How to maintain friendships frugally?

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Workingsucks
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Re: How to maintain friendships frugally?

Post by Workingsucks »

I suppose I was just trying to keep this group because it's mostly ladies like myself. Whenever I try to make friends I usually end up with guy friends who have secret ulterior motives. What's a girl to do? Oh well.

Arpe
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Re: How to maintain friendships frugally?

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An example could be inviting your friends over for beers and play some board games at your place instead of going out at a bar. I genuinely think that it's a lot more fun, as you don't have to behave in a certain way when you are not out in public. The beers are cheaper and you'll have the fun of playing board games as a bonus activity.

Also, activities such as playing basketball, football, etc. on public places are cheap, fun, and healthy.

If you want to be frugal, you will have to be creative in your way of approaching friendships - what is the point of FI if you are relatively friendless?

All the best on your journey :D

ertyu
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Re: How to maintain friendships frugally?

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Workingsucks wrote:
Tue Jun 23, 2020 1:37 pm
What's a girl to do?
Hm, seems like the bars are this group's "group thing." But that doesn't necessarily mean you'll need to throw the whole group out. Are there people you'd like to invite one-on-one, in environments where you'd actually have chance to talk and develop deeper friendships? Over coffee, or for long nature walks, or idk.

If you're into crafts, I'd say look for meet-ups in your area around that. In general, I second seeing if you can join a group that already does activities you like. Or start one? Call it Frugal Fabulous Females or some such to keep them pesky dick-havers away :lol:?

Workingsucks
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Re: How to maintain friendships frugally?

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ertyu wrote:
Tue Jun 23, 2020 4:48 pm


If you're into crafts, I'd say look for meet-ups in your area around that. In general, I second seeing if you can join a group that already does activities you like. Or start one? Call it Frugal Fabulous Females or some such to keep them pesky dick-havers away :lol:?
I love this idea! :)

nomadscientist
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Re: How to maintain friendships frugally?

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I find I do not regret money spent on friends; it needs to be put in perspective. Handful of $50 gifts a year does not break my budget. People remember this stuff, especially if tailored to them and your relationship with them, much more than they remember you not joining for some bar outing. Especially as most of their friends will not do this stuff.

However, if bar outings is basically what they like most of the time, and you basically do not like bar outings ever, then you why are you friends with them at all? The lack of social context for a friendship is the real problem with guy who has organised his life around not spending money wanting to be friends with bar person.

BTW, I am not going to lecture any otherwise isolated person about not trying to hang on to an acquaintance so as to not feel alone. I've moved around a lot, so I know that feeling. But learn to separate this kind of relationship from an actual friendship in your mind.

Did
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Re: How to maintain friendships frugally?

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2Birds1Stone wrote:
Mon Jun 15, 2020 11:03 pm
The people I was largely friends with in HS and college are now mostly overweight shadows in the cave, sedated by HFCS and reality TV, and they love to get together on the weekends to binge drink and complain about work/their lives.
I had forgotten we were friends back in the day....

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