Forum Posting Ethics

[Fish]

I really liked Jacob’s original so I took the time to recreate it. (I did this all on my mobile phone during the bus ride home from work - I suppose the commute is good for something after all.) This version was a lot more eloquent even though the new one adds to the message.

@jacob - Feel free to edit this into your earlier post, or delete this duplicate without doing anything, or whatever.

There's another thing I've been thinking about. I kinda hesitate to post it, because I'm not sure it's a good idea as it might quench people's desire to post---seeing how so many are already hesitant to do so in this ... illustrious company

My issue which l vent not as the benign dictator and overlord of this domain but as a private person is the frustration of sharing expert knowledge in general.

• Rule 6: Share expert knowledge

The problem is that with modern era social media, that "rule" is often replaced with

• New rule 6: Share your personal opinion

Now what we see in practice is that when some beginner asks a question, they will often get a combination of answers with varying levels of expertise and opinion. You can see the quantitative ratio by clicking on the second link. Having different perspectives when it comes to opinion is a good idea when it comes to politics, lifestyles, life-lessons (anecdote), ... But when it comes to verifiable facts, multiple perspectives a terrible idea. There aren't sides or alternatives to reality.

There's something in either the Analects or the Tao Te Ching about how it is the expert's role to teach and the beginner's role to learn, but also how it is the role of other people (non-beginners) to point out who is the expert and who is the beginner because otherwise beginners can't tell the difference between experts and other beginners.

See, ideally, the graph would be an increasing monotonic function where the more expertise one had, the more inclined one would be to share it. Instead, there's a tendency for humans to get fairly strongly opinionated after just a little bit of knowledge and then shutting up after learning some more and realizing how little they know. At this point people close their mouth and open their ears; and therefore they create the valley in the graph and thus do not serve the function underlined above.

So instead of sharing expert knowledge, the consequence is that experts end up debating people who know just enough to have an opinion but not enough to know how little they know.

For sharing expert knowledge, this is both enervating and aggravating. You end up arguing 101 stuff in the form of a debate which is very frustrating. Worse, you never get to move onto 202 stuff because there's a continuous influx of new beginners who want to share their own opinion. It's exasperating debating multiplication with people, who believe multiplying is impossible because they can't be bothered to learn it, when you could be teaching calculus.

Now, some eventually catch on as to who is the expert and who is just opinionated. They will then reveal (privately) how they’re eventually only paying attention to one "side" of the debate (the expert side) and how they actually learn a lot.

As an expert in a couple of fields (finance, climate) it's nice to be appreciated and told [usually in private] that all the energy that has been sunk into stupid debates wasn't completely wasted. It's also nice to be told when someone realizes that you actually know a lot more than they initially thought but that they didn't realize it at first [almost always in private ... few people will admit this publicly]. I'm sure people with expert knowledge in other fields have felt the same and experienced the same secret appreciation in other fields.

But...

The problem is that we could be sharing so much more expertise if it was pointed out more publicly. I don't mean that as some kind of public thank-you note or expressions of support. I don't think such make much of a difference. Rather:

If there's an ongoing debate between whether it's possible to master the multiplication table or whether 5x7 consistently gives the same result. Then beginners ought (in my opinion) pick up a basic math book instead of figuring that the truth is that math is really hard and not worth learning because because you get ten different answers when you ask online followed by lots of debate on who is right(*)

This is a far more effective approach than trying to learn by watching a pseudo-debate.

(*) I'm sure everybody has seen one of those facebook memes, where people are asked the result to 3 - 1 * 5 + 2 always resulting in several different answers (12, 0, 14, etc.) as people are only too happy to share their opinions/effective math expertise or lack thereof for the world to see You might also have noticed that even for something like that the signal/noise ratio is absolutely shameful and debates can carry on for a long time. This might even have happened on a sufficiently regular basis that you have a fairly good idea of who of your friends and family are going through their adult lives with a 3rd or a 7th grade math level understanding and who is 11th grade or higher.

