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by Jin+Guice
Wed Jan 27, 2021 12:25 pm
Forum: Friends & Family Questions
Topic: An ERE dating site
Replies: 232
Views: 17893

Re: An ERE dating site

@7: Sounds like you need to train your hoes more effectively. Cleaning AND cooking are both expensive. Maybe you're secretly into grouchy? Again, Deida's masc./ fem. framework is not about assigning those roles to biological men and women, it's about recognizing those characteristics in people and h...
by Jin+Guice
Mon Jan 25, 2021 11:49 pm
Forum: Friends & Family Questions
Topic: An ERE dating site
Replies: 232
Views: 17893

Re: An ERE dating site

@Crusader: I could shell out some advice, but what do you want? It sounds like something between a life partner and totally unrestricted polyamory? @7: Sounds like you need to upgrade your hoes. @jacob: I think it might be easier to attract like Wheaton levels depending on where you are. Attempting ...
by Jin+Guice
Mon Jan 18, 2021 4:04 pm
Forum: Friends & Family Questions
Topic: An ERE dating site
Replies: 232
Views: 17893

Re: An ERE dating site

@7: Ah so it's mostly economic benefit? I'm asking because I am interested in longterm girlfriends but not interested in getting married. Is it extremely difficult for them to leave you part of their estate while not getting married to you and still leaving some of their estate to former wives/ love...
by Jin+Guice
Mon Jan 18, 2021 3:12 pm
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: Buying a Tailored Suit
Replies: 13
Views: 668

Re: Buying a Tailored Suit

aptruncata wrote:
Sun Jan 17, 2021 8:35 pm
Would you be able to describe what that looks like or post a pic of your idea of perfection?
Uh, an obvious place to start that I had overlooked. Will look at the internet and get back to you. Thanks!

Thanks to everyone else who responded too!
by Jin+Guice
Mon Jan 18, 2021 3:11 pm
Forum: Friends & Family Questions
Topic: An ERE dating site
Replies: 232
Views: 17893

Re: An ERE dating site

@7: What are the privileges of marriage, as you define it, that the "long-term/ forever girlfriend," also as you define it, doesn't receive? @Crusader: A good woman is hard to find, but not like, that hard. You're getting dates right? It sounds to me like you have a filtering problem. From...
by Jin+Guice
Sun Jan 17, 2021 6:50 pm
Forum: Friends & Family Questions
Topic: An ERE dating site
Replies: 232
Views: 17893

Re: An ERE dating site

Sorry I'm late to the party y'all. Online dating is great. Dating online only widens your horizons. To my knowledge, it hasn't stopped drunken strangers from groping each other in the bar bathroom, only expanded the groping possibilities frontier. It biases those who are good at photography and thos...
by Jin+Guice
Sun Jan 17, 2021 6:18 pm
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: Buying a Tailored Suit
Replies: 13
Views: 668

Re: Buying a Tailored Suit

After re-reading the post @jacob linked to from @Kipling, I'll expand the topic: I want to have a baller suit that fits impeccably. The signaling stuff that @Kipling discusses is sincerely very interesting to me, but I am a faker who will never climb a corporate ladder and lives in a trailer on an u...
by Jin+Guice
Sun Jan 17, 2021 10:59 am
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: Buying a Tailored Suit
Replies: 13
Views: 668

Buying a Tailored Suit

The least ERE topic ever I know, but... This is the only community where I feel like my goals are actually understood and... I told myself I'd get a tailored suit (or perhaps a few) when I hit 6 figure NW and reached my goal weight and got roughly close to my ideal body composition and... Sometimes ...
by Jin+Guice
Sat Jan 02, 2021 1:10 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Semi-ERE Year 3 - Wanderlust Prevails
Replies: 916
Views: 195485

Re: Semi-ERE Year 3 - Wanderlust vs. W-O-R-K

+1 for the more of a weirdo you become you more weirdos you attract. Some of it is getting good at developing rapport and just talking to people outside your comfort zone, but for long lasting friendships some stuff can't be faked. Setting up your world to filter out people you don't want to interac...
by Jin+Guice
Fri Jan 01, 2021 3:36 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Semi-ERE Year 3 - Wanderlust Prevails
Replies: 916
Views: 195485

