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by ertyu
Sat Jun 12, 2021 10:23 am
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: M2aS’ Journal
Replies: 30
Views: 2683

Re: M2aS’ Journal

"significant issues" is putting it mildly. transgender kids are one of the teen demographics with highest risk of death by suicide. stay strong and keep doing what you're doing :muscle:
by ertyu
Fri Jun 11, 2021 12:36 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: AE's Journal Round 5 - Finding Freedom To
Replies: 38
Views: 3041

Re: AE's Journal Round 5 - Finding Freedom To

Not an intj, so i don't know: would it help to think about how your chosen clothing and presentation style can be instrumental, or do you think that would compound the issue in that you'd rather be moving away from solely instrumental thinking as such? Also, I know what you mean by slug style is sti...
by ertyu
Fri Jun 11, 2021 8:02 am
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: M2aS’ Journal
Replies: 30
Views: 2683

Re: M2aS’ Journal

What's most important is that you are in her corner. Being able to come home to a place where she can be safe and affirmed will make a big difference. It's heartwarming to see that for every transphobic £%$£&^%7 who thinks "decisions" like that better be avoided there are also kind and...
by ertyu
Fri Jun 11, 2021 12:44 am
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Suomalaisen Päiväkirja
Replies: 583
Views: 119411

Re: Suomalaisen Päiväkirja

Strength and peace to your daughter. May she come out of this process whole and happy. You being a flexible, supportive, and understanding parent helps more than you think; just ask those who aren't supported and accepted. All the best for you all.
by ertyu
Fri Jun 11, 2021 12:38 am
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: A Jacob Mention
Replies: 65
Views: 2955

Re: A Jacob Mention

Das Kapital is also a critique of capitalism. Despite being such a boogeyman for most Americans, "communism" and "socialism" have never actually been properly defined (which is what makes them such good boogeyman/propaganda terms, but I digress). The Soviets themselves didn't kno...
by ertyu
Thu Jun 10, 2021 1:52 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: AE's Journal Round 5 - Finding Freedom To
Replies: 38
Views: 3041

Re: AE's Journal Round 5 - Finding Freedom To

@ertyu - That's good advice. I'll give some of those things a try. This issue always trips me up because worrying about individual aesthetic/identity always feels very neoliberal/postmodern/trapped in this particular milieu. Because these things "don't really exist" and weren't luxuries m...
by ertyu
Thu Jun 10, 2021 1:38 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: The Making of a Renaissance Hobo
Replies: 40
Views: 4190

Re: The Making of a Renaissance Hobo

Imo one of the biggest misconceptions americans have is that self-employment and starting your own business is capitalism. It can be, but only if you exploit people -- where for "exploit" we take the actual definition of the term, to pay them less than the value of what they produced for y...
by ertyu
Thu Jun 10, 2021 1:04 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: AE's Journal Round 5 - Finding Freedom To
Replies: 38
Views: 3041

Re: AE's Journal Round 5 - Finding Freedom To

The clothing one is an excellent one to work on because it's a concrete thing. As in, you can make very concrete tasks around it: 1. Choose a set of shoes 2. Wear just shoes somewhere low stakes, then increase the stakes. 3. Plan a coordinated outfit in new style and similarly plan outings or grocer...
by ertyu
Thu Jun 10, 2021 12:53 pm
Forum: Skills & Tools Questions
Topic: Methods and examples of highly developed social capital
Replies: 80
Views: 4299

Re: Methods and examples of highly developed social capital

@iDave really interesting. Do you (or anyone) have thoughts or observations on how to avoid being lonely old person? Any stories of elderly with no family who still managed to be socially engaged and in a support network through to their ends? symbiosis with other elderly. i have also heard of it b...
by ertyu
Fri Jun 04, 2021 9:48 am
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: disk_poets road towards semi-ERE
Replies: 69
Views: 5725

Re: disk_poets road towards semi-ERE

I’ve also decided to do 1 more year of therapy and actively work on my social/relationship skills. I talked to my therapist and we came up with a plan how to move out of therapy and try to cope on my own. It feels really great. It’s not that I dislike therapy… I find it VERY useful and helpful.. bu...
by ertyu
Fri Jun 04, 2021 5:57 am
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: guitar player's journal
Replies: 101
Views: 42932

Re: guitar player's journal

awesome mushrooms
by ertyu
Fri Jun 04, 2021 2:46 am
Forum: Money Questions
Topic: Can I retire with 4 children?
Replies: 81
Views: 3840

Re: Can I retire with 4 children?

