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@7: Sounds like you need to train your hoes more effectively. Cleaning AND cooking are both expensive. Maybe you're secretly into grouchy? Again, Deida's masc./ fem. framework is not about assigning those roles to biological men and women, it's about recognizing those characteristics in people and h...

@Crusader: I could shell out some advice, but what do you want? It sounds like something between a life partner and totally unrestricted polyamory? @7: Sounds like you need to upgrade your hoes. @jacob: I think it might be easier to attract like Wheaton levels depending on where you are. Attempting ...

@7: Ah so it's mostly economic benefit? I'm asking because I am interested in longterm girlfriends but not interested in getting married. Is it extremely difficult for them to leave you part of their estate while not getting married to you and still leaving some of their estate to former wives/ love...

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Sun Jan 17, 2021 8:35 pm

Would you be able to describe what that looks like or post a pic of your idea of perfection?

Uh, an obvious place to start that I had overlooked. Will look at the internet and get back to you. Thanks!

Thanks to everyone else who responded too!

@7: What are the privileges of marriage, as you define it, that the "long-term/ forever girlfriend," also as you define it, doesn't receive? @Crusader: A good woman is hard to find, but not like, that hard. You're getting dates right? It sounds to me like you have a filtering problem. From...

Sorry I'm late to the party y'all. Online dating is great. Dating online only widens your horizons. To my knowledge, it hasn't stopped drunken strangers from groping each other in the bar bathroom, only expanded the groping possibilities frontier. It biases those who are good at photography and thos...

After re-reading the post @jacob linked to from @Kipling, I'll expand the topic: I want to have a baller suit that fits impeccably. The signaling stuff that @Kipling discusses is sincerely very interesting to me, but I am a faker who will never climb a corporate ladder and lives in a trailer on an u...

The least ERE topic ever I know, but... This is the only community where I feel like my goals are actually understood and... I told myself I'd get a tailored suit (or perhaps a few) when I hit 6 figure NW and reached my goal weight and got roughly close to my ideal body composition and... Sometimes ...

+1 for the more of a weirdo you become you more weirdos you attract. Some of it is getting good at developing rapport and just talking to people outside your comfort zone, but for long lasting friendships some stuff can't be faked. Setting up your world to filter out people you don't want to interac...

Congrats on the low spending! Something that I've noticed as I've transitioned from Wheaton 5 to 6 is a shift in mindset on spending. I think around the Wheaton 4/5 border it becomes important to begin to embrace the idea that not spending money is not a sacrifice. Around the 5/6 border, I've found ...

@c_L: Thanks, I'm pretty excited, I couldn't have asked for a better situation. Re: Investing... In some ways I think you're right. I did index investing for 3.5 years and made a bunch of money from that, then became convinced by those here that everything was overpriced and cashed out. To keep some...

If I could summarize what I've hoped to add to the early retirement conversation it's "Make work part of your life, don't make your life part of work." This should be obvious, but work is our national (if not global) religion. Without context that's just some shit people in the suburbs wil...

Yo, I'm trying to get into bread baking, particularly sourdough and whole wheat. I'm also trying to learn how to make whole wheat rolls for veggie burgers. Any tips bread pros? Also, are the videos from this available anywhere? Thanks y'all.

Does anyone have any experience with this? I'm trying to move the urban garden I live on towards getting all of it's water off the grid. We've got two large rain barrels and have a hook up to get more. Right now the water pressure isn't high enough to water the garden with them. Is there an easy sol...

On lighter note, you may have occasion to check yourself again on how highly you value Beauty if/when you find yourself on one of your first post-divorce online meet-and-greet dates and the guy who shows up looks a lot more like Shrek than in his photos. You might even re-evaluate your appreciation...

The last few months have been pretty wild for me. I broke up with my longtime girlfriend at the end of August (as always, the gory details are in the polyamory thread). We lived together so I had to move. I moved into a trailer on my friend's urban garden that I had been staying on part-time since t...

Before y'all call me bad names and express your disappointment (*cough* J&G *cough*), hear me out. Nah dawg, the ease with which you returned to work (highly paid, in your old line of work, during a global pandemic no less) is just another argument for semi-ERE. Contrast your happiness now with...

@7: I totally agree about the break-ups. I think I mentioned it in a previous post, but polyamory encourages not breaking up if you are getting anything from the relationship. The line between what is and isn’t dating can be confusing too. Your examples seem like productive secondary relationships t...

Hey man, glad you are doing well. I’m interested in your shipping container build, I am 80% sure I’m about to help build a small music production studio in a 40 ft container and a kitchen in another 40 ft container. I’m interested to hear any knowledge you gain from building yours/ playing around wi...

Hold up, is it a taco truck because it's a Tacoma or are you becoming a burrito entrepreneur? Also, why are you blaring some other song and not "Cocaine Country Dancing" in this fantasy?