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by akratic
Mon Aug 22, 2016 6:03 pm
Forum: DIY Skills Questions
Topic: Learning from failure vs learning from success
Replies: 32
Views: 2370

Re: Learning from failure vs learning from success

Well I don't mean to derail this thread, but since I got quoted in the original post, let me try to clarify my stance a bit: for me consuming alcohol is about the same as smashing my head against the wall. So I think the OP in the alcohol thread is asking: How do I go from 10 head-smashes a week to ...
by akratic
Mon Aug 22, 2016 5:10 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: akratic's ERE journal
Replies: 628
Views: 78038

Re: akratic's ERE journal

what has akratic tried? early morning sun therapy? evening dark therapy? melatonin? diets? sounds like an easy $100k :D Haha, akratic likes brute's style. :) Here is the core sleep problem: if my brain gets going in the middle of the night it cannot be stopped. It'd be like trying to fall asleep wh...
by akratic
Mon Aug 22, 2016 4:41 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: akratic's ERE journal
Replies: 628
Views: 78038

Re: akratic's ERE journal

Yeah Tyler9000 that makes sense to me. I started reading the Big Book from Alcoholics Anonymous to get more perspective on addiction. There's an early chapter that talks about taking stock of all the people that have been harmed by your addiction, all the people you borrowed money from to get anothe...
by akratic
Mon Aug 22, 2016 2:27 pm
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: Alcohol moderation
Replies: 108
Views: 10628

Re: Alcohol moderation

I drink in moderation, but not because I've mastered alcohol, but more because I don't like it. I don't like how it messes up my sleep and my body and my mind. I don't like crutches, and I don't need it to relax or socialize. However, I do need it to dance. And I also need to drink occasionally to h...
by akratic
Mon Aug 22, 2016 12:54 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: akratic's ERE journal
Replies: 628
Views: 78038

Re: akratic's ERE journal

@FBeyer, that's a good question, and I don't take any offense to it. The first part of the answer is that I haven't been able to recreate my favorite parts about being in school on my own. It wasn't just learning that I liked but: 1) being surrounded by smart people who had lots of free time 2) havi...
by akratic
Mon Aug 22, 2016 12:51 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: akratic's ERE journal
Replies: 628
Views: 78038

Re: akratic's ERE journal

@Noedig, thanks for checking out the Akratic app. I wish I could time myself out naturally after two hours. Like if that skill was for sale in some futuristic real-life RPG shop for $100k I'd pull the trigger without hesitation. I'd also spend another $100k on "ability to fall asleep easily and slee...
by akratic
Mon Aug 22, 2016 12:48 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: akratic's ERE journal
Replies: 628
Views: 78038

Re: akratic's ERE journal

@UrbanHermit, I have no regrets about my adventures and enjoyed them while I was doing them. I even put them #2 on the all time adult lifestyle list. Adventuring is where I met my fiance and solidified my relationship with her, which is the best thing I have going for me. 30s-akratic would tell 20s-...
by akratic
Sat Aug 20, 2016 12:52 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: akratic's ERE journal
Replies: 628
Views: 78038

Re: akratic's ERE journal

No worries, my journal is a good place to get personal. It's cathartic to get some of this stuff out.
by akratic
Sat Aug 20, 2016 12:27 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: akratic's ERE journal
Replies: 628
Views: 78038

Re: akratic's ERE journal

Interesting point about others wanting to contribute and maybe not feeling able to on a topic like ERE, long-term travel, or a thru-hike. I think I feel like I am "contributing" most in conversations when I am passionately engaged in what the other person is talking about, actively listening, and tr...
by akratic
Sat Aug 20, 2016 9:49 am
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: akratic's ERE journal
Replies: 628
Views: 78038

Re: akratic's ERE journal

@Tyler I read your last post above shortly after you made it, and thought I understood it at the time. I just re-read it though after another two months of thinking about these people, and I have to say, you often put things eloquently, but this is especially potent: "The trick is to sort the natura...
by akratic
Sat Aug 20, 2016 9:42 am
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: akratic's ERE journal
Replies: 628
Views: 78038

Re: akratic's ERE journal

One of the more fascinating parts of having had some interesting life experiences -- such as hiking the Appalachian Trail or traveling for a few years in a row -- is seeing how other people react to these experiences when they naturally come up in conversation. Or maybe I should say fail to react. H...
by akratic
Sat Aug 20, 2016 7:40 am
Forum: ERE Community
Topic: Boston meetup
Replies: 9
Views: 2054

Re: Boston meetup

Too bad we failed to generate sufficient momentum for this Boston ERE meetup. Maybe I was wrong to think we could organize it NYC meetup style with a doodle to negotiate dates. Maybe we need to do it Chicago meetup style instead with an arbitrary date in the title of the thread. Either way I joined ...
by akratic
Sat Aug 20, 2016 7:11 am
Forum: Money Questions
Topic: Has anyone been through the process of writing a prenup or wishing they had?
Replies: 70
Views: 4882

Re: Has anyone been through the process of writing a prenup or wishing they had?

