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Yup, what you're saying about how your parents will react checks out. In my corner of post-socialist bumfuck nowhere land, we have a saying that goes, "On someone else's back, 100 lashes seem too few." Right now, the lashes are on your back. The benefit is on theirs -- they get to look goo...

Excellent suggestion to get your company to pay for those.

Good job kicking ass, your last post is sounding great.

Seems like the things they pointed out are all the communication/interviewing/people skills part -- to me the feedback you shared sounded like they thought you were technically fine, but another candidate came across more personable. So you're right, interviewing training -- coming across as persona...

So here's a weird suggestion about the loneliness: at home, when you are at peace, lie down somewhere calm-inducing (dim light if you like it, weighted blanket if you have one and enjoy it, etc, just enjoy), put on a timer for 15 min, and then attempt the following: call up the state you wish your b...

Good luck with this new start, fingers crossed it'll work out well and you'll be fulfilled. About whether what you're doing to support your neurodivergence is or isn't ERE, imo it's important to remember ERE doesn't mean "minimize everything to the greatest extreme you're available", it me...

"I'm unemployed but I used to XYZ" worked for me when I was off for Covid when it came to casual acquantances. This allows people to feel comfortably superior to you, checks out with the behaviors they observe (second hand clothes, etc.), and because it is a negative topic, it's a topic ot...

As someone without children but who has been burned out to all fuck, taking 2 weeks off won't be enough. You'll just be dragging it on. Quit for an extended period and except the delay, then reevaluate, or spend 30 min every night feeling yourself healed by a white light that meanders round your bod...

Separating "work" from one's identity is plenty interesting, I for one would be very interested to read your thoughts and experiences around that

Good work on selecting and achieving a target, and solving money as a problem. Congratulations on accomplishing this stage!

The "optimization" needs to be intuitive, i.e., you need to know what you want (WL7->WL8). Fuck! Would you (as in, the plural you), argue this is counterproductive at earlier levels? I'm sloshing around WL 4-ish doing "intuitive optimization:" low on spreadsheets and tracking, h...

Try bogleheads.org as well - it seems to me they are the people who will be able to advise you best.

At 42 years old and still working, I would be much more worried about looking back 20-30 years from now and realizing that I was afraid for nothing and squandered the remaining years away worrying about the minutia of WR calculations vs. figuring out what I want out of life. Valid, and an excellent...

The good news is that each year that you still work, you can subtract 12k or 8k from the 600k or 400k, respectively - because you will be one year older :) so it will converge rather quickly. This is my personal back of the envelope theory, is that if extreme early retirement is maybe hard, less ex...

Have you considered just slowly eating through the principal? What's the point of dying with all that money anyway? Assuming you don't want to live longer than e.g. 100 years old, your withdrawal rate could be much higher. It's really surprising for me that such an obvious idea is rarely discussed ...

This made me chuckle. Are we having a 3D surface for all the allo to ace + the entire alphabet soup of gender and sexuality orientations too? Or how are we handling that bit?

Good job on your progress, 10cents. Almost there. And I feel you on peace being my main want right now.

ertyu, I appreciate the feedback. Truly, I do. I think all too often parents get their kids involved in activities, with the best of intentions, only to cause more harm than good by going “try hard”. On a level, even if you're not a loser like my father, it's natural: parents are worried, this is t...

If you call your place "trash", don't pay tax on it, and keep postponing repairs, that's three clear signs that you're not cut out to be a home owner. That happens a lot, it's quite common to get attracted to real estate for the wrong reasons! I'd learn the lesson, sell the place, and for...

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Sun May 05, 2024 3:22 am

I can translate the ERE book to Spanish for DW's family

Now this is a brilliant idea -- culminates in actual output and is an actual project one can chunk and complete + meaningful to others

Seemingly random question, but on the second paragraph I quoted...and I have no idea how far down the vipassana path you've gone, but do you think you are in dark night of the soul territory (in the Daniel Ingram, pragmatic dharma sense of the phrase)? Thanks for chiming in, Dave, excellent point. ...

On DD: Making exercise into a positive time you spend together to bond will serve her well for life. I'm what happens otherwise. Good dadding. Im sure you don't need told, but: make sure you keep the time positive - this is not where to bring up your concerns about areas you find her lacking, lectur...