Someone originally believing that 5x7 is such a large number so as to be impossible to compute but eventually realizing that it's possible to add five sevens and even memorize severals dozens of such results should not shut up and sit back only paying attention to the experts, but point out the difference between the expert and the math-resistant first grader to the kindergarteners, so they don't hold themselves back by listening too much to the resistant first-graders.

More importantly, talk about what you learned, how you learned it, and why it's important. This takes attention away from the uninformed sophomores who otherwise dominate the threads and frees energy for the experts from wasting time on a pseudo-debate to spending more time adding insight.

In conclusion: When it comes to ethics (the moral rules for a well-functioning community), I don't blame the unconsciously incompetent for debating because they're often not conscious of their own incompetence. Therefore, they can be forgiven---kinda like how you forgive fools and children or yourself, because they're just acting according to their nature. The blame, rather sits with those who do know better but don't point out how they used to be that ignorant and how they learned more. The blame also sits with those who know they know nothing but can't be assed to make an effort to learn i.e. those who don't read links, books, and ask the same questions over and over.

[jacob]

@Riggerjack - I'm afraid my post put too much emphasis on the expert (person holding the expertise) and not enough on the increasing expertise/knowledge itself which was the original goal that is quickly being replaced with increasing difference of opinion. After all, the idea of an expert is just a [now less trusted] brand for a container of knowledge.

I think if the goal is seen as increasing knowledge itself, my complaint about behaviors that are not helping to increase knowledge becomes clearer:

• If beginners don't bother to acquire even a basic level of knowledge, but instead rely on others to take them by their hand and walk them through, that takes away time that others could use to develop more knowledge.
• If valley people (for lack of a much better word) don't share the knowledge that helped them get over the mountain but ALSO leave that to others, then that also takes away time that could be used to develop more.

These are both issues that puts more of the work on the experts yet do nothing to increase the levels of knowledge as it's researched/developed/published.

However, the existence of misinformation would from a systems-perspective make it even worse. If there are people adding wrong information, the development of knowledge can completely stall at a very low level.

• If uninformed beginners try to gain their [basic] understanding from the debate between information and misinformation, they will end up concluding that there's very little net information because they'll simply take the average between information and misinformation which is close to zero and conclude that all the volatility means there's lots of uncertainty.
• If somewhat informed beginners (valley) don't help to curb some of the misinformation, the level of expertise will stall once informed people are using all their energy refuting misinformation and helping uninformed people.

As a direct consequence, the total level of knowledge rises in proportion to the efforts of those who contribute to supporting it minus the effort of those to contribute to destroying it. If there's not enough supporting knowledge, it can even "burn" away.

Again, this is just a minor quibble for these forums, but it is of major concern out there in the real world.
(I'm not talking about early retirement stuff here.)

[CS]

@Jacob

Thanks for the long post. In light of the points you made about stemming the tide of misinformation, and helping the experts out, I will make more of an effort to respond the newer people. As someone who has read your book (albeit needing a refresh) and years of MMM, there is some knowledge there. I think you did a post (journal entry?) about the appropriate levels of people to ask, and to help, i.e. ask those just above in skill level for help, and help those just below.

I saw a PhD thesis once on highly intelligent children. Part of what it talked about was the communication breakdown that gets really bad at about 15 IQ points difference (or higher). If that gap is too large, then no one knows what the other is talking about. This led to some smart kids to think they were stupid because they couldn't see what the others were struggling to learn - they thought they just didn't see the problem correctly. This is somehow related to the knowledge difference miscommunications, but in typical INTP manner is difficult for me to communicate.

Side note, I knew a person that liked to 'learn' by debating. They wouldn't look up anything ahead of time. It was exhausting to interact with them.

