jennypenny wrote: ↑Sun Jun 21, 2020 10:06 am
The problem is often in the delivery of the message. In my example about women being victimized, I don't think it's the job of the police to lecture the woman right after she's been abused. IMO, the message is most palatable when coming from one's in-group. In my example, that means women cautioning other women on their risky behavior and men holding other men accountable with social mores like drunk women are off limits.
I could have responded to several messages above (and I have but ended up deleting it before posting) but this caught my eye.
I've been thinking along similar lines in trying to understand this. Despite having lived in the US for 16 years, I'm still an outsider in these regards (gender and race) having mainly worked in professions that didn't expose me to the issues (physics and finance is 95% comprised of white guy nerds and 5% other nerds---but 100% nerds(*)) and so I brought along my Nordic-Euro values along in that regard w/o updating them to US conditions. This caused some foot-in-mouth behavior on my part wrt gender/feminism 10 years ago. I eventually came to a better understanding of these issues from the US perspective, but it required a lot of listening and reading to resolve.
(*) It's amazing how easy it is to live one's life in a bubble when the bubble is not readily apparent.
I've noticed that the primary request from BLM to white supporters/sympathizers is to "shut up and listen" before imposing their/our own interpretation. This suggests that the sociological system is trying to get from K3 (group-based) to K4 (groups-based). The request to shut up and listen to other perspectives is an attempt to drive this growth/transition. The reason is of course that it's hard/impossible to live as another gender or another race to experience their [lived] framework. (Accounts from people who have transitioned their gender are generally
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My best way to grok this is, not surprisingly, to drag out and apply my favorite systems for understanding "anyone who is not me": Wheaton, Keagan, ... For example, learning that there was such a thing as first, second, ... wave feminism was very helpful in understanding why I suddenly found myself getting harassed on the American interwebs for "he or she" vs "he" pronouns. As far as I can tell, I grew up in a culture which in most ways are ~50 years ahead of the US wrt gender values, that is, my values correspond to fourth wave feminism. This is practically bleeding edge state of the art in the US but for me it's like water to fish. So from a Wheaton level perspective (which I lacked at the time), my reaction to second wave talk about writing "letter carrier" instead of "mailman" was to think that these objections are actually shooting themselves in the foot and making it worse. Two Wheaton levels away. And the feeling was mutual. Arguing was not constructive at all though. It was like fatFIRE debating with leanFIRE about who was more extreme.
This is why I've been reluctant to comment on race issues in the US. I know that there's a lot I don't know coming from the outside. However, knowing the structural framework for analyzing and somewhat resolving such issues, I also have an idea of where/how misunderstandings obtain. I can tell that there's a lot that those having grown up in the US don't know (grok) either. (It's telling watching one-generation old stuff from the Rodney King events that very little has changed.) I'm wondering if there's anything similar to the waves in feminism when it comes to African-American issues? Can those lessons be applied? Especially the lesson that this is a generational thing that suffers from the innate inability to get out of K3 via the usual means of travel, relocating, going to out-of-state college, or joining the military?
The point about trying to be Black in Japan or elsewhere as opposed to the US is a good one. I saw a similar youtube vid by a Black guy in Germany. He loved it---practically blew his mind. In the Euro framework I drag around, (group) belonging is not about race but very much about shared cultural values. My focus as an immigrant is thus to "act American" (which I guess I'm not doing a superlative job at) focusing on accent, clothing style, holidays, ... and values. This would parallel the advice to "act White", but that seems bizarre since America is not white by construction---therefore one can not insist on acting white even if it might work on an individual basis. Besides, focusing on cultural differentiation comes with its own baggage. Also, it does not escape me that my solution model (a framework of acting/behavior) is not how Americans frame it (or should frame it).
Anyway my point with all this is in terms of rewiring society or building a movement, there are probably many structural parallels between racism and genderism or consumerism. Identifying those parallels would be helpful in terms of creating a strategy for advancing the change or at least getting out of the way/not inadvertently obstructing it. At least the parallels might be helpful to understand it.