Random Relationship Derailment Thread

How to explain ERE, arranging family matters
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Random Relationship Derailment Thread

Post by Augustus » Mon Feb 25, 2019 1:59 pm

For when threads are derailed by relationship discussions...

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Post by cimorene12 » Mon Feb 25, 2019 2:01 pm

Thanks, Augustus.

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Post by Jean » Mon Feb 25, 2019 4:32 pm

I didn't mean that those options are good or Bad. I just mean that they don't existe for men in their 20's, which makes ere the most attractive path for more m'en than women.

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Post by Augustus » Mon Feb 25, 2019 10:56 pm

I think it's probably the more attractive path regardless.

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Post by Jean » Tue Feb 26, 2019 6:27 am

To my (and apparently your) values, yes. People have different values and might rank options differently.

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Post by 7Wannabe5 » Tue Feb 26, 2019 7:24 am

I would like to suggest that it is important to differentiate between two very different modes of functioning which might be referred to as Sugar Baby vs Lentil Baby. A Sugar Baby would be the stereotypical individual who trades youth, beauty, charm, and other associated skills for the posh lifestyle provided by the significant financial resources of another individual. OTOH, a Lentil Baby is the extremely rare individual who consequent to much study in the realms of home economics, perma-culture, finance, modern relationship and systems theory, is able to readily help another individual to reduce personal resource waste and improve over all quality of lifestyle through intelligent process resembling beneficial symbiosis, such as occurs in the fixing of nitrogen by bacteria in the soil gathering near the root nodules of leguminous plants.

For example, in our affluent culture it is highly unlikely to encounter a heterosexual man over the age of 40 who is sharing a bed or a bedroom with another individual in order to save on housing costs. So, from the perspective of a Lentil Baby this is as obviously a situation indicative of resource waste as recyclable beer cans left littered about a walking trail. If this open loop were to be closed by inserting her warm body into this cold wasted bed space, then the thermostat might even be set down by approximately 4 degrees! Even greater resource savings may accrue due to savings on electricity necessary to broadcast internet porn, heart and prostate healthy workout provided reducing future need for expensive pharmaceuticals and surgeries, and expenses related to ownership of non-human pet to provide affectionate touch.

Obviously, when an individual gives fair consideration to the value of all these benefits accrued in relationship to Lentil Baby, it is highly possible he will insist on, at the very least, taking her out for pancakes at some nearby diner the following morning. However, the amazing skill set of a Lentil Baby is such that it is very much within the realm of possibility that she could even cook breakfast for both of them making use of whatever happens to be in his kitchen at the moment!!!! Etc. etc. etc. ...the part where she convinces him that he could retire early and live on his blueberry covered acreage in the shed built for $3500 by some Amish guys.

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Post by bigato » Tue Feb 26, 2019 8:04 am

Where can I find them? Hahahaha

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Post by 7Wannabe5 » Tue Feb 26, 2019 8:54 am

@bigato:

You could try buying a wholesale lot of good quality woman's overalls and offer them up for sale on Craigslist with only slim profit margin.

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Post by bigato » Tue Feb 26, 2019 9:06 am

Hahahaha awesome

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Post by Mister Imperceptible » Tue Feb 26, 2019 11:00 am

lolz Lentil Babies, I love it

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Re: Random Relationship Derailment Thread

Post by Jean » Tue Feb 26, 2019 11:49 am

The lentilles baby trade is isually more like : warmth produced by extra muscular mass during thé night against additional ingrédients in thé lentils making lentils great again day After day.

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Post by 7Wannabe5 » Tue Feb 26, 2019 12:04 pm

@Jean:

Do you mean you can only afford plain lentils if you share them with your lentil baby, but your budget will allow for a couple vegetables otherwise? If that is the case, then you just need to buy your lentil baby a good book on wild foraging and/or dumpster diving. However, it isn't recommended practice to send your lentil baby out dumpster diving on her own. Unfortunately, I have not yet found a Lentil Daddy who is willing to eat anything I might scavenge from a dumpster.

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Post by Jean » Tue Feb 26, 2019 12:27 pm

She occasionaly goes dumpster diving on her own. What i mean is that without our agrément, she would be cold at night, and i wouldn't vary my recipes very much despite it getting boring.

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Re: Random Relationship Derailment Thread

Post by Jean » Tue Feb 26, 2019 12:40 pm

Or less metaphorically, you don't reduce your expense level, but you make life much nicer at such an expense level.