[jacob]

@CS - Here's an old blog post on similar issues:
http://earlyretirementextreme.com/democ ... y-gap.html

It's also quite conceivable that I've posted about asking one up and assisting one level down. It relates to the https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Curse_of_knowledge It's also optimal on a Wheaton scale framework. This is part of the reason why I almost never comment on younger journal entries. Saving one's first $100k or the process of getting under $1000/month is just too far away anymore

[Riggerjack]

Side note, I knew a person that liked to 'learn' by debating. They wouldn't look up anything ahead of time. It was exhausting to interact with them.

Wait. When did we meet?

@jacob,

"The valley" has another reason to step up. Teaching anything is the final step in learning it. Nothing exposes and causes correction to minor gaps in understanding like trying to turn it around and teach a subject. I never considered myself trained in anything until I teach it.

[Campitor]

I think if the goal is seen as increasing expertise itself, my complaint about behaviors that are not helping to increase expertise becomes clearer:

• If beginners don't bother to acquire even a basic level of knowledge, but instead rely on others to take them by their hand and walk them through, that takes away time that could be used to develop more expertise.
• If valley people (for lack of a much better word) don't share the knowledge that helped them get over the mountain but ALSO leave that to others, then that also takes away time that could be used to develop more.

@Jacob
As an autodidact, the problem I've encountered as a "newbie" is not knowing where to start, a.k.a., what book I should read 1st, 2nd, 3rd, etc. I truly appreciate when you make book recommendations that include guidance on what should be read 1st. This is supremely helpful for someone looking to build a solid foundation of knowledge to spring past the sophomore stage (mount stupid).

You seem to be a "natural" teacher with a gift for explaining difficult concepts; I feel this is lacking in many experts. Disseminating knowledge is an art which many, including experts, don't work on - they toss out a barrage of high level concepts at a staccato's pace as if the quantity of knowledge regurgitated is more valuable than the comprehension of the student. The experts don't put on the "beginner's mind" thereby equating earnest and honest inquiry with hand holding. And newbies sometimes want their hand held by an expert is to avoid the claptrap that passes as facts in the age of information where any kook can get published and anyone with credentials is free to opine widely and loudly on subjects they know nothing about.

Its difficult to determine when you've actually climbed past mount stupid - there are no video game level-up messages to inform you that mount stupid has been defeated. Perhaps those who have made it past Mount Pendejo don't even know it and refrain from offering knowledge because of it. Perhaps this is why it's only experts chiming in?

Anyways, I hope you continue to wade in with facts and information to help those of us that really want to learn new things. Besides, it's super entertaining to watch you eviscerate someone who is really obstinate in their active promotion of a fallacy - the global warming thread comes to mind. You pimped slapped some heavy duty knowledge into some folks that day: https://youtu.be/k-SdNHq9RZc?t=25

@Riggerjack

I think you end threads because your arguments are very persuasive and at times so logical that it imposes a measure of deep contemplation and self examination. I find your opinions valuable precisely for their challenging nature - you force use to look at data we may have not explored otherwise. The depleted uranium conversation we had comes to mind.

@Jennypenny - I like hearing your perspective and the topics and research you bring to these forums. You're definitely a positive force here.

On the whole I think the community here is great which I credit to Jacob and everyone else that keep elevating the tone of the conversations. Thank you Fish for starting this topic.

[Riggerjack]

Maybe I just have different goals, as I am not developing expertise in ERE, merely journeyman knowledge is good enough for me. But I understand that some folks have no interest or capacity to expand the expertise, or body of knowledge. To me, that is OK. The folks who want the list of tips and tricks to shortcut to ERE, aren't interested and wouldn't know what to do with systematic thinking. Again, that should be fine. People can clearly live lifestyles they barely comprehend, judging from the most common complaints around here. If they are going to do so, living by a list of tips and tricks to ERE, seems a better way than leaving them to their own devices.

[CS]

@Jacob
I wouldn't be surprised if that thesis was referencing Hollingworth's IQ work. I'd check, but I don't have it with me right now.