The part I personally think isn't moral is for you to limit the personal development of your children just because you've chosen to limit your own by not engaging with the humanities or social sciences. To have the ability to give your children the opportunity to be bigger people but choose to delib...
by ertyu
Thu Jun 03, 2021 1:59 pm
Forum: Skills & Tools Questions
Topic: Methods and examples of highly developed social capital
Replies: 80
Views: 4299

Re: Methods and examples of highly developed social capital

In modern gyms everyone has headphones in 90%+ of the time and commercial gyms especially have virtually no sense of community. My last gym had some sense of community but even so I like to focus on my workout not chit chatting with people (I know it’s a personal problem). Talking to attractive gir...
by ertyu
Thu Jun 03, 2021 1:24 pm
Forum: Skills & Tools Questions
Topic: Methods and examples of highly developed social capital
Replies: 80
Views: 4299

Re: Methods and examples of highly developed social capital

There are often expat events one can join. Hikes, runs, etc. If you're religious, hitting up the local church etc. is a good bet. If you are new and going somewhere by yourself might be weird, you can team up with another person who is new and hit up a bar or another place where you can meet people....
by ertyu
Thu Jun 03, 2021 1:12 pm
Forum: Skills & Tools Questions
Topic: Methods and examples of highly developed social capital
Replies: 80
Views: 4299

Re: Methods and examples of highly developed social capital

Additional observations I have on asking questions (I'll aim for 10): 1. This is common knowledge for most people, but make your questions open-ended. Reduce the number of questions that can be answered by a simple yes/no unless you follow up. E.g. Did you end up going to (that thing you mentioned l...
by ertyu
Thu Jun 03, 2021 4:09 am
Forum: Work & Education
Topic: How will you evaluate this job offer
Replies: 23
Views: 1333

Re: How will you evaluate this job offer

You could also take the job and be very intentional about how you want to use it. For instance, if you feel like you can take it or leave it, you can set the conscious intention to set boundaries. You can use it as a site for saying no practice. Or for "I don't give in to jerks" practice. ...
by ertyu
Wed Jun 02, 2021 4:09 am
Forum: Work & Education
Topic: How will you evaluate this job offer
Replies: 23
Views: 1333

Re: How will you evaluate this job offer

I would personally take this job, do the minimum time the industry sees as "decent," and leverage the nicer title and broader experience into getting another, better paid job with less of a clown for a boss. Whether this is what you should do, though, depends on you. You know the job will ...
by ertyu
Wed Jun 02, 2021 2:33 am
Forum: Skills & Tools Questions
Topic: Methods and examples of highly developed social capital
Replies: 80
Views: 4299

Re: Methods and examples of highly developed social capital

Perhaps it is the difference between doing something to get something vs. doing something to build something. In this case building a friendship where social capital is a fringe benefit rather than the goal. This is often complicated by the fact that even if people don't deliberately set out to &qu...
by ertyu
Tue Jun 01, 2021 1:46 pm
Forum: Skills & Tools Questions
Topic: Methods and examples of highly developed social capital
Replies: 80
Views: 4299

Re: Methods and examples of highly developed social capital

Readinh AH's post above, it struck me that the reason why my social skills are underdeveloped is that part of me sees social skills as something manipulative, and being manipulative is a core anti-value of mine. So when AH says, "how to act to get what I want," my first reaction for some r...
by ertyu
Mon May 31, 2021 1:50 pm
Forum: Health Questions
Topic: What Do You Eat for Weight Loss?
Replies: 356
Views: 77197

Re: What Do You Eat for Weight Loss?

Relevant podcast episode: https://youtu.be/GqPGXG5TlZw?t=361 How to Lose Fat with Science-Based Tools | Huberman Lab Podcast #21