Re: Semi-ERE Year 3 - Wanderlust vs. W-O-R-K

Congrats on the low spending! Something that I've noticed as I've transitioned from Wheaton 5 to 6 is a shift in mindset on spending. I think around the Wheaton 4/5 border it becomes important to begin to embrace the idea that not spending money is not a sacrifice. Around the 5/6 border, I've found ...
by Jin+Guice
Fri Jan 01, 2021 3:11 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Damn it Feels Good to be a Gangsta
Replies: 240
Views: 51266

Re: Damn it Feels Good to be a Gangsta

@c_L: Thanks, I'm pretty excited, I couldn't have asked for a better situation. Re: Investing... In some ways I think you're right. I did index investing for 3.5 years and made a bunch of money from that, then became convinced by those here that everything was overpriced and cashed out. To keep some...
by Jin+Guice
Thu Dec 17, 2020 10:28 am
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Semi-ERE Year 3 - Wanderlust Prevails
Replies: 916
Views: 195485

Re: Semi-ERE Year 3 - Wanderlust vs. W-O-R-K

If I could summarize what I've hoped to add to the early retirement conversation it's "Make work part of your life, don't make your life part of work." This should be obvious, but work is our national (if not global) religion. Without context that's just some shit people in the suburbs wil...
by Jin+Guice
Wed Dec 16, 2020 12:53 pm
Forum: ERE Community
Topic: [ERE Skill Share] Bread Baking
Replies: 24
Views: 2740

Re: [ERE Skill Share] Bread Baking

Yo, I'm trying to get into bread baking, particularly sourdough and whole wheat. I'm also trying to learn how to make whole wheat rolls for veggie burgers. Any tips bread pros? Also, are the videos from this available anywhere? Thanks y'all.
by Jin+Guice
Wed Dec 16, 2020 12:50 pm
Forum: Skills & Tools Questions
Topic: Rainwater Harvesting
Replies: 3
Views: 391

Rainwater Harvesting

Does anyone have any experience with this? I'm trying to move the urban garden I live on towards getting all of it's water off the grid. We've got two large rain barrels and have a hook up to get more. Right now the water pressure isn't high enough to water the garden with them. Is there an easy sol...
by Jin+Guice
Wed Dec 16, 2020 12:46 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Just Gravy
Replies: 97
Views: 10390

Re: Just Gravy

On lighter note, you may have occasion to check yourself again on how highly you value Beauty if/when you find yourself on one of your first post-divorce online meet-and-greet dates and the guy who shows up looks a lot more like Shrek than in his photos. You might even re-evaluate your appreciation...
by Jin+Guice
Wed Dec 16, 2020 10:51 am
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Damn it Feels Good to be a Gangsta
Replies: 240
Views: 51266

Re: Damn it Feels Good to be a Gangsta

The last few months have been pretty wild for me. I broke up with my longtime girlfriend at the end of August (as always, the gory details are in the polyamory thread). We lived together so I had to move. I moved into a trailer on my friend's urban garden that I had been staying on part-time since t...
by Jin+Guice
Wed Dec 16, 2020 9:18 am
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Semi-ERE Year 3 - Wanderlust Prevails
Replies: 916
Views: 195485

Re: ERE Year 2 - Choose Your Own Adventure - Homeless and Confused Edition

Before y'all call me bad names and express your disappointment (*cough* J&G *cough*), hear me out. Nah dawg, the ease with which you returned to work (highly paid, in your old line of work, during a global pandemic no less) is just another argument for semi-ERE. Contrast your happiness now with...
by Jin+Guice
Sun Nov 29, 2020 11:13 am
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: Polyamory Support Group
Replies: 302
Views: 58232

Re: Polyamory Support Group

@7: I totally agree about the break-ups. I think I mentioned it in a previous post, but polyamory encourages not breaking up if you are getting anything from the relationship. The line between what is and isn’t dating can be confusing too. Your examples seem like productive secondary relationships t...
by Jin+Guice
Sun Nov 29, 2020 10:51 am
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Axel Heyst's Journal
Replies: 457
Views: 68792

Re: Axel Heyst's Journal

Hey man, glad you are doing well. I’m interested in your shipping container build, I am 80% sure I’m about to help build a small music production studio in a 40 ft container and a kitchen in another 40 ft container. I’m interested to hear any knowledge you gain from building yours/ playing around wi...
by Jin+Guice
Thu Nov 26, 2020 7:45 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Just Gravy
Replies: 97
Views: 10390

Re: Just Gravy

Hold up, is it a taco truck because it's a Tacoma or are you becoming a burrito entrepreneur? Also, why are you blaring some other song and not "Cocaine Country Dancing" in this fantasy?