[jacob]

@Campitor -

This model is useful for knowing when one has "leveled up".
viewtopic.php?t=6149 (1=first climb, 2=mountain, 3=valley, 4,5=second climb)
It applies to all kinds of complex learning. I think someone who has mastered some field (which is likely most here) would be able to recognize in themselves the kind of thinking/attitudes/activities that went along with it and how their thinking/opinions changed?

Advanced beginners like to focus on "the facts". A "just give me all the facts"-attitude. I think the easiest way to differentiate between an advanced beginner and an expert is that the former only has one way of putting them together. Effectively, they only have one explanation. An expert tends to have many. One begins to develop competence after realizing that there may be more than one explanation. Only knowing one explanation also makes advanced beginners rather opinionated, so there are more.

A good teacher is in my opinion someone who maintains a theory of mind of the learning path and who is able to identify what someone knows but more importantly what they don't know and then tailor their response to that. The risk is that such responses may easily be perceived as a debate(*) and this is why a teaching approach can fail.

(*) Maybe someone who's more inclined to debate is looking for the responses that confirm them but is "cognitively blind" to the various bits and pieces of the feedback that indicates that there are things they don't know or haven't considered, but should... Relating to my comments above, I know this effect, and so I try to pay extra attention to that.

Conversely, if the expert just goes into what I call "academic mode" (where all information is written with equal weight under the presumption that the readers already know all the references); the information will fly over everybody's heads except other experts. Worse, with the advent of google (and we now have one generation of graduates who grew up with search engines and the habit of using them for homework) ... there's this [now common] idea that "doing my research means finding a URL to some random "expert" to verify my 'facts'". The end result is people throwing URLs at each other with many of them not really knowing what they're talking about.

This is why learning requires some cooperation and effort from both parties before it can happen.

[SustainableHappiness]

This is my first internet forum and I am surprised by the sense of community it gives me even though I have never and may never meet You in person. Anyways, this feels like an appropriate topic to ask this question, as I've read the netiquette rules and this one seems to lie between Rule 4: Respect other peoples time and bandwidth, and Rule 5: Make yourself look good in cyberspace.

Example first, I asked a question about preserving recently as it is a topic related to ERE that is of interest and I thought the forum might provide something useful and it did (and I've already said thank you). Does saying thank you and tying up the topic to answers on a thread I've created unnecessarily bump up the topic (I agree with you Fish as I am an "Active Topics" browser) and waste forumites time, or is it balanced out by gratitude helping the sense of community?

[black_son_of_gray]

There is another confounding dimension to this discussion that I think is worth mentioning: System 1 vs. System 2 (a la Kahneman & Tversky)

(Disclaimer: I'm almost certainly going to use these two terms in a technically inappropriate and overreaching way. Oh well.)

Simply put: we all use System 1 vs. System 2 thinking to varying degrees, and in different amounts for different topics. Some people make a focused effort on staying in System 2 thinking mode as long and as frequently as possible. I think to some extent this is trainable. Others ask questions instead of System 2. It takes effort to thoughtfully mull over a problem, so they crowd-source an answer that they immediate use as their heuristic going forward (hope that top search result or single book read was a good one!). Google is an amplifier here: it prevents people in System 1 mode from having to think deliberately, but it also allows people in System 2 mode to access huge amounts of information to make a reasoned decision.

Open-mindedness and progression towards expertise requires, to some degree, the willingness to "crack open" System 2 from time to time to double check that your heuristic/mental model is still accurate. That takes a lot of effort, and also carries the emotional risk that you were wrong! So I can see how people don't do it once they have their "thinking short-cut" in place. I think the propensity that someone has for revisiting System 2 after exposure to new information/or ideas sets the pace at which people ascend and descend Mt Stupid. It takes more than exposure to information. It takes more than hearing good arguments. It takes a willingness to enter System 2.