I think you misunderstood my proposal, Augustus. We get back what we brought in and then split everything created after the marriage 50/50. This is exactly the default option with no prenup in some states, just not the state we happen to live in. The 7/8 stuff was trying to figure out what happens i...
by akratic
Fri Aug 19, 2016 10:53 pm
Forum: Money Questions
Topic: Has anyone been through the process of writing a prenup or wishing they had?
Replies: 70
Views: 4882

Re: Has anyone been through the process of writing a prenup or wishing they had?

@Riggerjack, that's such a cool suggestion to agree ahead of time that before litigation can be an option there will be mediation without representation followed by arbitration without representation. Thanks!
by akratic
Fri Aug 19, 2016 10:34 am
Forum: Money Questions
Topic: Has anyone been through the process of writing a prenup or wishing they had?
Replies: 70
Views: 4882

Re: Has anyone been through the process of writing a prenup or wishing they had?

Okay having slept on it I consider jacob's solution elegant but for us not worth the mental gymnastics of tracking two independent asset numbers. My draft so far is downstream of Dragline's first post. The one part I added was about inheritance, which I believe prenups are allowed to cover. My guess...
by akratic
Thu Aug 18, 2016 7:17 pm
Forum: Money Questions
Topic: Has anyone been through the process of writing a prenup or wishing they had?
Replies: 70
Views: 4882

Re: Has anyone been through the process of writing a prenup or wishing they had?

Thanks Dragline! Just getting it notarized isn't so bad. I didn't realize it could be that easy to have it actually count for something.
by akratic
Thu Aug 18, 2016 7:14 pm
Forum: Money Questions
Topic: Has anyone been through the process of writing a prenup or wishing they had?
Replies: 70
Views: 4882

Re: Has anyone been through the process of writing a prenup or wishing they had?

Don't worry jennypenny my fiance is the kewlest. Brute you're right that our document won't stand in court, but that's okay. I understand why someone else might want a bulletproof one or like Ego no prenup at all. I think we just mostly want clarity, napkin style. If we end up with something cumbers...
by akratic
Thu Aug 18, 2016 4:29 pm
Forum: Money Questions
Topic: Has anyone been through the process of writing a prenup or wishing they had?
Replies: 70
Views: 4882

Has anyone been through the process of writing a prenup or wishing they had?

Divorce is extremely unlikely in our case (maybe everyone else thinks this too at this point), but still we're going in with substantial assets. We've had separate finances until now and plan to combine income and expenses after the marriage (to make logistics of having kids easier). I've been readi...
by akratic
Fri Jul 01, 2016 2:03 am
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: finding a partner with same beliefs?
Replies: 10
Views: 1021

Re: finding a partner with same beliefs?

Finding the right partner is probably about as hard as achieving FI -- and even more important. I found her eventually, but it took me years.
by akratic
Wed Jun 29, 2016 9:22 am
Forum: Friends & Family Questions
Topic: Declining invitations strategically
Replies: 30
Views: 3433

Re: Declining invitations strategically

I think the winning strategy is to proactively organize activities you actually do want to attend.

If you're the guy that organizes poker after work once a month, but just doesn't like baseball, that's a lot better than the guy who inexplicably declines everything. (I've been both.)
by akratic
Sat Jun 11, 2016 9:30 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: m741's ERE Journal
Replies: 551
Views: 75874

Re: m741's ERE Journal

We use the same strategy as Ego, although we stay about a week in the first place, and we use airbnb.com to find it, or couchsurfing.org when we were more adventurous. It’s definitely best to search like a local after you get there. I’ll tell you about my favorite tactic in talking to expats, althou...
by akratic
Sat Jun 11, 2016 9:05 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: akratic's ERE journal
Replies: 628
Views: 78038

Re: akratic's ERE journal

@mango: I've tried multiple coworking spaces in Austin and Boston, and they haven't worked well for me. The only real social interaction I got from them was people who wanted something from me, like freelancing gigs or to be my coach (?!). In school or a 9-5 there is a lot of organic interaction, an...
by akratic
Thu Jun 09, 2016 3:38 pm
Forum: ERE Community
Topic: Boston meetup
Replies: 9
Views: 2054

Re: Boston meetup

I'm interested too. I propose this location in Kendall Square because it's free, near the T, nice, and likely deserted on the weekends: http://www.yelp.com/biz/cambridge-center-roof-garden-cambridge How about 2pm on a Saturday or Sunday? I made a doodle with some dates: http://doodle.com/poll/i35p6a...
by akratic
Wed Mar 23, 2016 12:55 pm
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: Living digitally very inexpensive
Replies: 84
Views: 8298

Re: Living digitally very inexpensive

Ignoring the derailed part of the thread and responding to the original post: A preference for digital experiences is a definite advantage for FI because digital experiences can be so inexpensive. Sure they can be made expensive like anything, but in general they are cheap. I think the same is true ...
by akratic
Wed Mar 23, 2016 12:11 pm
Forum: Resources & Recommended Reading
Topic: You are the average of the five people you spend the most...
Replies: 70
Views: 12476

Re: You are the average of the five people you spend the most...

1) social isolation is really bad (source: Ego's article)
2) FI correlates with social isolation (source: my opinion)

1 + 2) Hmm...