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@7W5 Interesting point that blending provides access, is different than blind conformity, and is necessary to mingle with different people/groups. I agree. For me, that is just the entry point and I am curious who these other people are beyond the initial impression. So often, there does not seem to...

Our toilet had been taking up to three minutes to flush with the flapper not wanting to seal. When I was cleaning the bowl, I noticed the syphon hole (term learned from toilet schematics) was completely blocked with mineral buildup. After scraping out a few tablespoons of mineral deposit, it flushes...

46 = 17 + 15 + 14 I am pretty social and show up as myself due to sheer laziness. Still I feel judged as a bit of a weirdo/free spirit for not blindly conforming. (I get it, just don’t care to play. And when I have tried to assume some role, it turns out where I am miserable, recommit to myself, and...

@Sclass and @chenda I appreciate you sharing your experience with the mixed feelings of clearing out your folks’ houses and wish you peace as you continue the process. It certainly gives me pause, as it’s most likely not an “if” scenario but “when.” @jesmine A few things that color my perspective: 1...

Employment culture in the US, what a loaded topic! I agree with @suo about the transactional nature. Transaction = short-term focus, best-case goal of stability, worst-case goal of survival Transformation = long-term focus, goal of innovation/growth/actualization Then game theory is superimposed on ...

Oof, like others, I have cycled through numerous responses, yielding less than satisfactory outcomes. My favorite reply is “What exactly do you want to know?” Best-case scenario, I know where the conversation is headed and can respond accordingly. Worst-case (and also a win for me), they are flummox...

Just tagging onto what @Laura Ingalls said… I’d be curious which IQ test they were using and whether or not it was an abbreviated version (potentially less accurate). Also, I wonder about the sample: size as well as finding individuals who’d take the same test prior to COVID. Most adults haven’t tak...

As @basuragami said, you could get single rooms with shared bathrooms and the other hostels perks. Just a quick search: https://www.hostelworld.com/pwa/wds/s?q=Toronto,%20Canada&country=Canada&city=Toronto&type=city&id=67&from=2024-06-10&to=2024-06-17&guests=1&page=1 ...

@jp I think people who were anywhere between 6 and 20 during covid will be scarred for a long time. I was I firm believer in the moment that those who were locking down hard were severely underestimating the second order effects on the psyche of people. This is very obvious to me. They were robbed ...

Thanks, I appreciate the field notes from a fellow middle-aged empty nester. We did some Cabo and San José de Cabo (kite festival) vacations in ours 30s. Like you, I enjoyed the desert and ocean combination. Driving and camping the Baja always sounded wonderful, though it probably it’s not very safe...

I might be misunderstanding your question, but my current situation is not replicating my old codependent relationship with work. Due to doing a bunch of work on my codep patterns, I now a) believe in myself to the extent that I don't *need* validation hits from other people or organizations to fin...

I’ve been following along as you update. Would you repeat or go elsewhere next winter? What have you learned to optimize using AirBNB (It seems to be your preferred lodging option.)? Did you bus, fly, or drive?

Upthread you mentioned codependency with work. How does your current situation replicate that?

@chenda Wishing you and your family moments of peace… Just for fun, I checked out our local hospice’s website and learned I could save 10% over similar services at the hospital! I am beyond turned off. (Yes, I get that a nonprofit is simply another way to structure a business.) One must shop around ...

Hm…I am ever curious, if agency is highly valued, why self-selected termination is not discussed more. I think the biggest challenge would be timing, not ending things too quickly but not being trapped. A legal path would allow more choice of a gentle method supported by loved ones while decreasing ...

Well, f-in’ A, aging is sure an experience. For whatever reason I was thinking of winning a bikini contest at church camp when I was as 14 with 10 bandaids. Never again will life be so easy or my boobs so perky… Accepting life on its own terms…a task that hits us all at one point or another. Though ...

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Thu Feb 15, 2024 2:25 pm

What ever happened to Steven Covey’s concept of win-win? The older I get, the more anaphylactic I am to these dichotomous paradigms.

Yes, it would be good to get a firm idea of the time commitment and term length. What is the ratio of time spent on important things versus BS? I would also want to understand the composition of the board, to include tenure and turnover. Are there any conflicts or turf wars? (Are you expected to fix...

We become *identified with* the stories we tell ourselves about ourselves. The solution here is not to tell better stories. It is to let go of story. The needs will take care of themselves (so to speak) Yes and two more thoughts: 1) Many “needs” are actually “preferences.” 2) Identifying either, al...

There seems to be no incentive for older healthy people with the ACA. It is assumed that increased age means a host of medical issues. That is not necessarily true. There is no discount offered. Our denial is massive. Every living thing dies. Sometimes that living thing has a genetic, environmental,...