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Post by C40 » Tue Feb 26, 2019 11:02 pm

I'm actually thinking about going to be, I guess, a Lentil Baby for my friends. I want to live with them. They want me to live with them. I don't want to pay rent. They don't really care about rent. I do want to make sure I'm contributing in some way, maybe mostly for my own mental acceptance of not paying rent. So I've discussed/asked/suggested some things I will do for them in exchange for living there. Things like making great coffee most days, personal training and dietary advice for one, fixing an old motorcycle for the other, gardening (which could actually save them a substantial amount of money), obedience training for their dog, and helping with a house project here and there.

Nearly all of these are things I enjoy doing and would do for fun even if I was paying rent.

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Post by CS » Wed Feb 27, 2019 12:15 am

@c40 It is amazing what people will pay for companionship. Most people are so rigid/have so many personal plans/etc that when one is flexible and can go along with others, it is as valuable as a gold mine.

Get some ballroom dancing training and you are set for life apparently, lol!

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Post by 7Wannabe5 » Wed Feb 27, 2019 10:35 am

@Jean: Gotcha :)

@C40:

Sounds great. I hoped once I described the concept, the young men on this forum would recognize their own potential for achieving Lentil Baby, if not Sugar Baby status. As CS noted, flexibility is very important, and also being unencumbered of your own "babies." For instance, even owning a dog might tip the balance. My permaculture project and adult children keep me tethered to the extent that I still sometimes function more as Lentil Mama than Lentil Baby. Also, throwing sexuality into the mix is also not required except to the extent that your presence is not a limitation on the sexuality of your host(s.)

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Re: Random Relationship Derailment Thread

Post by Augustus » Wed Feb 27, 2019 1:41 pm

Mister Imperceptible wrote:
Tue Feb 26, 2019 11:26 pm
Taking a community college course to meet women seems like a fun idea to gather more materials for short stories. Not sure how it would work for a 32-year-old.

I agree that dating immigrants is much more viable for an American ERE male. Particularly when I was in my twenties, buried in $1xx,xxx of student debt and living with my parents. The pretty blue-eyed girl next door didn’t care for me much if I couldn’t buy her things and give her a landing pad away from her own parents’ house. Immigrants are much more forgiving of these things.
Older dudes with resources marrying younger girls in asia is so common it's a cliche, the asian girls I've met at very practical in this regard, and since I'm married to one that means I know a ton of them by default and my wife regales me with their relationship sagas, from which I have learned there are a lot of useless assholes in the world. The community college course might be hit or miss just because of the environment, but worth a shot, at least you walk away with a fun experience for low cost and a new skill. Weight will reduce efficiency a little, but I was fat when I bagged mine, wife actually said she liked it because I resembled a bear, now she complains I am too skinny and thinks I am dying of cancer. The mexican muscle preference thing never stopped me, I was never muscly.

I think most of it's just in your head dude. You need to realize how many douche bag men there are out there, and realize that you have high intrinsic worth if you are not a douche bag. Throw in things like money and you can command a high valuation.

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Re: Random Relationship Derailment Thread

Post by CS » Wed Feb 27, 2019 1:43 pm

@augustus

Your post about your perspective for your daughter on the negative Wheaton levels was a breath of fresh air. You get it exactly. Actually, you sound like my mom - and that is a compliment. She was the one that pushed me to get a Ph.D. (no discussion wanted on ERE usefulness, lol). How it HAS been useful is having some leverage. It almost makes up for not being a man in this society. Combining that with a breadth of experience, several hard to earn degrees, passing difficult certifications, and obtaining hard to get state licenses allows me to charge excellent rates for my time, if I choose to make that trade.

It is a shot of mental health to have safety and security (as much as possible consider black swans, guns in the US and all that.), especially when combined with other ERE elements.

It's a wonderful gift for your daughter.

I will say though, having to have a separate area for this sort of talk reminds me of Bernie BS Sanders. "Stop distracting us with your irrelevant Wymin issues!" complete with a waggin' old white man finger. :lol: :lol: :lol: Nope. They ARE the relevant issues... get with the program. But I'll post here just the same because frankly, it is more interesting to me and I've not the time nor the energy to explain it the unenlightened. :P

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Re: Random Relationship Derailment Thread

Post by Stahlmann » Wed Feb 27, 2019 4:12 pm

@cs
You seem to have some kind unrealistic expectations what it means to be man (for most men on this planet).
As living in neocolonized banana republic I don't see many privileges of such situation.

Iirc in usa senate half of the people are millionaires. (In reference to disappointment with old so called socialist. He doesnt support ubi or ubs so aint the real for me :lol: ) Hmmm.

It worth noting that almost everybody who found their safe place will say that the other part of the population is unenlightened. :?

You seem like one lady who I met during my German course, same vibe. Are you medical doctor?

This how ends unlocking browsing on the phone...
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