agree. It's possible to have a long-term relationship, celebration, and life together without the legal framework. I suppose one of the benefits is that marriages are harder to call off than a gf/bf arrangement (the former being a legal proceeding and the latter a 'see you later'), but uh, that's becoming less and less the case as the years go by.JoeNCA wrote: ↑Sun Jan 02, 2011 1:20 amPerhaps another important factor is the marriage itself - unless one can absolutely be certain of conditions of lasting marriage, it's probably best not to marry.
Life is easier and cheaper to live as a single person.
A casual approach to marriage may end up in real misery for everyone involved, both sides of the family included.
Once kids are born, the marriage is forever.
I thank all those who have gone before and, with their sacrifice, shown us that getting married is now pointless and generally without hope.
Yeah, this once and for all kills the argument that money is all that matters for women.
Absolutely. This is one of the main themes of HIFFIAUW (H.Browne).
Not everywhere it works this way. Try finding someone to marry you in Korea if you're chased by creditors (hint: pretty much impossible).jacob wrote: ↑Wed Jan 09, 2019 3:10 pmI think the problem with marrying (not marriage) is that there's no entry moat. If people were required to demonstrate emotional maturity, financial stability, and some mastery of the complexity of relationships, the number of short term divorces would go way down.
You heard right. We actually had to take these 'classes' (in Poland, you can't get married in the church unless you show proof of attendance. Obviously, you have to pay to attend. And you have to pay (big time) for the privilege of getting married in the church). One of the many things the priest told the (female part of) the audience was: "You should be happy that this man is willing to marry you! You should start each day by kissing your husband's hand and thanking him that he married you!" And he was not joking...
Yeah. It's quite surprising how much bashing marriage, and relationships in general, get on this forum.
because statistically speaking women are much more likely to initate divorce than men. 69 % of divorces are initated by women
I don´t think anybody of sound mind has ever claimed that money is all that matters to women, but looking though the lense of evolutionary psychology it makes sense, that women are more attracted to men with resources. Just as men are most attracted to women in their early 20s with wide hips and clear skin.