[Campitor]

A good teacher is in my opinion someone who maintains a theory of mind of the learning path and who is able to identify what someone knows but more importantly what they don't know and then tailor their response to that. The risk is that such responses may easily be perceived as a debate(*) and this is why a teaching approach can fail.....This is why learning requires some cooperation and effort from both parties before it can happen.

Experts aren't immune to the "this is a debate" conundrum. Let me give you a personal example. I was at a party and I was introduced to a professor from a local university. We got along cordially and spent the time discussing mutually interesting topics. After a few laughs and drinks, we got around to discussing his work where he revealed he has done extensive research on asbestos. I've read a lot of papers on asbestos since I was exposed to it frequently many years ago; it was a warehouse with low hanging asbestos wrapped pipes. These pipes were constantly raining down clouds of asbestos as a result of the collisions caused by forklift propelled goods. No one knew it was asbestos until it was tested several years later. No worries - my lungs are free and clear to this day.

To get back on point, I wanted to ask this professor why I or my coworkers didn't get lung cancer. I still remember my question: "If asbestos is a naturally occurring mineral that is present in our air and I was exposed to it directly in my work environment for years, why didn't I get lung cancer or why don't more people get cancer? Is there a type of asbestos that is more dangerous to breathe?" I clearly knew I was standing on the downwarrd slope of Mount Stupid when I asked my question. I was hoping the professor would give me some information that would help me descend into the valley of competence/proficiency. I was expecting a fascinating lecture on microbiology or epidemiology but instead he got very irate. He perceived my question as a direct challenge and responded with the "it's people like you" trope. I tried to explain that I wasn't doubting asbestos effects on the lungs or its ability to cause cancer but seeking to understand at what point, in his expert opinion, does it become cancerous and what his researched revealed. The professor wouldn't have any of it and literally turned his back on me. I've witnessed this repeatedly in my own life or seen it done to others. I've spent my entire career working alongside people with multiple degrees: PhD's, MAs, Dr's, etc. Why do so many take any kind of question as a challenge to their knowledge instead of a sincere probe in the quest for enlightenment? Is there a similar 6 stage model for being a good teacher?

And to tie this back to the question regarding why the valley folk don't talk to the mount stupid guys - perhaps they are afraid of invoking the ire of those on Mount Olympus who are now shouting at those of us in the valley clawing our way up their side of the mountain - some of us don't want to end up like Prometheus.

[Fish]

I suspect that I fall into the category of posters you reference here. I post infrequently, and often solicit feedback [...]

I'm coming back to your post in an effort to mitigate the chilling effect of the meta-discussion. In my estimation, most posters here (yourself included) do not cause too much of an issue when acting according to your own nature; i.e. most are unconsciously semi-competent and the result is decidedly net positive. We still see things that require moderation (e.g. yesterday's sailor-stories cleanup) but that is not what I'm talking about here. What I am talking is related to the observation that:

Hotels don't have a sense of community.

So if you're an infrequent visitor and always go straight to your room (i.e. topics you start) it's understandable and acceptable(*), but please don't delude yourself into thinking that you're doing a great favor for the community by posting here. And if you live here but you still spend all of your time in your room, then this almost certainly tends towards net-negative unless you throw great parties. In an objective sense. The kind that keep others coming back, not the types of parties that cause hangovers and require cleanup.

(*) How acceptable this is depends on the relative concentration of self-interested visitors vs. community-builders and regulars. For a healthy community, the latter need to vastly outnumber the former in the proportion of posts that are written. One can definitely contribute as an infrequent poster, one example that comes to mind is @ebast, who puts a lot of thought into his posts and writes extremely well.

My objective in creating this awareness is not to create the chilling effect but to push the hotel guests to become better guests. Especially those who live in the hotel^H^H^H^H^H apartment complex.

Almost every time I post (and this time is probably going to be no different), I regret doing so because I either feel like:

1. I should have spent more time framing my question, because I believe the responses would have been less....(searching for the word here)...sharp? I guess is the best way to state it. [...]

