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The end of Permission to Feel asks “who do you want to be?” When I read that a year ago, I knew I wasn’t ready to address that particular question yet. I still had an enormous amount of work to do on accepting, communicating, and processing my past and present feelings. These past few weeks, I’ve na...

jacob wrote: ↑

Fri Feb 05, 2021 10:43 am

Imagine if these forums didn't exist.

I did, and it was a gut punch. Thank you for everything you do, Jacob.

Ran my numbers for January. With just my paycheck, I had a savings rate of -83%. Yeah, negative. When I add in my realized gains from stock market black magic fuckery, my savings rate was 17%. I'm gonna go out on a limb here and say none of what happened in January--my expenses or my gains--is susta...

Took my surprising GME gain and bought ATVI, because if I were a gamer (as many of the redditors seem to be) and new to the markets with sudden easy cash in my brand new trading account, I'd buy ATVI.

@c_L I'd point you to a term 7w5 used in the ERE dating thread: "covert contracts." When I read that term, I was like, yup, hits the nail on the head. "I did X for you so you must do Y for me" might be fine if that contract is actually communicated, negotiated, and agreed upon, b...

I went for another walk in the woods. You know what that means. Six dense paragraphs of introspection. And y’all be like, “Jesus, Gravy, enough with the introspection. Just post your budget.” And I be like, “What budget? I be living like life is a world-class stripper.” Dollar. Dollar. Bills. I hike...

I dunno, I’m kinda an asshole, too. Thanks for the nice descriptors, though, 7w5. You’re still my hero. <3

Hey anesde, thanks for the advice! I mostly run for exercise, so it honestly hadn't even crossed my mind to do at-home workouts, but that would fix my problem. My exercise for the last year or so has been limited to running, biking, and hiking, so why not try something different? The jumping won't b...

@Crusader It probably is a bit ambiguous, especially taken out of context. The context here was the author struggling with accepting his homosexuality and looking for acceptance from his parents. As I read it, although we would like to think self-acceptance is entirely dependent on ourselves, in fac...

Good, I am not crazy. Not that I should care what others think (I still do), but it helps to know that I am not the only one. Read this just now and it made me think of your comment, Crusader: Self-acceptance is “a universal struggle we negotiate partly through the minds of others.” From Far From t...

Stahlmann wrote: ↑

Thu Dec 24, 2020 6:38 am

So many boobs, Stahlmann. So many.

Dude, if I am your metric for “not crazy”, I just... I mean, maybe we should both be re-examining things. Thanks for the good luck! As a woman who is going out of her way to be a single-parent while also still somehow clinging onto the possibility of retiring early, I need it.

@Crusader I get it, you’re speaking my language. I also would never entertain the idea of dating someone that isn’t an atheist (sorry, @Hristo, it just would never work! You’re happily married and I’m an unrepentant heathen that joyously bathes in sin every morning). My ex is also an atheist and has...

Yeah, I think the best general advice I could give you is that couples therapy is worth it. If I could do it over, I would have done couples therapy as soon as we decided to get married and then throughout the life of our marriage, even when things seemed good. We only went once we were trying to “s...

Hey Crusader. I haven't addressed that elsewhere, and it's a good question. I don't, however, think I'm in the right place to attempt publicly answering it in a way that would be fair to my ex. He's a wonderful man in his own ways and is no doubt asking himself similar questions.

I love the idea of "favorite" breakup songs. Haha, true, it sounds weird and like I'm a serial breaker-upper or something, when... this is actually my first breakup. :cry: @Crusader These days, I like to process emotions as they come and head-on. Wrt to the breakup, I like to allow myself...

Hit me with your favorite breakup songs. Currently stuck on Deana Carter’s “Did I Shave My Legs For This?”, which... might not resonate with most of y’all. Much obliged.

A Shrek look-alike that confidently sports clogs and plaid shorts?! 7w5, you just described my dream guy. Hopefully he's out there, somewhere, dreaming of a brunette with weak wrists that curses too [fuggin] much. Thanks for the tips on self-soothing and reminding me to cut myself some slack. I do g...

My ex moves out this week. He found a one bedroom a five minute drive away. We may or may not "nest," but it will be his space. I told him I'd give him $1,000/month to cover rent and utilities, continue paying for all of his essentials, and pay for half the cost of his new furniture. I am ...

I'm not worried about it being liquid, other than the fact it's not making any money. I don't really buy things and money doesn't burn a hole in my pocket. For instance, after the wire for $70k hit my checking yesterday, I was like, "I'ma celebrate!" So I went to a Jewish bakery and bought...