Yes and no. The old man on the boat is not often regarded with sympathy, but the further along in life's journey a man goes, the more likely it becomes that the bulk of what he has made of his life is now stored in the form of financial assets or just memories. He wishes he was still the 21 year old who could render a pretty girl brainless all night long, but now the next best he can offer is to turn on the passenger seat warmer in his Lexus. So, it is rarely the case that such a relationship is a one-sided power play.Augustus wrote:It's funny how the tables turn when you have a daughter. The problem with that idea is that the women end up with no assets/skills, the ability to get the old man on the boat is age dependent, and the woman is going to have 50%+ of her life ahead of her when obtaining the old rich man scenario is no longer possible. The old rich man is unlikely to leave her any money, and will probably dump her at some point before he dies anyways. Having no skills or assets means they're basically imprisoned with whatever dude they end up with, and the guy will often dump them or treat them like shit because of the power disparity, he can do whatever he wants and she just has to put up with it or she is homeless. Which is really one of the primary issues facing any woman, and is harder for them than it is for men. Men are almost always expected to accumulate money and assets. It may seem unfair that the man has to go work while the woman can just look hot and find a mate, but I know that I certainly do not want anyone to be lording over me and telling me what to do lest they tire of me and dump me in a homeless shelter. When I make the money and have the skills and accumulate the assets I have the power, and I want to keep it that way.
Also, I would note for the record that I have been to a large extent financially supported by relatively affluent older men who weren't all that much older than me, and I'm not exactly a spring chicken myself. My early retired millionaire-next-door "ex" was only 55 to my 48 when we met. My current BF is only 2 years older than me and he is actually quite a bit better looking than me too It really has a lot more to do with being "good in the follow" than young and super-hot. And, I also think it is somewhat less likely that a man who has cared for you will simply serve you with walking papers with little consideration for your ongoing welfare than any given corporation with which you might otherwise be employed. At least 3 of my affluent exes have told me that anytime I need help of any kind, I should feel free to ask them. That said, definite nod of head to notion that any individual needs to be always on the lookout for own best interest inclusive of assets, equity, and prospects for future employment.