3. I feel outright judgment, and then it takes me a long time (weeks, to months) to build up the willingness to post again. That feeling of judgment is something I believe isn't intentional (mostly) but still suppresses my desire to be more active.

If it makes you feel better, I brace myself when reading new responses because posters here tend to be plain and direct. I find it is easier to not expect agreement. That makes any feeling of disappointment go away faster. It's a much different environment than school or office work which is much more supportive in my experience. (I suspect that's the case because those institutions care about retention.) You just have to have an open mind, a thick skin, and prefer truth to agreement. And if you're posting about politics or any other eternal disagreement (health and diet included), then I don't know what else you can expect. You're kind of asking for it.

fish is certainly right to grow tired of answering beginner / obvious questions over and over

I have nothing against beginner questions, but I do object to people asking questions as a substitute for Google. I also don't mind "obvious" questions if the poster signals that they've already looked/thought in the obvious places, because there's a good chance that someone else here understands the issue at a higher level than obvious.

Many times I've wanted to reply to a comment and have not done so due to a bit of gun-shyness. I think it is at least possible, if not likely, that others have had a similar hesitation. So I'm going to submit and just say hell with it.

Good for you! When I started posting my ratio of unfinished drafts to submitted posts was something like 6:1. I have dozens of drafts because they didn't meet the standards of the community as I perceived it. But it seems to get better with practice (or my quality is declining ), as I'm finally getting very close to 1:1, i.e. submitting everything I write.

Does saying thank you and tying up the topic to answers on a thread I've created unnecessarily bump up the topic (I agree with you Fish as I am an "Active Topics" browser) and waste forumites time, or is it balanced out by gratitude helping the sense of community?

When information or advice is received, it is courteous and proper to for the requester to acknowledge it, and preferably go a little bit beyond by explaining how you're going to use that information, or how it changed your thinking. If there was an impact let us know that our time wasn't wasted. That being said, if you just started 3 other topics then it might be reasonable to wait before bumping the other thread with a thank you, to give other posters some breathing room. In my mind, it's a little rude to own more than 2-3 posts at a time on the "Active Topics" page, especially if you're the one doing the bumping. If it's already in the top half of "Active Topics" then I don't consider such a post a bump since it already has the forum's collective attention.

But this may be overthinking it all. If your entire intention is to say thank you, then just do it. If any part of it is motivated by wanting to bump your thread to get some more replies, then add some value with your bump so that those familiar with the thread don't regret clicking to read your latest post.

[bryan]

I think I'll echo @SustainableHappiness: How great is it that this forum exists and seems to continue on rather well? By the time I found ERE, it was already terminal, but the forums were very much alive. It's certainly harder to find information on the forum than the blog (differences in curation and central planning, I suspect), but luckily @jacob and others readily link to previous or tangent discussions when relevant. Resurrecting old threads seems OK so long as it is in good faith.

Of course, I would still agree with OP that I would prefer more thought-provoking original threads versus google-able questions.. Then again some of these newbie threads have turned out pretty interesting (I suspect many regular, good posters just can't resist being an active part of the community here?)

[halfmoon]

I have to admit that this conversation has an inhibiting effect on my eagerness to participate. Volunteering my thoughts in a group generally far more educated and analytical than I has been difficult enough; now I have to worry about being a parasite. I probably do fit the description, or is that just my narcissism talking?

I haven't noticed a problem** outside of one poster persistently repeating questions in someone's journal. The journal owner dealt with it well. I also think members who perceive an issue could send the offender a PM.

**Of course I wouldn't notice if I were a perpetrator, would I?

[Fish]

@halfmoon - Your journal definitely falls into the “great party” category, as does jennypenny’s political analysis. Other examples are cmonkey’s journal, and ffj’s journal and rescue rope thread. I’m a bit surprised that as the content originators you are questioning your value to the community. Maybe my communication was unclear/imprecise, or the rest of us need to speak up more and doing a better job of voicing appreciation.

