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How to explain ERE, arranging family matters
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Re: Generational clash - one more time

Post by BRUTE » Fri Dec 29, 2017 1:55 am

maybe Stahlmann can find a job he really excels at and likes and makes tons of money so his parents will be proud of him

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Re: Generational clash - one more time

Post by J_ » Fri Dec 29, 2017 3:18 am

I see you are proud of your father and mother. They have lived their way, to their best insights.
Why compare yourself to them? Why think that you have better insights than them?
You have other insights in life, but better? That is to be seen? Wait untill you are their age.
Accept the differences between you and your parents, as soon as you do that there is less clash.
You like to live your life in another style, that is ok, not per se better.
So, "help your parents" starts with accepting them and how they live and have lived, and for the rest look forward and (start) living your way.

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Re: Generational clash - one more time

Post by daylen » Fri Dec 29, 2017 8:36 am

I can relate to both my parents quite well. I try to put myself in their shoes and think about what is best for them. Mutual respect.

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Re: Generational clash - one more time

Post by PA Hiker » Fri Dec 29, 2017 4:16 pm

I think that when in comes to parents, you just have to get used to them not 'getting' you. Just be sure to keep the lines of communication open. They may never come around to your way of seeing things (although sometimes parents do), but you will definitely not worry about it so much as time goes on. I know this is pretty lame advice, but this seems to be the common experience with parents.

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Re: Generational clash - one more time

Post by BRUTE » Fri Dec 29, 2017 9:44 pm

has Stahlmann considered moving out?

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