Shep wrote: ↑Sun Oct 29, 2017 3:38 am
Let us know how you're doing if you catch this.
I recently read Emotional Vampires (Bernstein) and diagnosed my boss as the obsessive-compulsive type (perfectionist). The book lists a number of ways to deal with these types, e.g.
- ask for what you want directly
- don't critisize them
- keep your eyes on, and negotiate for, product rather than focusing on process. These types have problems separating the two.
- demand priorities, because they tend to demand "all at once"
- show some appreciation (kiss ass)
- don't expect apologies
- don't take anything personally
- if they insult you, you need to tell them how you feel and what you want without accusing them of any wrongdoing
- pick your battles
- choose your words as carefully as you pick your battles
- ignore tantrums
- watch their actions, not their words
Actually, the above is part of a list I've made for myself to remind myself how to deal with my boss. I go through it whenever I need to bring something up with her. Some of the things are true with many people in general and all of them fit the OC type. Upon reading the book I realized I had already figured alot of this out, so the book served to confirm some of my ideas. Still, it was a huge eye opener.
Bottom line is its mostly about my own mentality. I steer away from most interactions with my boss and try enjoy time with colleagues and appreciate my situation (safe job, ok salary, 1st world country). As Farm_or wrote above, try look at it as a Dilbert comic and it won't feel as dreadful.