Maintaining a journal is not at all parasitic. Perpetually being on the requesting end for advice and information is, if that is not balanced by being a good student, or an active member of the community elsewhere.

[RealPerson]

@halfmoon. Your journal is awesome. My only complaint is that I wish you would post more frequently, but I understand your situation right now. I will patiently wait....

[jacob]

As a general systems observation, consider that whenever there's talk about codes of conduct, it's always the most conscientious who begin to question and moderate themselves.

So talking about this subject might ultimately have the opposite effect of the intended one; like safety gear in hockey. This dynamic is actually somewhat analogous to the knowledge-problem I mostly focused on above.

[Campitor]

I have to admit that this conversation has an inhibiting effect on my eagerness to participate. Volunteering my thoughts in a group generally far more educated and analytical than I has been difficult enough; now I have to worry about being a parasite. I probably do fit the description, or is that just my narcissism talking?

In all honesty we're all parasites to a degree since we can't be experts in everything and we routinely post on these forums looking for advice on things we don't know much about. Since this forum is meant to be an exchange of ideas on many different subjects, not just ERE, there will be times that we go from being contributors to consumers. Some of the discussions don't have 1 right answer but many answers that are increasingly/decreasingly optimal when factoring in the individual circumstances that apply to the person asking for advice/knowledge versus the person providing it. We all have our expertise in any given area but at some point, our ability to contribute to the ERE dialogue will lessen since what do we have left to say that isn't covered in Jacob's book, the encyclopedia of knowledge published in his retired blog, the topics warehoused in these forums, or the other ER blogs on the internet? The only thing left is to practice Google-Fu in hopes of finding gems of information that can benefit our fields of interests.

Eventually the veteran members on this forum should reach max ERE wheaton level and will be echoing the same paradigms to each other - everyone is a master so the only interactions of consequence will be between those climbing up/down mount stupid and those at Expert level. Thus the only thing left to discuss among those at max wheaton scale will either be opinion pieces (Keynesian vs Austrian; polyamory vs monogamy, etc.) or general knowledge sharing, i.e., "what is your recipe for X dish? What kata do you practice? Which synthetic oil do you prefer?"

I tend to operate under the paradigm that there are no stupid questions but only opportunities for teaching and learning. We've all asked stupid questions at some point in our life - and I'm not talking about our childhood either. Asking/being asked a stupid question is an opportunity to be schooled or to school someone in the art of analysis, research, and systems thinking, or the concept of enlightened self interest when asked questions with moral components that have negative consequences.

Earlier in this thread I asked how would someone know when mount stupid was conquered - a stupid question in light of Jacob's follow up response. Jacob could have blown me off or I could have refrained from posting my questions. Both would have resulted in my continued ignorance since he actually provided a very good model to determine your height on the expertise ladder. So in summary, don't fear the gods of knowledge that traverse these forums. The only stupid questions is the one that doesn't get asked - imho.

[7Wannabe5]

Based on the list in that article, I am wondering where the line between conscientious and self-conscious falls? My dear son once hurt my feelings by informing me that I was self-involved, until he explained that "self-involved" doesn't mean that you don't care about other people, but more like you don't think about what other people are thinking very much, and you are generally not very aware of your immediate surroundings. He was embarrassed and annoyed, because I had walked into a building through the OUT door, leaving him stranded due to higher level of what might have been construed as conscientiousness, but was really a combination of simple consciousness and self-consciousness.

IOW, I didn't notice the door sign or the flow of human traffic, due to absent-mindedness, but I also wasn't particularly embarrassed or contrite about making such a mistake. OTOH, when I walked right SMACK into a glass wall at the bus station a few days ago, in front of a crowd of strangers, I did regret my behavior for a few minutes.

I also must admit that if buying second hand clothing is a sign of lack of conscientiousness, then I am a hopeless case nasty girl, because I have on occasion even teased people who have repulsion boundary to this practice.